wondering thought about conceiving

I am 23 and recently married to a wonderful husband and we are both Christian.

We both waited til marriage to have sex which is something we both wanted to do. I lost my mom when I was 10 and I knew she would have wanted me to wait. I was lucky enough ( in this day and age ) to find a wonderful man who was also waiting. Maybe this was a blessing from my mom.

We are now starting to think about a family but my question is and doing some reading on conception is that if a woman needs to have a orgasm in order to concieve. I read that when a woman has a orgasm, that her uterus contracts which pushes the sperm into the uterus and this is how conception happens.

It's been about 5 months and I don't think I have experienced a orgasm so I am feeling down and depressed that this might avoid me from getting pregnant.

Please help, sorry about the TMI but I don't know who I can turn too. I tried a nurse but when I was about to open up, I was too embarrised and avoided the question


Cathy

Hi Cathy, no you don't need to orgasm. I think it can aid the sperm, but it's not necessary. Infact, if you were to gender sway for a girl, you would be advised NOT to orgasm!

Wishing you all the best in TTC :)

you dont have to orgasm at all... just have sex :) try and relax a little bit.. good luck!!

Im preg with my 3rd and never once orgasmed to conceive any of them!

baseballwifecathy - hi there :hug:. I also never have an orgasm when we have sex (we do other stuff). I understand the down feeling about it. I thought it would happen magically for us, and it just never did. We are also both christians. But from what I have read, having an orgasm isnt necessary. I can help to push more sperm into the uterus, but not having an orgasm doesnt mean you can't fall pregnant.

Give yourself lots of time to relax and have fun with sex before penetration if you can, because arousal fluid helps the sperm swim up to your uterus and also maintains a good ph balance down there (some of the experts in here might correct me if im wrong!).

Come and say hi in the christian threads and TTC threads, the girls there are awesome :).

Hi Baseballwifecathy,

My sister got married at 21 and as we come from a Chrisitan family, she waited til marriage also. She tried for 1 year before she finally fell pregnant with her first and in the meantime she went to visit a naturopath who specialises in fertility as she thought there was something wrong. Anyway she now has 3 children with the last one borne when she was 34! so take it slow, and don't worry if you don't fall straight away either. By the way as all the other ladies have advised you don't need to orgasm to fall pregnant, except if you are gender selecting and your wanting a boy, then you should orgasm first. Its all up to God anyway, as we know, and when you ask you shall recieve! Goodluck

Oscaroscar - where is the chrisitan threads I can't seem to find them?

thanks

Mannie - Find us here: https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums/christianity/ ;)

I've never heard about orgasms determining the sex of the baby! That's interesting. what is the theory behind that?
Good luck TTC Cathy :)
Mannie The Christian thread is a sub forum in the spirituality and religion forum. go to the main forum site and scroll down to heath home and lifestyle, its in there :)

Beat me Trish! And your's is easier to understand!:p

Welcome to BB baseballwifecathy! You've already received some wonderful advice here about TTC.
I actually just wanted to recommend a book to you (and if you'd like, I can mail it to you! I haven't opened it in a long time!) It's a christian book called 'Intended for Pleasure' and it was written by a christian doctor and his wife, Ed and Gaye Wheat, and its about sexual fulfillment in christian marriage. It may or may not be relevant to you...
As with any book, there are things I take on and things I don't agree with so I just leave them behind. In any case, I found it really interesting, it could be a useful tool for helping you and DH communicate and there's a whole chapter on the pre-orgasmic wife :) Some tips, anatomy, and most importantly, they relate it back to how God created us.
I'm sorry if this sounds condescending - that's not my intention.
I wish you all the very best. And please let me know if you'd like me to post it to you.

Just to throw a spin on this, a rather interesting fact....

Up until the early 1900's it was assumed that a woman HAD to orgasm in order to concieve. Thus a rape case would not be considered as such under the courts if a child had been concieved after a rape.

Hi all

My husband went on business today til next Thursday feeling down


Would love to talk, I am on yahoo messenger


We share as we have a wonderful open communication and the internet is so dangerous, this way it's all in the open and that is why I use my husband's nickname

agree internet is so dangerous should not just go inviting anyone and everyone to chat as this forum is open for anyone to view

Hi Cathy, how are you doing?
Sorry, I am not on messenger, so I couldn't jump on to chat. I do hope you'll stick around the forum though and join in on our discussions.
Hope you're doing alright :)

You def dont need to orgasm to get pregnant. Many women never experience orgasm in thier life. I think if you do happen to orgasm then it can aid conception thats all