How Much Did You Involve Your Partner In Charting Etc.?

DP and I would like another baby and given my age I really should start charting especially as DP is a shiftworker so DTD can be a timing problem in itself because he's often at work till 2am.

Anyhoo, I'm just not real good at routine and taking my temp at the same time each morning because my first priority is looking after DD (she still sleeps in our room). I have bought one of those saliva testers too.

So what I'm getting at is that I think it would be good for me if I involved DP in the process so that he could remind me to temp and/or saliva test and it would feel more like a joint effort rather than me monitoring it myself and dragging him into bed at the optimum time.

I am aware, though, that often partners feel like they are then DTD as robots just to conceive and it can put a bit of a dampener on things.

Just looking for advice/opinions/advice on how much you shared re charting/ovulating with your partner?

I found my DH became interested in what I was doing and he`d ask me what my temp was up to etc.

So if you think you need your DH to remind you to take your temp etc then ask him, I think after a while your DH will be asking what your temp is doing like mine did.

Also my DH was against tempting etc until my GP advised us to do so, I became interested so he followed IYKWIM

The months that I did temp which was only 2 months after TTC for 7 months, I conceived both times, unfortunately I had an early loss but conceived the next month which is the little bundle of joy I`m carrying now :D

Good luck

my DH doesnt want to know he said it puts to much strain on him

yet eh still asks what day it is and if we should DTD lol
men are funny

i didn't chart my temps but i did use FF to chart CM & other signs. at first i didn't include DP at all because i thought he'd find it a bit boring & mundane. but then i realised that it actually made him feel excluded from the whole process. whilst there was still a little bit of feeling that we DTD just because it's 'time', he also loved checking to see if i'd recorded that we'd DTD & how many times in a cycle!! :lol: i think that him being involved made it much better :)

My DH is with me 100%. He knows FF as well as I do and asks me every morning what my temp is doing.

He's not so interested in the mucus side of things though, but then it's not the most dignified part of it, nor the most exciting. :ROFL:

This is his journey too and I'm lucky to have him beside me sharing it.

S X

I'm much the same as Sue1979...DH always asks what temperature I'm at, and opens up FF for me to put my temps in! Such a hottie!

I've been doing a lot of research since we've been TTC and we talk a lot about it all, so he knows just about as much as I do about it! But I think it makes him feel more a part of the process, I think he secretly enjoys following my temps and seeing where I'm at. :D

we both did it, boring and mundane and stress yes
but it takes 2 and was driving me crazy

I think my DP would be happy to know just the basics however I'm the sort of person that goes into minute detail with regards to every aspect of my life. So when we started TTC I shared EVERY little detail with regards to my charting. DP takes it all in and he knows what going on but one day when I was going into extreme detail telling all about my CM for that day he just put up his hand and said "If I have to hear about cervical mucus one more time.......!!!!!!!" I try not to go into too much detail about that anymore. :lol:

Dh was happy to follow temps, but didn't want to know about mucous of any type! :lol:

thanks for all your thoughts girls. Yes, I think sharing the CM info will be a step too far for me.

When I first told DP I'd like him to get involved in plotting fertility, he said, "I'm always fertile, my little boys are always ready to go." ! Lol.

I've dangled a carrot and said if he does the temp charting on his own, really, he could tell me I'm fertile and we have to DTD for days and days in a row and I'd be none the wiser. Well, I think I might cotton on but he'd still get a few 'freebies' I'm sure. Not that I want us to just be DTD to conceive, but you know what I mean.

Now I've got to gather up some info for him. He is a bit of an obsessive type so I think once I start involving him, he'll be all over it.

My DH used to check FF to see his chances of getting lucky...LOL

He too was grossed out by CM tho...TMI for him!