Just want to be a mum just once .....

I so desperately want to be a mum just once. My husband and I have been on the IVF roller coaster for 4 years now with no success.

We have done 3 IUI cycles and 6 IVF cycles and have only ever had a total 2 lonely eggs retrieved which didn't fertilise. I have never reached the implant stage and my IVF dr has advised that I have little to no egg reserve left and my only chance of being a mum is through a donor.

My husband and I have a great relationship and we are financially secure. We both would love to be parents to a beautiful little person and are hoping someone out there can help us.

Thanks so much for reading my short story.

jeckle

Good luck with finding a donor soon!

Thank you so much. :pray:

Jeckle,

Dusty posted this for another user - hopefully it may help you:

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i am sorry you aren't having much joy with IVF to date. it is so frustrating when our bodies don't respond the way we believe they should. if you wanted any information on donor eggs there is a wonderful private forum called Aussie Egg Donors that deals specifically with this. just google it and you should come up with the website. you need to request to join and within a day or so you will be signed up and can ask many other women lots and lots of questions regarding options available for you.

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Thanks Gargy

I have joined Aussie Egg Donors website as well.

Hopefully the more people who know our situation, the better chance I have of finding a donor.

Thanks again
jeckle

hello jekle its good to see you here how is your search going we are no closer to our angel finding us pjo

Hi purlejo

We are currently chatting to a couple that "may" help us ... early days though.

Where have you been advertising ??

Cheers
jeckle

hello that is good news i hope the ladie is for you and i try to send you a pm on here but you can'nt do it pjo

Hi

I just added you as a friend so you can now send me a PM.

Cheers
jeckle

you won't be able to PM each other until the title under you name changes from Registered User to belly belly member

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you won't be able to PM each other until the title under you name changes from Registered User to belly belly member

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Hi BG,

How does one go from registered user to BB member?

Hi Jeckle...

I was just wondering how you are going.... I feel for you, and hope that you can get your dream of becoming parents....

hello jeckle i want to popped in to say good day and to see where you are up to i hope you had a great day yesterday cyu purjo

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Hi BG,

How does one go from registered user to BB member?

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sorry - didn't see this earlier - you go from registered member to bb member when you get to a certain post count - i believe it's 50 posts. once that happens, you have access to PM's, with a limited storage quota (10 i think) - so if you send messages, you need to delete copies or they fill you up quickly...

Thanks BG.

Hi Everyone

I would hate to upset anyone but i wonder if any of the husband and wife ( hetero) couples would consider a sperm / egg swap arrangement.

I know it sounds radical and would only appeal to those who have sympathy for the lesbian community in their quest for parenthood.

But say if a hetero couple needed eggs and a lesbian couple needed sperm each couple has what the other needs to create a couple of children.

Please don't shoot me down in flames I am very serious in putting forward this idea for solving peoples gamete shortages.

I am no longer in a position to help physically anymore so if something I can say can help create even one yearned for child all the better.

I have a little boy from a known sperm donor and felt soooo privilaged.I gave birth to a little girl who is living with her two dads, but at 39 I am too old to have any more babies or to donate my eggs.

I would just love to see those with the common thread of desperately wanting to parent put prejudices aside and help each other.

Just something to think about ! Our world is changing all the time and who knows there may be one child out there who is created withh the above suggestion.

Cheers
Deanna

Hi deanna,

You've obviously given and received the most amazing gifts possible. My belief is any and every variation on giving and recieving should be possible when it involves consenting and informed adults. About 6 months ago we heard my dh didn't have sperm so we had to consider donor options, of which I'll admit my thinking went to gay friends of mine who might be willing to donate. Fortunately further testing found a stray sperm or two in dh, so we're now undergoing ivf/icsi treatment, about to begin a 2nd cycle after our 1st cycle was a bfn. However, I also have two friends who are a lesbian couple, and we've had a similar discussion. At the moment their only other option is to go to Tassie or Albury, i think. It's only after going through what i have in the past 6 months, that I know we would willingly offer them dh sperm, if there's anything left to give after all these biopsies, that is. Saying that though it probably wouldn't be without a (selfish) condition, namely, that I hopefully would have been successful in having my own baby or two. I think my preference also would be for friends or family I know well as opposed to anonymous - and that goes for either hetero and homo sexual couples. When we were considering finding a donor, my preference then was also for a known one, not anonymous - for a whole bunch of reasons.