Putting it off??

Hi all,

DH and I are planning to start TTC in December. I really need some pre-conceptual care time to get myself completely on track healthwise before we do! Lose 6kg, start on the folate, get B12 stores nice and good (am vegan) etc etc.
This week DH has said it looks like he will have to be in the US for a month from mid-Feb - what a pain!
So, my question is (and it might not belong here) Do you think we should put off TTC altogether until he's back? Or just go for it, knowing that it may vry well not happen in those first two cycles? One friend reckons it would be so terrible to be UTD and alone that we should wait. I don't really know. What do you guys think?

Cheers!

i would wait, cause i am a sook and would want DH there with me while i am suffering from m/s. GL hope you get pregnant quickly

i'm only TTC #1 so i don't speak from experience but if he's only going for a month, then i wouldn't wait. i wouldn't like to be alone for more than a month but for me, a month would be do-able (not great, but okay!).

the only thing i'd look at would be the timing & work out that if you did end up being UTD from either cycle 1 or 2, then would DH miss something like the 1st US/ob appt - because i'd hate for my DP to miss those - more for him than me, iykwim? the other thing would be that i wouldn't want my DP to miss the +ve test - i'd rather he was with me than me have to tell him over the phone!

you could start using a site like fertility friend to work out your cycles (if you're not already) & then you could see timings a bit better.

but good luck whichever way you decide to go :goodluck2:

Haha, I have already worked out a rough timing, and looks like we will be DTDing at the airport! He hasn't given me exact dates yet though!

I did my fair share of thinking myself lately, and i come to the conclusion that there is never the right time, life always throws something unexpected at you... and then what ? so i thought what the eck...
besides - i would be happy to have you around in December, i have to admit, as that is also my month when we will be starting ...:redface:

All the best ! i am sure you will be fine either way, one month is not a big deal...out of a life time....always look at the big picture ...