How did you cope?

Hello ladies:D

I am pregnant with identical twins and am 11 weeks gone. Me and my little family are fairly new to Tassie, we don't have any family nearby. I am curious to know, how you ladies that have had twins via C section coped, as I am aware that it is a longer recovery. Ideally I will be able to give birth vaginally, but I'd like to hear about peoples stories that had C section, just in case. I do have some wonderful neighbours and friends, but still I am feeling a little alone, especially as my dear mum is on the other side of the world and won't come out to see me:cry:
My other half is here with me, but obviously he will have to go back to work after a couple of weeks. Also we have a 5 year old boy to take care of. We are overjoyed at the fact that we are having twins don't get me wrong, but am having panic attacks at the thought of how we are going to cope after they are born, what with having no family here.

Feelin kinda lonely
Kezzabird

Hi Kezzabird. Congratulations on your twin pregnancy. I had a c section with my twins at 38 weeks. For me I didn't find the recovery took that long, however we all heal differently.

Perhaps before your twins arrive you can get some stuff sorted at home so you won't need to do as much. Maybe have some dinners cooked and frozen so your DH just has to get something out of the freezer. Have the nursery set up completely and wash all of the bubs clothes before they arrive.

Try and rely on your DH to do as much as he can in that time he is at home with you so you can rest as much as possible. I think the most important this is to try not to do anything strenuous until you feel you are properly healed. If you have to do some washing perhaps you can put it on and DH can hang it out once he gets home and ultimately if your house doesn't get tided for a few weeks what does it matter.

Maybe if anyone offers to buy you a gift you could maybe suggest a cleaner for a couple of weeks so all you have to do is take care of the twins. Also I don't know if it is possible in your situation but we had the twins in our room for a while in bassinets and for the time it was difficult for me to get out of bed they were so close to us and DH used to get up and bring them into bed so I could feed them, and he would give me a hand to burp them and get them back to sleep.

Sorry I have really rambled now lol. Good luck. Being a twin Mum may have its challenges but it also such a wonderful experience. I think twins are given to those who can cope, I am sure you will too. Please don't feel lonely, there is plenty of twin Mums out there that can give you some support over the net. Also have you joined AMBA. There may be a local group that you can go to and meet other twin Mums. Please feel free to PM me if you ever want to have a chat.

Kate

Thanks Kate

You didn't ramble at all, thank you so much for the hints and tips, they are really appreciated.:)
My midwife gave me a load of leaflets and there is a Southern Tasmanian MBA leaflet in there some where, I will join.
I think the pregnancy hormones were playing me up for a while there:redface: I'm feeling a lot more positive about things today and will start to get the ball rolling with regards to getting things sorted sooner rather than later.
Thanks again Kate for your help. :loveshower:

Firstly Congratulations!!
You cope because you have to hun.
Sleep when you can.
Take help when you can, even if it is a meal, someone to vacuum or someone to change a nappy.
Don't be ashamed to ASK for help.
Get out of the house if you can, playgroups are a great place to meet other mums and not feel so isolated.
I gather your boy starts school this year? That will make things a little easier :)

I am in Tassie too :) You've chosen a great place to live!

Hey Missymoo!

Thanks I think I just a bad hormone day and had a bit of a panic attack :redface:

Oh gosh Tassie is defo the place to bring up kids, we absolutely love it. Best move we ever made.:) But don't tell too many people we'd like to keep this island to ourselves:shhh:

I think mother nature wouldn't have blessed me with twins if she thought i couldn't cope.:lady:

I don't have twins myself, but a close friends has just had twins so i keep checking out the twins forums.

Your little boy might be able to help you out a bit as well. My friends have a 3 year old who is happy to grab bibs and nappies etc when the Mum's hands are busy. She will also hold the book while Mum is feeding and so Mum reads to all the kids.

I have been making meals for the freezer for them, and i really enjoy it. You might find others who would also like to help you out in that way. If not, try to get a couple weeks of meals made up before so you don't have that to worry about. Even ask people if they could do that, i felt abit silly taking stuff the first time, but when i realised that it really helped, i was happy to do more.

good luck,

kate

HI Kezzabird,
Thanks for sharing your story, I read it and felt like I could really relate!
I know exactly how you feel, I am 15 weeks PG with TWINS, I also have a 4 year old who starts school next year, and a 4 mth old.
What you were saying about not sure how you are going to cope, I feel for you, as I feel the exact same way.
I was worrying about this daily until my mum stepped in and told me to stop worrying about what 'might', 'may', 'could' happen, As you cant control this. This was the best advise I had been given as I kept stressing everyday about the what if's.
I think the only way to get thru this is to stay positive and keep thinking along the lines you are. Mother Nature what not have given you TWINS if she didnt think you cope. We are blessed, as this will be the biggest challenge, but imagine how good you'l feel in a few years from now knowing that you gave it all your positive energy and got thru the toughest part!
I wish You all the luck and hope that you have a great pregnancy!
Take care

Awe thanks Angiel,

Yes I replied to your post when you were concerned about having the 3 baba's at the same time. I think our way of thinking is definitely the right way to think. I don't know about you but I've had some pretty teary moments, it's the double hormones me thinks. But I'm feeling much better now, I think it was the relief of finding out they were ok and my body's way of letting all the emotions out. This forum is a good way to let those feelings out. I for one am sooo glad I found this website, it has saved my sanity!:p