Scared to Try Again

I was 12 wks and had missed m/c almost five wks ago. Had d/c and body has been all over the place since (pain, bleeding etc.). Mind is ok,just want to get on with life a bit.

The OB said is OK to TTC again when I get my first period, which he said would be 4 wks after d/c.

I really want to try again as soon as possible but have been told is risky before first period. We really want a family and want to get on with our lives. I just feel that until we are actually TTC properly again that I can't fully put what has happene behind us, but on the other hand I am petrified of it happening again. We got pg easy last time and am scared that will take ages because it will screw with my cycle.

Basically I am just a nervous wreck!

Try not to stress about it. My cycle went completely back to normal after having a m/c - it arrived exactly 4 weeks later & continued in that pattern. If you feel ready to try again and your doctor says it's OK to try then go for it. I felt more in control of things when I TTC'd again. Most people who've had a m/c go on to have a perfectly normal pregnancy the next time around. Best of luck for a BFP nice and soon for you.

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this is my first time posting, so here goes...

Dear little missk.
I know exactly how you are feeling.
I had a missed m/c at around 12 weeks also, in July. My ob told me to wait two cycles before ttc again as apparently the uterus might not be ready/recovered until then (this is what he told me anyway....). i know the waiting is hard, but you want to give your next baby the best chance possible right?? My period came about 5 weeks after d&c - I thought it would take ages to come back. Like you, I had lots of pain and bleeding which lasted all the way up until the time i got my period, but afterwards, everything returned to normal, my next cycle returned as normal and we are back to ttc now.

I am terrified of what might happen, and the waiting is agonising! My period is due again next week and I keep imagining that i have pregnancy symptoms - it's awful. We conceived the first time we tried last time so it is hard to accept that it might not be that easy this time around. Sometimes I think that i may not be ready to be pregnant again because I'll just stress that it is going to all go away again. THe pain and heartbreak is unbearable - I just really wanted my babies more than anything in the world.

Let me know how you are doing.
Take care.
x

Hi littlemissK
Ok well I know how you must be feeling. I think you are very strong to be ready to try again bc its been a whole year for me to "feel" ready and I'm still absolutely terrifies me! I read some stupid article (which im sure u might have too) that say youre only ready to try again if in your mind you can deal with the possibility of it happening again. Yea right! No one can ever be ready to go through that again. Anyway, now that I'm ttc its just like you said, it makes you feel better and more like your getting back to normal. I had no idea it would make me so much happier and still frighten me all at the same time. We just have to hope and pray that it will all work out and we're here to get through it together ;)
I have heard of women who dont wait til their first period and get pg. Even the dr's told me to be extra careful bc you are very likely to get pg during that time but its safer to wait. I would say wait at least til you get your first period, just to be safe so you never have to go through this again.

Take care and let me know how it goes!

Rach 78 and Mrs B, whilst it is horrible that we are all in this situation it is fanastic to have like minded women who are going through exactly what I have.

I got my first normal period last week, and was so excited that I was 'normal' that I rang my husband (yep, I'm a dork).

But anyway its now back to ttc like both of you and hopefully, all three of us can get pg the next time and have happy healthy pregnancies. I hope to hear your stories,

By the way Mrs B, I have read those articles, and they are totally ridiculous, there is no real prospect of preparing yourself for another loss, let alone ever being ready for it... Think positive!

Horray! wishing you luck with your ttc'ing!
Lets pray 2009 brings us all healthy babies!!!

Hi ladies, just wanted to wish you all the best for TTC and hope you dont have to wait too long.
I also had a missed m/c last Nov @ 9 weeks and it is just horrible, take all the time you need to recover. I am happy to let you all know that I am now 23 weeks pg and all is going well. It took 6 months before I fell pg again and although the time was tough I think if it had have happened before then I would not have been ready emotionaly.
From what I`ve heard it is safe to get pg right after a m/c its just that if you fall before your next period it is hard to give an edd, that is easily fixed with a dating scan though. So if you feel you are ready then I say go for it. Sending you all:pink-babydust::bluedust:

Hi everyone,

Im glad to find this post.....i also had my second M/c las july was devastated....i want to try as soon as possible but my husband couldnt take it and i had some health issues so i ended up waiting :rolleyes:. Now im on my fertil week.....hoping i baby will be concieved and of course to full term (i have 2 they really went to full term hehehe 42 weeks).......i know is hard to try not knowing what is going to happend and btw if i have to wait untl my mind is ready to going through it again well i will never have another baby..i really hope for all of us to enjoy a good pregnancy and a healthy beautiful babies :dance:
Is really nice to get a group especially for the first weeks when a miscarrage may happend at any time...for me the firts 9 weeks are going to be the hardest as i m/c both times at 8 weeks.

Sandy

My First boy 6 years
my second m/c marz/94
my third boy 2 years
my fourth m/c 19/july/08

hi,

MMM i think is very hard to wait.......:wall: ......