feeling fat and revolting

i have never felt so fat or revolting in my whole life! my baby girl has just turned 7 months old, and my son is now 25 months old, they were both c0sections, and my body has turned to shi*. i used to weigh in at around 60kg, was an active size 10, felt attractive, had lots of confidence etc, i'm now about 84kg, and i detest looking in the mirror so much, i see a fat, frumpy, stretch marked woman, who is not how i should be at 24.

i know this sounds really shallow, but i want to go out and feel good about myself, have a man other than my partner look twice at me. (not that i would do anything, but jsut to feel attractive). i used to get a bit of attention when i was out, i was always dressed really well, hair and makeup done etc, and now i'm pretty much still in maternity clothes, and am too tired to give a rats.

i know that my body is like this as i have had two beautiful children, but am i selfish or shallow to want this for me? i hate the way i am looking so much, but at the moment, am really anaemic and not even allowed to bloody excercise... :wall:

bit of a whinge, but i hate when some women seem to drop all their baby weight as soon as their kids are born, whilst i still weigh the same as i did the day my son was delivered!!! it's disgusting.

Oh hon, don't be so hard on yourself. It is HARD to lose the baby weight. Are you doing anything for the anaemia? Once thats sorted out you can exercise right? Once you start to exercise you will get more energy and feel heaps better.

When was the last time you spoke to the Dr about your anaemia?

Sweetie its okay my DS is 7 months old and when 1 was 40+9 (just before he was born) I was 103kg *hides as she types this* That was from 74kg pre pg. And guess what Im now 105kg :redface: I had plenty of friends who had bubs and bam 2 weeks later were wearing their pre pg clothes but I just have to face that this is me. My goal is to slowly lose weight to get to my ideal (65kg) with NO time limits. Ive faced eating disorders before and have decided not to pressure myself. My family will still love me no matter what. I understand what you mean by male attention and TBH I stressed about that too at first but Id rather someone want to talk to me for my personality not by how I look.

awww i feel for you. It's 10:35pm and I still haven't had a shower!! (I do have priority issues though haha) I feel the same about clothes and having time for my hair would be a luxury. I guess we've just got to give ourselves a little grace!! :)