My Time is Running Out......

I am 37 years old. In January of this year I was diagnosed with Endo Stage 2. Ever since the operation I really have felt worse and everyone said that I would feel better. My periods are longer and painful, very heavy and clotty :redface: I am feeling very depressed and it is effecting my everyday life. My stonachis constantly bloated. I am dong everything I have been told to. My diet consists of just salmon, fruit and vegetables. I dont eat wheat,yeast,dairy,alchol,coffee,sugar. I got engaged in July this year to a wonderful man. It is such a blessing because 2 years prior my husband then left me after tellig me he was gay. They say that stress plays a big part in this endo? is this true? I guess I have had alot of stress. i just want to start feeling better :crossfingers: My wedding is about 60 days away and I am scared that I am going to be unwell. Everyday is like pot luck. I am at my wits end. I feel so sorry for my fiance, we still haven't even been able to celebrate the engagement properly. He is turning 40 and I am 38 next year, I feel like I am going to miss out on having a baby. I am seeing my doctor next week to discuss what do I do from here..... Has anyone else in there late 30's been in the same situation. I feel like I am so alone, all my girlfriends are mothers, I have no one to share with, who knows what I am going through and I am feeling more and more isolated. :pray:

:hug: :comfort: I may be only 23, but I know how it feels to think you will never hold your baby in your arms :cry:

I think that, while conception problems are more common these days, a lot of women still don't know how to react when it effects someone they know. All I can tell you is, you've come to right place here! The only problems you MIGHT have is stopping the BB addiction :)

Have you tried natural remedies? I believe both have their place, and it's sometimes surprising what a naturopath will find when a doctor has given up. Once you start feeling healthier, you probably won't be as stressed either :)

And last of all, congratulations on your engagement and upcoming wedding! :confetti: :dance: Enjoy the upcoming weeks and years, and try to see yourself as your fiance does - you'd be surprised how much confidence you'll gain!

dlrsummer, firstly congrats on your upcoming wedding - hope its a perfect painfree day for you.

Secondly can I recommend you contact / see a dr in Sydney that specialises in endo , he is fabulous. Dr Michael Cooper of Macqaurie Street Sydney. He is not cheap but IMO the very best and he is close to you so I thought I would mention it. I travelled hours to see him and would do so again in a heartbeat.

He has a website, google M J Cooper or ECCA and that should find him.

He is not only a gifted surgeon but he has the best bed side manner that I have ever seen. His communication skills are second to none - which is a major bonus when it comes to a gyno (as lots in my experience have little to none).

Sunflowergirlie, you certainly were a ray of sunshine for me today! Thank you so so very much. You are so beyond your 23 yrs of age, your words of wisdom went straight to my heart. I am doing natropathic remedies and seeing an acupuncturist.... just feeling a bit frustrated, it has been a long year :( but you have certainly brought a smile to my face and have reminded me of the "bigger picture".... you are right I am getting married and to the worlds most wonderful man!! I am truely blessed... thank you for the reminder :) I will continue to believe and STAY POSITIVE... Thank you

Hi Joel's Girl! Thank you so much for writing! I can't believe that you said Dr Michael Cooper! I was a bit depressed last night and had, had enough and started to do some research, I came across his website, sent and email requesting appointment last night and then I rang this morning. I have an appointment on the 3rd Dec!! It must be a very good sign that you sent through your message! I must say that I am NOW VERY EAGER for this appointment. Thank you for caring :) it means so much :)

That is awesome. I'm sure you will feel even more positive after the appointment in December. I was referred to him by other members on here a few years ago. My local gyno had given me the choice of a full hysterectomy or a 6 month course of horrid drugs to address my increasing endo problem. They sang Dr Coopers praises so much that I thought well one more doctor can not hurt. But he is not 'just' another doctor. He has a passion for curing endo and has devoted money / time into further research etc....

I'm over the moon that you are seeing him so soon. I don't want to get your hopes up but I was pg 8 weeks after surgery with Dr Cooper and then fell very quickly (whilst breastfeeding a 9 month old) with our 2nd. This is a common result of his, I truly hope that you have the same speedy success.

Please let us know how the appointment goes.

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Sunflowergirlie, you certainly were a ray of sunshine for me today!

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Hahah, just reading that made my day!! You're welcome, and don't forget, we're all here to help and listen :)

Hi, I have been fighting endo all my life!! I have been on nasal sprays, needles, and all kinds of hormonal tablets. Only to give up in the end and just say that I will live with the pain and no kids. With a huge weight gain :o :wall: that never came off.

Well that was untill I fell preg in 2003 (could have knocked me over with a feather). I was too frightened to tell friends untill I was 16 weeks (I only told my hubby and my mum to begin with). I was soooo careful all the pregnancy as I had done all the reaserch (probably knew too much about what could happen).

As soon as I had DD in my arms I was trying for another as it took over 14 yrs to get her. I was blessed to fall pregnant in the following Nov (10 months later. Even though every body told me that I would fall straigh away).

As you can see by my ticker I have not long had another DD.

Please don't give up!!! It is worth the fight when you have the baby in your arms. I had to do everything to get pregnant and then to keep this baby. I was admitted into hospital 7 times during my last pregnancy. During that time my hubby lost his job as he was having too many days off to look after me/kids.

Your lucky to have a man who loves you and supports you. My hubby has been to hell and back with me. He has helped me with my treatment with depression also.

Before I go, a word of advice - too many D&C's can cause more problems.

Good luck with your Gyn visit in Dec, I hope to hear your good news in the new year!!!


Take care
Chris

Dlrsummer,

I'm another woman in a similar position to you - due to infertility issues (PCOS and male factor) sometimes I wonder too if I will ever fall pregnant.

However I am not ready to give up yet despite the fact I will be an older mummy when I do fall.

Maybe have a look at the Older Woman's TTC chat thread here to connect with women in a similar situation to you.