Decisions! decisions!

How is everybody and how are they going with their pregnancies/TTC/thinking about it etc...

As I have written in my blog, we have had some undeniably stupid ideas of changing donors due to the new one living closer and it would be 'easier' but somehow we knew it was all wrong. Especially after speaking with our original donor in Sydney and he was just so good with everything that has happened so far. I was a bit happy to hear this morning that the donor in Mackay had backed out due to fear of paying maintenance and he also said that he wasn't interested in any contact at all after conception. Well that just made us so happy that we didn't make the mistake of going with him. Our donor in Sydney may be a bit further away than we would like but there is no 'issues' with him and he is open to seeing the child later just to catch up now and then as we have stated in the contract. I became worried about my cycle not behaving and the timing of everything but after AF arrived this morning right on cue I dont feel that way at all anymore, I just need to learn to chill out. By the timing of my cycle at the moment we will be doing our first round mid december which brings us right through christmas with the 2 week wait! Getting too excited I think lol. Selena seems to think things will be cruisy for us....I hope she's right!

So what kind of names have you all chosen if any yet? Would love to hear.

Talk to you later....where has everyone been...this forums been so quiet!

bye for now,

Leanne

Hey Leanne!
I totally agree, it has been SO quiet in here lately!!
I'm so excited for you guys getting to start in December!! Good luck! Although I'm sure you wont need it, I'll be having my fingers and toes and stuff crossed for you!
Well I'm not even starting to TTC until around May next yr, but I've had names picked out forever - Lily Elizabeth for a girl and Hayden Jacob for a boy. I'm so so excited and I've still got so long to wait! Lucky the months are always flying by hey, hopefully it goes fast for you guys and me!
See you!
Jess

Hi there Leanne and kitty kat
Soo excited that you guys are getting ready to conceive! :cheer:
Leanne, go with your gut and even if your Sydney donor is a bit harder to get to, if he feels right then you sound like you will be better off with him. Things happen for a reason, one of our original 'potential' donors made things so easy for us originally that we were absolutely going to use him, but both of us kept finding reasons to put it off because in our hearts we didn't think he was the right one. As it turns out now, totally the right decision, as he is not so easy to get along with as we originally thought!
I need to read your blog, I think, to keep up with what's going on with your TTC journey!
We have pretty much settled on Ella Bea for a girl and Charlie Kurtis for a boy, but it remains flexible until squishy makes his/her appearance.....

Aww SALLY2 Ella Bea is a gorgeous name and I love Charlie for a boy, very cute little mans name! I like boys names for girls like Dylan. Selena loves Ezekiel for a boy and I also love that too as well as Elijah, biblical names are lovely I think. I love and will probably stick with Keina Jade for a girl. Keina is aboriginal for moon and we think its gorgeous.

KITTYKAT Lily is beautiful. We had some twins at work born last week named lily and amber, just so happens amber had the amber coloured hair and lily blonde, mum and dad didnt realise til they took off their little hats. I thought that was just cute.

I wrote this in my blog too but today I bought a few singlets and jumpsuits on special, we already discussed collecting a few things here and there when we see something worth getting in preparation but today I just had to do it. We are making up a 'baby box'. Just dont wana go silly and buy too much before we even conceive!! Do you think that sounds silly or we are tempting fate? Oh well, it feels good and they are just adorable!

Talk to you later girls,

Leanne :D

Hi Leanne!
Well if you buying a few jumpsuits and singlets is tempting fate then I am never ever going to get pregnant because I have already bought heaps more than that! I can't help myself...... I'm obsessed! As someone else on these forums said "if you build it the baby will come!" which I think is a really sweet thing to say, so I'm going with that! hehe :)

I like the name Amber and I love the name Elijah too. I know a beautiful boy with that name! I love names like Dylan for girls names too!

See you :)
Jess

I don't think you can go over board buying while TTC. I took DH and I four years and I realised the other day that I was putting a body suit on DS that I bought 3 years ago, long before he was a blip on our fertility radar. It just made me really appreciate he was here even more because I remember what it felt like looking at the suit when I bought it and imagining my child in it. I agree with Jess that if you buy it the baby will come, ;).

Thanks ladies, that sounds like good advice to me. If you believe something will happen enough, it just comes into your life so it should be the same with our future baby! :D

Hi Everyone,

We are new to this site, and have been TTC since Feb 08. We have recently decided to change our donor, and have since then decided to change birth mum also.

We went through a kind of creepy experience when our experienced known donor - from Sydney became decidedly weird. We saw him soon after one of the couples he had helped had a baby, and he ran around excited that he was a father and had a new baby. That was a bit unsettling, and then he proceeded to talk in a way that sounded kind of cult-ish about wanting to father so many children, and for everyone to all be friends and visit with each other. So after some intense discussion we decided that we would look elsewhere.

Our second donor was much younger and very eager to help, but turned out to have fertility issues of his own. So that was a big disappointment for everyone.

After further investigation into the fertility laws of SA we found out that I can access Reproductive technology cos I have PCOS (diagnosed at age14). It was at this point we decided to change birth mums, and to go through a clinic.

We are currently waiting for our first appointment there and are hoping :pray: that we will have success!

Good luck to everyone with their baby plans :D

K & J

Hi ladies,

I know the dramas choosing a donor can bring. The story of the older experienced donor sounds familiar, I am sure we had discussions with him ourselves and had the same ideas, if his initials is JM he has been on a current affair and has over 50 children out there who he wants to all become friends. That would be fine if it was an independent decision of the mums but he sounds quite pushy. Our donor we chose in the end is also from Sydney and fantastic to chat to, very open and respects us as a couple a great deal. Only 2 mths until we have our first try so fingers crossed!

I hope that the clinic decision goes well for you, keep us updated :-)

HI all, although i have not posted on this site for some time I have remained an intermittent lurker. It is now about 18 months since we started ttc i had gotten so disheartened and obsessed with allthings ttc and baby-related (which was not helped by the fact that my work place is full of babies!)that i needed a bit of a break from bb. Welcome to those who have joined since i've not been around HI especially to Nurse27- I notice you are in Adelaide and so am I. I am curious about your experience re. accessing reproductive technology services in SA. Are you going with Flinders IVF or Repromed and what has your experience so far been like? My Dp and I started ttc with a known donor in may 2007 and other than a brief BFP and very early miscarriage/?chemical pregnancy in Nov 2007 we hav had nothing but BFNs. In may this year we had our first appt at repromed. What we know to date is that although our donor has lots of swimmers his motility is not great and he has a very high number of swimmers with abnormal morphology. Additionally, I have a short luteal phase and low progesterone levels. We considered changing donors but for a whole heap of reasons have decided not to. Our donor has been taking menevit. I have been on clomid and then pregnyl injections and am also having accupuncture! We have been ploughing through the various blood test, ultrasounds and the mandatory counselling sessions for us and our donor and more recently the 3 of us together! His sperm has been frozen and quarrantined for 3 months and he is about to have repeat bloods done...all this before we even get to an assisted cycle! The slowness of the whole process has been really frustrating, made worse by my own paranoia about my age (36 and a half!). Repromed dr has encouraged us to keep trying ourselves as it is not impossible for us to conceive ourselves but we didn't in the last couple of months as i just could not face more BFNs. This month, with most of the tests and all the counselling sessions behind us I feel more settled and positive and we are again doing our oen inseminations at home. At this stage we are unlikely to be able to start our first ICSI (which is what we need) cycle until Jan 2009. Anyway, that was a long ramble re where things are up to with me and with some renewed hope I plan to be a bit more active again on BB

Hi Drgirl! It has been a long time since we have seen you around here. The last we heard was when you told us you had a BFP so am very sorry that it didn't stick. I had one of those in a past relationship and its difficult to decide whether it was a early miscarriage or something else, very confusing. I can imagine what an exhaustive journey this has been for you so hopefully positive changes will take place from here on in. We are finally all organised to ttc in december with our known donor, it would be just dreamy if things worked out the first time but we are prepared for a long road not to be disappointed. I know what its like having babies all around you at work so it is difficult to keep your mind focused, I will be working in special care in a few weeks for 8 weeks so that will be even worse! Anyway, good luck with a BFP soon!