2.5 year old TERRIFIED of poop!

Hiya all, wondering if anyone can help me on this one...

Im toilet training Abby, everything is going great but the poos are a disaster. She will hold on till she gets a nappy on for her nap or if we have to pop out or twice now she has done it in her pants.

This morning she was talking about needing to do one. She did a wee in the toilet perfect as usual but no poop. We got off when back to what we were doing and she was still talking about needing to go so i took her again and she wouldn't do anything.

2 mins later i check her pants and there it was. I just took her little hand and we walked to the toilet and i pulled down her knickers and started cleaning her up to sit her on but then she looked down, saw the poop in her knickers and went crazy! She was kicking and screaming, shaking violently and totally freaking out like never before. The poo ended up on the floor, up the walls and on the toilet. I took her into the bathroom to get cleaned up and her foot was covered in poo and she was shaking and sobbing. It was really terrible.

Almost a year ago she was having nappy off time and accidentally did a little bit and she freaked out then too... it was so long ago i thought she might be over it by now. She has done one poo in the toilet. I realised she had just started and this time she didnt see the tiny bit in her pants and was happy enough after doing the rest in the toilet.

Has anyone got any suggestions on how to help? We congratulate her on doing poos and say silly things like poos are fun and that type of stuff ever since the 1st episode. I show her the poo when i change her nappy so she knows there is nothing to be worried about but all that obviously didnt work. I just know shes hanging on to it now.

Its all my fault too.. the time she had the accident with the nappy off i panicked :(

Oh Emz it hard to know what to do isn't it, you are obviously trying everything you know. While I am personally yet to go through it my sister had a problem with her little boy & poos. He needed to have a nappy to do them as well until he was 3/4. I think some kids are just like that cause she didn't have any problems with her eldest. In the end she didn't make a big deal of it & he started to do them on the toilet in his own time. I have heard of other kids taking their sweet time with number 2's as well.

Good luck I hope things settle for you soon.

Try not to make a big issue of it and try again in a few weeks. Even as far as not talking about it if she does one in her nappy or knickers. Clean her up and not try to show any emotion (upset/dissapointment etc).
I know that's hard (Angus had major TT regression when Caleb was born and pooed in his pants every day) but if you act like it is no big deal then hopefully she will get over any issue she has with it herself IYKWIM.