Need opinions on dates and inductions......

When I first found out I was pg I calculated my due date to be the 16th December.
I had a m/c in Jan, my cycles were not 100% back to normal but one more and I reckon they would have been.
DH and I had been using condoms because we weren't ready to try again, but one broke and here I am :)
So I am fairly sure of the date of conception as well which happens to be right on day 14.

I chose not to have a 12 week ultrasound and just had one at 18 weeks.

When I saw the Ob at the hospital for the results at 20 weeks he asked me if I was sure of my dates and what my cycles are like etc
After I said about the m/c and not being back to normal he said the baby is measuring 2 weeks ahead so he changed my EDD to 1st December.
I wasn't overly impressed and said well what happens if I go over... "well see what happens if/when you get there" okay right fair enough.
Well I ended up getting into midwife care at hospital so no more Ob's since then. YAY!
They are lovely and very much about no interventions.

What I am concerned about is that I have an appointment on Monday, with an Ob and my midwife, which will make me 8 days over by their dates to see where we go from here.
Hospital policy is to look at inducing at 10 days over.
I really don't want to be induced again, I was with DD as my waters broke and didn't go into labour quick enough for the private system. It bloody hurts. I was lucky I required no other interventions, I might not be so lucky this time, especially if bubs isn't ready to come out yet.

So I guess what I am asking is for some advice for when I go in there on Monday, if the OB tries and convinces me to be induced around the 10th.

Hope I am making sense here.

My main concerns are
- Baby isn't ready to come out yet, my EDD may be the 16th as I thought it was.
- They might not allow be to continue being in the midwife only program if I want to wait until 42 weeks by their dates. (15th December)
- Inducing before bubs and my body is ready will lead to other interventions.

I really don't want to cry like an idiot while I am in the appointment, they don't take us seriously as it is.
I guess I am after some information/ideas/strategies I can go in there with so that I feel more confidant in sticking up for myself.

I'm not sure about hospital policy etc. but a friend of mine was given three possible dates due to a very irregular cycle etc and they waited until she was overdue on the 3rd date before discussing induction and her dates were 2 weeks apart!
If you are well and your bub is well then I would think you could say no to induction, maybe explain to your midwife about your dates etc. and see how you go and explain your reasons for not wanting to be induced.
it is your baby, your body so you should have the decision.
Good luck with it all :) who knows your bub might decide to enter the world before your appt! You never know xxx

Hun I would stick to my guns on that one.

If you EDD is correct then you can say to the dr that the EDD they offered you would mean you Oed on the first day of your LMP, and you know your cycle well. I have told my MW that I want to have the latest EDD possible to reduce my chances of induction and she agreed as I advised her that I had been charting my cycle for 6 months before conception and I know that I Oed on day 17 and had a 12 day LP. She is happy to stick with my O related EDD considering it is only a few days after my early scan dates.

A scan at 18 weeks is not as accurate on dates as an early scan and early scans always say x weeks +/- 1 week on the report. You have every right to refuse to be induced. If they ask you to have daily monitoring then agree to that but do not agree to the induction.

They cant induce you if you dont show up on the day of induction anyway, so if they insist on iducing you on a specific date, then dont show.

Thanks girls,

I fully plan on saying no to an early induction, just trying to get my plan sorted before going in there.

Ali- that's true, if I go by their dates means I would have o'd 2 days before I got AF.

I don't htink I'll have any trouble with support from my midwife, more the hospital appointed OB.
We'll see though I may be pleasently surprised, but need to be prepared...

I totally respect your wanting to have your story together before you go, mate. Good on you! :)
Something as clear cut as a condom breaking would have to suggest that you know your date of conception regardless??? Surely?
I'd definitely be explaining that you'd trust your dates over a late ultrasound.
And if they pull out the 'you are placing your baby in danger' attitude, say you'll be monitored daily to make sure baby/fluid levels are ok but you'll not be induced.
Perhaps try to find some articles from respected sources that show how being induced can increase the chance of further intervention, etc, and therefore more chance of bub needing assistance as well? You can use that argument to refute the 'you are putting your baby in danger' line if it happens to be pulled out. I think there are some summaries in New Active Birth that I can look up for you if you like. Or there may be some references on articles on this site - I haven't looked around recently.
But hopefully you WILL be pleasantly surprised and your OB will be a darling and bow out, admitting that you are just fine and don't need to even think of induction at this early stage. :D

When I told my midwife I was induced at 10 days past my EDD, she said "oh, that was early. why didnt they wait until you were full term at 42 weeks?"

She said that there is no greater risk in going to 42 weeks than having the baby at 38. She said this was well documented so there should be some information out there.
They should be able to monitor placenta function as well, with an u/s.

Maybe you can compromise along the lines of you will go by their dates as long as you can get to 42 weeks before discussing induction, that should put you somewhere in the middle.

Are you happy to be monitored for placenta function if they determine you're post dates - if you are then ask for that.

stick to your guns babe, from your records their dates are completely off!!!

Great advice :) There is no need to consent to induction unless there is danger to you or bub, they cannot force you into anything...you HAVE to agree to it, so just don't.

You have the power, not them, don't hand it over. ;)

I am happy to be monitored as much as they like, will put my mind to rest as well that all is okay in there!
Definately not going to allow anything until 42 weeks which will be the 15th, hopefully I will have popped by then and there is no need to worry.

Just have to go with the flow I guess and not let them talk me into anything I don't want to do.