How do you handle it?

Hi everyone,

Im quite new here.....we fininally pregnant again after a miscarriage at the begining of the year,im now 7 weeks preggie, eventho we are very very very happy with the news but i cant stop worrying,evry little thing i do, or eat i always concern and wondering if my baby is fine or....( as my first one stoped at 8 weeks but i didnt have any sign or know until the 12 weeks scan).

i keep telling myself that everything is gonna be fine but it seems hard to not to worry

how do you guys handle and overcome this to have a happy,joyful pregnancy???!!

We have all done this, so your not alone Ivy. I tried to keep myself busy at work and keeping myself fit. Before I knew it the 12 week scan was up and bump was as happy as a pig in mud.
sticky vibes heading your way.

Ivy, I really don't know. I am waiting for my appointment at 12 weeks with a sense of excitement and dread. I have no reason to believe that there's anything wrong, and I haven't had a miscarriage before. But I am still scared stiff.
I have no suggestions, other than what you are feeling is completely normal. If you can get through by using relaxation techniques, trying to rest as much as possible and keeping relatively healthy (lol, now to keep my own advice!!! ;) ) then you should get through the wait just fine.
Hang in there - and spend some quality time on BB!!!
All the very best for a very happy and healthy pregnancy.

Im the same as Snacks - hanging for my US
I felt EXACTLY the same and still do at times. I found out I was preggers at 7 weeks - so I am abit more relaxed these days... but the first week I constantly went to the toilet to make sure I was ok etc..

thanks guys.....Im waiting for my 8 weeks scan next week,im excited,anxious and nervous :pray: hope everything is gonna work out this time for us please please :pray::pray:

I wish u all the best too :)

Oh, i felt the exactly same .... the worry does ' chip ' away as time goes by and you do find more room within yourself to enjoy the pregnancy ... i found as soon as i hit 33wks i relaxed an absolute ton more !!

... It will just become a natural process for you ... And DO know it does get a ton easier so do know things will only get better as time goes by ;)

In the early days i tried to focus so hard on enjoying each single day rather putting more energy into worrying what could go wrong ... that pregnancy turned out to be so joyous in my having my 1st bub at 40 ... whom is now a sweet little funny girl of 2.5yrs old :D

Hi Ivy, i am sorry to hear about your miscarriage and congratulations on your current pregnancy. I had two miscarriages last year one was very early and the other we thought we were 17 weeks pregnant but the bub had died between 12 and 14 weeks it was devastating and quite a horendous miscarriage happened all at once in a busy shopping centre and had to leave in an ambulance. We waited 4 months before we tried again and lucky for us we can get pregnant easy I am currently 32 weeks pregnant. For the first 12 weeks I was so scared even though we had good care and we were monitored closely. Everytime i went to the tiolet i was sure there would be blood and like you i was scared of what i was eating and things like that. I was lucky that i felt the babies first movements at 9 weeks so feeling that made me relax a little. Then i started worrying that if I didnt feel the baby that something was wrong. I was sure that when i had a scan done that I would hear the dreaded words saying I am sorry there is no heartbeat.
Everyone will tell you stop worrying dont stress but deep down you cant help it.
I only have 8 weeks to go and I am still so scared. I ended up hiring a doppler so that I could listen to the babies heat beat whenever i wanted or whenever I was worried this has helped me so much and since I have had it I have enjoyed the pregnancy a lot more.
I know it is hard but think positive, put a photo of the ultra sound in a a frame beside the bed and look at it before you go to sleep I found this helped me heaps, rest when you can and find someone really good to talk to who will just listen and not make you feel like you are over reacting. I am so sorry if this is long. If you want someone to talk to that is not family and has been through it before feel free to message me. These forums have helped me too as you will be suprised how many people are going through the same thing as you. Good luck with everything i will be thinking of you.

Congrats on your current pregnancy :)

I was so scared all the time. I had a miscarriage just over a year ago and two the year before, all before 8 weeks, so all I could think was that it was going to happen again.

It's really hard, but you just take it one day at a time. I tell bub that he has to make it to a certain amount of weeks. It started at 12, then 16, 20, 24, 28, 30 and now 34. For me, just getting this far along is a miracle in itself.

Try to relax a bit, pamper yourself and get lots of cuddles from your other half. You'll find that it's much easier to cope when you share your fears with your other half.

I hope that helps :)

Hi salad( sorry i dont know your name yet):)

Thanks for sharing me your story,i shed tears when reading it,im only 7 weeks so far but i look at myself and tummy in the mirror every time when i go to bathroom,I cant wait to see my tummy getting bigger and bigger :) ....how did it feel like when you first felt your baby at 9 weeks? i thought u can only feel baby movement sometime from 20 weeks...i cant wait to feel that beautiful movement in me :)

thanks jenna i hope you and bub are doing well,i cant wait to be at your stage now hehe

Hi Ivy, i am actually in the same boat as you.. i miscarried in March, and this time around i am soooo scared (im roughly 6 weeks- thats just a guess at this stage!)

positive thinking is whats getting me through at the moment.. i 'feel' pregnant, i am a little nauseaus.. im quite bloated, and i just had a 'feeling'.. i was right, so i guess im using that to help me through at least untill we have a scan and see a heartbeat!

i wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Hi again Ivy, sorry my name is sal. Goodluck to the other girls going through the same thing I am thinking of you all.
I didnt think you could feel the baby until later too but I had what I thought was going to be wind, like a bubble making its way out but it never did (hope that makes sense) so I asked a friend who had not long had a baby and she described it like that and I knew it was the baby I was feeling. I am pretty in tune with my body too which helped I guess. I was the same also I couldnt wait to have a belly I would check every day too.
Now bubs is a kick boxer in waiting and even responds to my husbands voice by kicking when he comes home from work its amazing. Keep me updated on how you are going. And remember if you want to talk I am only too happy to listen.

Hi Crsytal,I hope our boat can make its way this time, all the best to you too :hug:

Hi Sal, I actually feel better today,everynight when I got awaken,I always check my tummy and boobs see if my boobs are getting bigger and still sore hehe,there was one night i did that and it felt so normal and soft i got worried all day and thought about going back to my GP to get another blood test done, but boobs are getting bigger and tender a couple days later till now so..that keeps me relax abit..I cant wait to feel the baby movement and kicks in my tummy....just last night i tried to listen deep in my tummy see if i can feel my baby,well i felt something but i think it was just from my stomach making bubble lol...so how are you and bub today?
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Hi again crystal, i think Im around same stage as u are ,my estimate due date is 18 june too :) Im having first scan next week,im so excited and anxious too, what about you, are you having early scan this time too ?

No problem Ivy.

I felt my bub move at 16 and a half weeks, but I've heard of other people feeling them move a few weeks earlier than that.

If it helps, I've got my :crossfingers: for you :)
:grouphug:

Keep positive. Find some time to lay down each day and imagine your baby growing. The power of the mind is amazing!!! Stick around on BB for the best support in the world.

Good luck:)

I had two miscarriages before I was able to carry to term. The fear is intense.

I tried to enjoy the time I had in my second and third pregnancies, but in the end I decided not to beat myself up about what I felt and just feel what I feel. I don't think I had a joyful pregnancy at all with my son, but that's okay. Maybe I will be able to next time.:)

Hi all,

I thought I felt my baby today,I know this time it wasnt from my stomach,something felt like..mmmm i cant explain or describe it but it just felt something that i never felt like that before deep in my tummy where i believe my baby should be but...can you really feel your baby at this early stage yet? you rekon? hmm...or may be i was just imaging...

anyways i should just stick with positive thinking and like Bekz said i should imagine my baby growing :):dance:

Thanks all for your support :grouphug: