Would you wear a white top to a wedding??

We have a wedding this upcoming weekend and after shopping for 4 hours and having back-ache and sore feet I only found TWO tops!! :( :(

I am extreamly fussy when it comes to dressing up and seeing that pg-clothes are everywhere :rolleyes: , the pickings were quite slim.

One is a little body-hugging black number that comes up to mid-thigh (wearing black pants underneath) and show off my bump really nice. I actually like this, but I still have to fit it for DH and he has to "sign off" on it. :lol: I am also calling friends to hear if they have a nice throw for my shoulders as it's a short-sleeve and this wedding is in the Karoo and it's still darn cold.

The other one is an extreamly classy white top, that in a princess cut and have nice hand-stiched leave-pattern on it. It fits nice and looks real pretty .. but I am not sure if wearing white to another girl's wedding is cool?????

Would you wear a white top to a wedding??? I don't know the bride (hardly knows the groom ... DH's friend) but I still don't want to be the tarty-pg-biatch that wore white, kwim???

LMAO - one of my cousins wore a white suit to my wedding! I do feel that only the bride should wear all white, but a white top should be OK.

Just so long as she isn't getting married in ivory and wanted it to look white, because then you'll show her up for having a non-white dress! But who is going to really notice a white top if you're covering most of it up (say with a jacket because it's cold). And you're not going to be hugging her in the photos by the sound of it either.

I think all the rules for dressing for weddings have gone now. You don't see so many hats these days either. And what with wedding dresses being all crimson and gold and pink (I like white!) then you can't just blanket ban every colour that the dress could be.

Good luck, I hope your DH likes the first dress so there's not a worry for you.

I like white. Not a fan of all white at a wedding as a guest, but a white top should be great! Versatile too. With a pretty skirt, and even a nice scarf/wrap/shawl/whatever, and some colourful accessories, and it's won't seem too stark or bridal at all.

LOL Rhyn .. I had a girl that wore a off-white suit to my wedding!!! Actaully, funny story, she was my then-boss's daughter, went to school with her - did not like her, did not like her at all and did not invite her, but she came with the guy who is getting married this weekend!!! :rofl:

I hope DH like the black one too ;) I would just LOVE the oppertunity to show off my bump.

I know rules regarding wedding have changed so much, but I am still one that thinks, even if the bride is in all the colours of the rainbow, that white it a bride-only thing.

I'll play pg-model for DH tonight and hear what he thinks ;)

LOL, I'm kinda relaxed about this sort of thing.......whatever takes your fancy I reckon. But hey, I got married in red, so who's going to listen to me? :P

:lol: Janie .. I almost got married in deep wine-red. Got cold feet in the last month, because DH made an off-hand comment about brides in colour and how he is looking forward to see me in my WHITE dress :o :o and it bugged me for like 3 dreams in a row and I phoned the ppl I was hiring my dress with and said "STOP!!!!!! Make it WHITE!!!!!!! " Lucky for me they had the exact same dress already made in virgin-white :rolleyes: as if (lucky my size), so I just changed my order ... pheww!

I wouldnt worry too much about a white top, especially if you arent teaming it with a white skirt (which i am sure you're not :)). What ever you feel comfy in and makes you look gorgeous. P.S - I love showing off my bump too.

I have a wedding to go to in november and i will be 37 weeks pg. I actually asked if i could wear a sheet :ROFL: - i will be wearing whatever will fit. Have a great time xoxo

I dont see any issues with a white top...most guys will prob be wearing white shirts! I would just stear clear of white dresses or white skirt/white top combinations!

Hi,

Well I would have to say no. I remember at one wedding sil was wearing a white dress, actually i think she's worn it to a few and I thought at the time oh she's wearing a white dress and it didn't seem wrong...I think the style of the dress helped I think it was a cue dress so not bride like. However, I would say that lots of brides might not like it and you won't know if this is one of the brides that would mind and even though it might be silly to some it is their day and I suppose as their guest I wouldn't want to do anything to upset them just my opinion though

Personally I'd go the black rather than white. We had two people show up to our wedding in white dresses (both extended family members - one from each side). It didn't bother me so much on the day, but looking back at photos it does look a bit funny IYKWIM? Ask your hubby what he thinks since you don't really know the bride that well, she might be a total bridezilla and freak out at someone else wearing white :dunno:

Though if you wear a different coloured skirt and maybe a jacket or a shawl or something that makes the white stand out less that might work.

I think a white top is fine. Unless you are also wearing a veil! LOL. But seriously it would be fine. Both sound great though and I know what you mean about showing off your bump. :)

Ok, so I got all tuffed up about modelling in my "bump" for DH .. turns out he is sick and just slopped down in bed after he got home and went straight to snoring :( :( Aww well, I'll catch him and dd directly after work today ... see what he thinks.

Jas, Mum3Girls - that is exactly what I thought ... I won't wear a white dress or top&skirt, but I don't know her and really it's her day. I can see how the pictures will look, well, weird with other women also in white dresses. See the bugger is ... DH don't know the bride also :lol: She went to school with us, but are a few years younger and I don't remember her and he doen'st either ... so I don't have a CLUE as what she will take personally or not ...but figuring stearing clear of white might be best.
Except if I get a KILLER colourfull shawl to borrow for the evening ;)

MrsC Aussie - in my mind ... I was thinking that too ... if a guy could wear a white shirt with the groom, surely I can wear a white top with the bride. Thing is ... I don't think men are as b!tchy as women :rofl: And for all I know she can be one of those "new-age" brides and wear a SUIT!! :wall: :p

And, of course, the other problem is that black is a funereal colour; women is black is supposed to be bad luck/wishing the bride bad luck or something like that?

You can't win whichever you pick!

(Ah, my dress for the wedding in a couple of weeks is red and black... good thing I'm not superstitious!)

I know!!!!!! :wall: But black is just so slimming and makes your curves look "just right" :lol: I was thinking about wearing some exotic colourfull heels, maybe just to break the black, bit out-ta-character for me .. but hey, I don't know these ppl ;)

ARRRGGGGG :lol:

The worst outfit at my wedding was this [uninvited] tart who wore hot pink. And got herself in the front row of our group shot. About four rows in front of my grandmother. And it's not enough that she wore hot pink and was uninvited, she also tried to stand in front of Dh's parents at the ceremony! DH had to go and ask her to move - we didn't even invite her!!! (sorry, have I made that point?!)

She was showing off a "bump" too - only was not pg! One of the highlights of the weekend was someone saying "Oh my god, I didn't realise you were preg!" AAAAAAhahaha.

Sorry. What a B*#ch I am.

I would much rather she have worn white.... Or black.

LOL Ok, no hot pink for me, darn *snap* ;) But I'm really, really pg :p :p

I think a white top is totally acceptable at a wedding. A white dress however - NO!

So I showed DH my outfits last night ... he likes the white top :lol:

Thanks for all your input and opinions :)