First miscarriage

I decided to join this forum because I feel like I can not talk to anyone about this. I am 34 years old. Other than my husband, no one knows I miscarried (not family, not friends). I'm ashamed. I got pregnant around Oct 4, 2008 (conceived on first try) and had a miscarriage. I was about 5 1/2 weeks. It was a natural miscarriage (no D&C). I already had a period after the miscarriage, so my husband and I decided to ttc again right away. I ovulated around 12/5/08. We had sex on 12/3 (lh surge detected by clearblue), 12/4, 12/5 and 12/7. On 12/15 my breast strarted feeling alot fuller (haven't felt like this since I was 15) and my nipples got really sore. However, the sore nipples only lasted a couple of days. Now my breasts are still full, but no sore nipples. I was really hoping I conceived. My period is due on 12/22 and I took pregnancy test, but negative. I know it may still be too early to tell if pregnant, but since the soreness stopped and my breast haven't gotten bigger (which was the case during the last pregancy) I'm assuming I'm not preg. Does anyone know why my breast would feel so full if I am not pregnant? How long does it take to conceive after a miscarriage?

:hug: hi emmanue, welcome to bb and sorry it is under such circumstances. I am so sorry to hear of your loss, but you have come to the right place for all the understanding and support you need. There are so many wonderful people on this forum who have been thruogh what you are experiencing, myself included.
I can understand the feeling ashamed, but its not your fault hun, im not going to spout platitudes about how "these thing happen" etc, but the sad fact is that 1 in 3 pregnancies end in miscarriage, I never realised until I had been thru it myself just how common it is. Once I started talking about it, it was amazing the amount of people I knew who came and told me theyd had one (or even more ) too. Its just not something people like to talk about.
But I know it hurts, feeling like your body has failed you, asking yourself what you did wrong. This is all normal, and although it still hurts to think about my little angel, time heals a little.

In regards to conceiving, yes, it may still be too early to get a positive test, also, your hormaones may still be a bit all over the place, It took myself and dp 6 mths to get pregnant after our mc last year, and my period was still over the place.
There is a thred here called trying to conceive after mc or loss, I spent a lot of time there last year, and the support of those lovely people is fantastic, I would encourage you to join in there.
again huge hugs hun, feel free to chat and talk, vent, whatever you feel like.
xxx

Hi Emmanue,
Very sorry to hear about your loss, but don't lose hope! I was also 5 1/2 weeks when I miscarried yesterday. My doctor called that day to congratulate me because my bloodtest had confirmed the pregnancy, but I interrupted her to tell her of my symptoms and that it looked to me like the pregnancy was not to be and she confirmed that this was very likely true. So... I asked if it would be possible to fall pregnant in my next cycle and she said yes and that I should ovulate in 14 days! So there is hope! I know it's still very hard because I have been ttc for 1.5 years and finally when I thought I was pg, I miscarried a week later. I have also been doing a lot of research on the net and read that if someone has miscarried, they can usually have a successful pregnancy the next time. I understand that this may not always be the case, but at least it's something! Stay strong & good luck xx