Coping Strategies..

Good Morning!

DH is going away on a camping trip on the weekend - I think that is great and he deserves to spend time with his mates and enjoy himself BUT I have an issue..

I REALLY struggle when he is away- I used to b fine BEFORE being Preg - I would miss him but I could enjoy my own company. Now I find that Im a blubbering mess from the second that he leaves till the second he gets back - and its no fun for me and I know it makes DH not have as good a time as he deserves.
Its only for a few nights - SNAP OUT OF IT WOMAN AND GET A GRIP - but I find I cant! I know its prob just being preg and it makes you all over the place emotionally - but I cant help it.
Does anyone feel like this when preg or a I a weirdo?? I even start to get upset days b4 he goes away - so much so that I woke up in tears last night just becase I know whats coming!

Thanks for listening! Any coping strategies would be greatly appreciated!

Love Kate

got no advice huni just wanted to give you :hug:
take care
rach xxxx

Thanks Rach!!! I appreciate it!!
BB maybe just be my saviour over the weekend perhapse!!
Kate

Oh darl big :hug::hug::hug:
This did happen to me when I was pregnant with my last DS. Not this excatly but when My DH left the house in the morning Early as he was a dairy farmer, then I wouldnt be able to sleep, I would start getting freeked out and just totally flip. I would start crying for no reason. In the end I would have to get up and go lay down on the couch and watch tv for a distraction. This happened everymorning and I have no idea why.
You are definatly not a weirdo, it will be the pregnancy.
Is there anyone who could come and stay with you for the weekend. Maybe a girlfriend and you can make it into a girlee weekend and watch movies or things like that?

well i feel a similar way when my DH goes away for the whole weekend but its more to do with having a 2 year old that i have to look after the whole weekend by myself. its fine during the week but i really look forward to the weekend when he is here to help out as well. just have to try and snap yourself out of it! :-) maybe if you go to your friends place, the the movies or do something special yourself the time will go by faster.

not a prob, im online most of the time so if you wana talk send me a pm.
hope you and bub are ok and try not to stress to much huni.
:hug: huni
take care
rach xxx

Krissy - I do this also! As soon as he leaves the house to go away I will instantly start to have a panic attack and it gets to the point where I have to get out of the house and be where ppl are! I never used to be like that!!

Hollo - yeah I tell my self to JUST SNAP OUT OF IT WOMAN! And sometimes it works but other times it has no effect!!

Rach - thanks Ill be sure to take you up on that offer if I do get one line!!

I think I will try and make a few appointment for sat like get my nails done and get a preg massage - have some me time and see how I go.
I have my cousins 21st on the sat night so that will help occupy me for a while - its when I get home that i freak out - ill just get the dogs to sleep on the bed with me and keep my campany!!
Thanks ladies!

Hun, think of lots of ways to pamper yourself, and of all the things you "mean" to do when you have time. Set out a plan to do at least one pamper thing, and achieve one thing (at least) from your to-do list every day. Also, try and get some human contact each day - a coffee or other outing with a friend, have some-one visit, pop-in to see a neighbour or if all else fails, go shopping and strike up a conversation with a sales assistant. This adult contact makes a huge difference hun. Oh and of course, spend time on BB and feel connected to the world!

All the best hun. I am sure you will get through this, and hopefully even enjoy having a bit of time to yourself.

Hi kafer_girl,

If you are not normally like this then it definitely sounds like it's the hormones playing havoc with you and you are definitely not a weirdo. Some of the ladies have suggested having someone over at your place or are you able to stay at your mum's/sisters/friends place & make a night of it??
The other thing I can suggest is something creative to be able to express yourself & feelings, do you paint/knit/sew?? maybe you could do something for your little one?? Maybe max out the creditcard on stuff for the nursery? :lol:
Goodluck I hope you find a distraction & if I am online feel free to PM & we can go & chat etc...

:hug:

HEy Kate,

I am in the same situation as you. Dh has been working long hours over the past 2 months (430am til 8pm) then hes been away a few times over the weekends on boys weekends. i dont care so much that hes going away, but I just miss him. Now hes on a week long trip to the snow. Has been gone since Sunday. Everytime he calls me I end up in tears. I just spent 2 nights at mums, but I like to be home, so dd and I can have our own environment. Youre not weird, its normal...hormones.

Hugs to you:)

Pregnancy does weird things to us, all those hormones, you're not weird, don't worry. I feel like I have been more clingy to DH since being pregnanct but I think it's because I have been worried after having a m/c and I don't know I feel like I need him around to calm me down!! lol. So I would be just like you if he went away for a weekend I think.

There's been some great suggestions on here, keep yourself busy!!

Hi there,

I can totally understand how you feel.

I am currently away from my husband for a conference and I hate every minute I have to be away. It's making me all tearful and stressy and just a mess.

And my husband has suddenly had to go away himself, so he'll leave the day I get back (currently trying to schedule his flights so he can at least be at my ultrasound appointment the day I get home). We'll overlap by a few hours only and he'll be away for nearly a month.

I'm totally stressed out by this. But then I know it's fair, and it will be harder for him to do this stuff next year when the baby arrives. And I'm a grown woman and will cope. It's got to be at least partly my hormones making me so upset about it.

My suggestions: spend time with your dogs (I see from your sig you have two - great), and horses (I don't have horses but I imagine they are as reassuring as dogs can be). Do positive, constructive things like gardening, dogwalks, reading reassuring books, watching old funny films. Spend time with your family or friends (as long as they are more relaxing than stressful in themselves).

At least that is what I plan to do while he's away. I hope it works.