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Was it after the first trimester? We are so thrilled with our BFP, but also of course, anxious. I still panic a bit whenever I feel a tiny twinge. My clinic has agreed to keep checking my HCG levels for a little while, to set my mind at ease (especially after the ectopic I've had).
Just wondering when you started to feel a bit more relaxed with it all?
Possums, congrats on your pregnancy!
Personally, after 2 mc's, I stopped worrying at about 20weeks!
Try and relax and enjoy yourself hun - its the best thing for the baby!
I can't say I ever stopped worrying. It took me 14 years to birth my first bub. I didn't have a good track history & I was 41 so the odds were against me. My worries just kept changing.
I started to feel more confident at 18 weeks after we got the amnio results back, but still every little odd thing that occurred had me a little worried still.
When I got more advanced I worried I'd go into labour early. I didn't. Then when I got to about 36 weeks I worried I'd go over & the placenta would deteriorate. I went 1 week & 4 days early so I shouldn't have wasted my time worrying about it.
Even whilst giving birth I didn't feel confident that it would be a good result. I remember thinking that my baby must be dead during the labour because the midwives were having trouble finding his heartbeat - and then they would find it and relief would sweep over me.
My worries were for nothing. If I could do it over I'd worry about nothing & just enjoy every little thing.
Possums have you heard of the book "IVF and Ever After"? You may find it helpful in understanding that the worry in a sense is normal and it helps you deal with what happens once you fall pg with IVF and then have a baby. Some of the other BB find it has helped them a lot.
Wishing you a stress free pg as much as possible.
:hug:
xx
Possums - I agree with Satya in that my worries change but are always there. I think the worst for me was up until 15-16 weeks, after that I eased off on the stress and started enjoying the pregnancy more but just started worrying about silly little things that change with each week that goes by.
Thanks for the responses. I guess some degree of worry can't be avoided, but I will also try to relax and enjoy it.
Dusty- would you believe, I just bought that book after hearing the author chatting on ABC Radio! I look forward to reading it, because her comments were very insightful and touched on many of my own feelings
I didn't announce my pregnancy till I was 21 weeks pregnant so it took me until then to believe I was going to have a baby. My sister had her baby at 27 weeks so I didn't really relax until after that point when I knew that even if she came very, very early she had a good chance of surviving. Plus my ob kept telling me that I had a very active baby so I loved going to my appointments and hearing that.
Hi Possums
I found that my anxiety decreased a little bit after my 12 week scan, then substantially after my 20 week scan.
I found the first 12 weeks really hard, it was just a time that I had to endure.
I still worry, but I'm not in a state of constant panic now, which is an improvement!
It's a good idea to continue the HCG monitoring, good rising levels did provide some reassurance in the early days. And if your obstetrician is prepared to do an extra scan or two before you get to 12 weeks, that can really help as well. I guess your fertility clinic will do a scan for you some time around 6/7 weeks? Seeing the heartbeat is a great start, and means your chances are really very good.
Wishing you all the best for your pregnancy, it's not easy after a loss and then fert treatment, but you will get through it!
Sending you loads of :stickyvibesboy: :stickyvibesgirl:
Devon
xxxx
hi Possums
:hug: yes it definately is alot more stressful after what weve been through, i too had an ectopic this time last year. I stopped worrying about the ectopic aspect after the first scan, but then you worry about MCing, then you worry about anatomy and DS, then you worry about how many movements or kicks you get>.................... it just goes on and on. It sounds really ridiculous but i forced myself to buy my baby something (a little pink outfit even at that time i didnt know it was a girl :lol:) but i felt i had to start being postive about everything, and as this would probably be my last pregnancy i want to make the most of it. IYKWIM. Since i bought that little outfit i found out it was a girl and it has been a really positive reinforcement for me. it definately helps to know that worrying is normal after AC, espicially when youve experienced a loss. Keep your chin up and know that we are all here for you any time you need, we know that head space only too well :doh:
thanks everyone, this certainly is a supportive place to be and has helped get me this far :)