Twins and Miscarriage

Hi,
I am writing beacuse I need to tell someone and I also need to know if others have expereinced this.

I am ten weaks pregannt. At my ob appointment at 7 weeks we saw one perfect sized, strong heart beating baby. At 8 weeks I experienced some bleeding, like the start of a period, which freaked me out as it is my second pregnancy and I had no bleeding with my first. I went and saw the ob again that day as I was very concerned. This time he thought he saw two babies - the one with the strong heart beat and another sac but he was having difficulty seeing it and could not detect a heart beat. He sent me for a full ultrasound where I saw two babies - both with heartbeats. However, in the same breath that I was told that I was having twins, I was also told that one won't make it. The second one is half the size as the other. The ultrasound technician told the traniee technician watching me fall apart that the smaller one would die and would not be there at all when I returned. After my scan my ob explained to me that it was unlikely that the small one would survive but the other one should be ok and not effected if I miscarriage the other in the first trimester.I haven't had anymore bledding since that day.

So, I have done some reading of which what they are describing is called vanishing twin syndrome. I have also read that it is common for one twin to be smaller then the other. So at the moment I am lost between grieving and hpoing. I don't go back to my ob until next week and the wait is killing me. I don't want to place hope in the little baby as it will be more heartbreaking if next week it has died. I am also finding it hard to celebrate being pregnant, even though the doctor is sure I am going to have at least one. I am so confused. I am grieving but trying to be joyful for my other twin.

Has anyone experienced anything like this? Do I hope or grieve?? I need some advice.

Thanks for listening.

kmx

Hi,
I hope you receive some good news at your next ob visit. Sending you big big :hug:.

Regards,
Dianne

Oh honey.....:comfort:

I have twice now lost a twin

With my first loss, I had a massive bleed at 7 weeks, and at the ultrasound discovered i was losing a twin, but the other baby is now a healthy 8 yr old....

My last loss was with this pregnancy. I was very sick, had very strange blood results, and very high blood pressure. I thought twins, but I also thought something was wrong, and couldn't shake the feeling.
An ultrasound confirmed one healthy bubba, and another sac that was in the middle of colapsing, with no heartbeat.... :crying:

I had no bleeding, and the next ultrasound confirmed the "little" one was all gone.....(vanishing twin)

It can be common to have a smaller twin, but usually only by days. Did they tell how "different" they were?? My "smaller" one was very obviously not going to make it....

The waiting is SO hard honey, and I still go through being so happy for this litttle girl, and crying for her twin.

But every now and then I pull out my ultrasound, just to see my "Little One", and know there must be a reason he/she isn't still here....

I hope you can find some answers honey, and some peace, either way....




Maybe call your doc and ask for some reasurrance, or to look at your scan again and explain EVERYTHING for you???