Need help staying positive

Hello Ladies,

After ttc for 5mths we got a very welcome bfp, I have been nervous the whole time as before our DD we had a 2nd tri missed mc. Anyway made an appt with my Ob at what I thought would be 7.5wks and was anxious to have my fears squashed by hearing a heartbeat. My Ob noted the sac but couldnt detect a heartbeat, he did both a internal and external u/s. He then measured the sac and said it was measuring for about 5wks so either I O'd late or the pregnancy isnt progressing and I will mc. Has anyone been in this situation and had a good outcome.....a healthy baby? I cant see how I can be 2-3 wks out and I recall this happening with my 1st preg and that didnt end well. My Ob said he'd see me again in 3wks...argh the wait and over xmas and NY. Its hard to be too devastated when my constant companion is a joyful 20mth yr old, but I would so love to give her a sibling and if this baby isnt to join us it means I would be having a baby at 40 and I dont know if Im up for ttc again after 2mc's. I suppose I should try and stay positive , my Ob certainly talked as though it would be ok but also made it clear a mc was a possibility. So any positive happy outcome stories would be great.

Thanks Lola

Lola,
I just wanted to send you a big basket full of sticky vibes. I pray you get your baby this time round and with no complications. Hang in there and keep thinking positive its sure got to better than thinking negative.

Lola, I went along for my u/s at which time I thought I was 6 - 7 weeks, but I was actually 5 wks and 6 days (according to the length of the bubba). AF had only just become regular - but I had no idea when I o'd.
The u/s lady did detect a heartbeat and my untrained eye could only just see the heart flickering. But the u/s lady did also say that it's not too often they pick up a heart beat that early....so every bubba is different...

As hard as I can imagine it is - try to keep your chin up and think positive thoughts!! Especially with your 20 mth old over Xmas chic!

lola, i don't have any stories to share, but i did want to send you loads of sticky vibes. i hope you get the news you're hoping for in 3 weeks time :hug:

im so sorry to hear that, i do know how u feel, it happened to me with my son who is now 3 and this preg, i went for my ultrasound they found a sac but no bub, i went back 2 weeks later and there was a bub and heart beat, sometimes our bladder isnt full enough or in my case my uterus is retroverted which makes it a lot harder to see bub untill its much bigger,
but just try to keep positive i know its hard and i pray that ur little angel is just fine :pray:

Oh lola. you poor stressed out chicken... isnt the waiting just horrendous!!!!

If it helps.... i was given a scan report of "no sign of viable pregnancy" at 6w5d. There was a sac measuring 5w2d but that was all they could see. BUT look at us now!

Hang in there, and try and stay positve.

I just wanted to send you heaps of positive and sticky vibes. I hope you can get through the next three weeks ok. Remain positive hun :hug:

Thank you all for your kind words, it really means alot to me. I'm fine when I'm around my DD but the rest of the time I'm sad, I'm trying to throw myself into the spirit of christmas but just find I'm a tad lack lustre this year.

Hopefully I'll be back in 2wks with good news! Thank you again for your support.

Merry Christmas & Happy New Year

Lola

I've had that happen with two pregnancies... in fact one ultrasound gave me a date of conception that was *after* I had already tested positive! I have since decided I have a long implantation period, which is consistent with all of my "that can't be right" ultrasounds.

I hope you have the result you are looking for - waiting is so hard!

Good luck, sticky vibes and merry christmas. Keep focused on DD if that takes your mind off things. Look forward to good news in a couple of weeks xoxo

toomanytoomany,

Thank you for sharing, I know its doesnt mean it will be the same for me, but it has lifted my spirits that it is possible everything will be fine. All I've been thinking is how can I be 2- 3wks out? I like the idea of a long implantation... taking its time to find a nice cosy spot to settle down for a good 9mths!!!!

Thanks again ladies

Hello,i have a positive story to share,i just know it helped me to read them when i went through this,when i went for my scan my doctor thought i was 7 weeks but the scan only showed the sac no heartbeat and i had to return in 3 long weeks to see if it was viable,the sonographer said i would either miscarry or it was too early and i was just 5 weeks,i was so upset and sure that it would be bad news(im the biggest worry wort)that i insisted on going for the next scan alone,well i couldnt believe it when they found the heartbeat and all was fine!My doctor said even if you are regular sometimes you can have real long cycles or ovulate late and thats what must have happened,i know the waiting is a killer,and i must have googled everything but try keep busy and i wish you all the best!!

lots of sticky vibes for you

To all the lovely ladies who responded,

I thought I should let you know the outcome, not good, ended up with a d&c. i wont say too much more here, maybe in the mc forum. Thank you all for your responses it really meant alot. I am fine as I understand its natures way and I am so grateful for my DD.

Thanks again.
Lola

Lola, I am very sad to hear that.

I hope that you are OK. It's just so difficult, isn't it?

Give DD a big hug and sloppy kiss.

I am so sorry to hear that too. :hug:

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To all the lovely ladies who responded,

I thought I should let you know the outcome, not good, ended up with a d&c. i wont say too much more here, maybe in the mc forum. Thank you all for your responses it really meant alot. I am fine as I understand its natures way and I am so grateful for my DD.

Thanks again.
Lola

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Lola! Im so so sorry to hear that. :grouphug: I recently had a MC as well and it does hurt like hell. The other day i looked up some poems in this site it made me feel even sadder for abit but in a way it helped me. Maybe you might like to have a look if you havent already! My heart is with you and your little family!
chin up xox