Just need a little vent...

I am not pregnant, but I spoke to a friend yesterday and found out that his wife is expecting their first child. I was soooo excited for them. She is due today.......He did say that they really didnt want a Christmas baby and didnt want to be in hospital over Christmas and I just laughed it off remembering I went through exactly the same thing with my first baby (he was due xmas day).

Anyway, he was on msn this morning and I see he has written up that they are having their baby tommorrow. I got all excited thinking she was in labour.....

I asked him how she was going and he said that she was booked in for a c-section tommorrow morning!! WHAT THE!!??? I said WHY!???. And he said because the obsterician said her body 'wasnt responding', her cervix wasn't dialating and nothing seemed to be happening. I said, but she is only 'due' today???. I went two weeks over with my first bubba....

I tried to explain everything to them how a c-section HURTS LIKE HELL (been there done that) and he said that his wife would only need to be induced which would most likely end up in an emergency csection anyway so they would rather do it under "non emergency situation"!!. I said noooooooooooo !!

Ive tried in vain to explain everything to him but he got a bit cranky with me and said they knew what they were doing.....im just lost for words....how can an obsetrician let a couple who are having their first baby, elect for a cesear because things aren't going as fast as they want and because they dont want to be in hospital over xmas!!! Would she really rather have xmas lying in bed in pain!????

Sorry really had to vent that....im furious!

Sheet! That wouldn't have been easy to hear :wall:

I'm not sure why everyone thinks your body can't do it all at once, when bubs decides. I have never had prelabour, never dilated early, never been told what my bloody cervix looks like BEFORE the baby is imminent, no Braxton Hicks and never been in labour longer than 5 hours....

That surgeon is a d ick and I'm sorry your friends thought he was right.

Was this up here on the coast mate or down the goldie?

Cos if it was up here it wouldn't surprise me... there's one OB that is quite happy to do the old c-section if you have no qualms about having one... (ie, my first OB!!)

I feel sorry for your friend.. cos I know all too well the battle she will have in front of her if she ever wants a natural birth.. :(

Oh no, that's so wrong.
I actually feel sorry for them - the ob is obviously scaring them, and i guess they want to do what the 'expert' tells them.
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wow thats awful!!!!

I would have thought they would be looking at a c section as a last resort :(

I'd rather be induced that CHOOSE to have major surgery!!!

OMG :jawdrop: that's sooooo bad!! I can't believe what people get told sometimes. If it weren't for BB I would probably be a lot more naive about it all as well.... in fact I find it very hard to try to explain things to others also especially without sounding like I know it all and telling them what to do if you know what I mean. OMG I sooooo can't get over that!!! She's certainly going to have a painful Christmas too. I remember it was not much fun after the c/s at all!

:wtf: That is just totally insane and so irresponsible of the ob, of course every first time parent wants their bubs out asap, but your right she could end up still being in hospital for christmas :doh: i guess a second opinion is out of the question.

One of the reasons I am following my OB to a different hospital and was public for antenatal care. I will get admitted for the birth as a private patient (and only then so I can have the least intervention possible with an experienced OB if our VBAC isn't going smoothly and not get a nervous registrar ;))

My due date is Christmas and I know there would have been pressure to book in for a c-section with a private OB as they are either on holidays with a locum attending or not wanting a call out on Christmas day :rolleyes:

MummaBear I know your post was from over a year ago but who was the OB? And how are you going with that pink one? Any luck with the IVF? (I've seen another post by on about this) Hope you are well :)