2 m/c in 6 months

hi there, I am going through my 2nd m/c in 6 months. the first one ended in a d&c.. it was our honeymoon baby after our wedding. we had a scan at 8wks which showed baby had stopped growing around 5wks..
This time around we had a scan last thursday which showed a nice strong heart beat 176 beats per min... and then Monday night off to hospital we went, with cramping and red bleeding (i had brown spotting throughout both of these pregnancies). Tuesday morning we went and had a scan.. our babies heart had stopped beating. I was devastated!!! Then just after lunch the loss of my baby happened... it was a horrible experience.. the strongest cramping and such a huge loss of clots etc. I am still getting terrible cramping and fairly heavy bleeding.. i went to the doctor today and he is sending me for another scan on monday if the bleeding hasn't backed off, to make sure my body has done its job properly this time around. I am hoping that I don't have to have another d&c - it was such a scary experience.

DH and I would like to start ttc again straight away. But.. we are thinking of telling family that we are having a break - we just dont want to deal with any outside pressure.. trying for a baby is meant to be a happy experience and I am starting to hate sonographers.. they are, always, the bearers of bad news :(

Oh, I should mention I have a healthy 9yo son and when he was 10mths old i had my first m/c - so I have had 3 all up :(

I am thinking of getting testing done.. can anyone suggest who i should ask for a referral for... an OBGYN or a FS?? who would be best to help.. or would my gp be best?
What testing would be best... and any advice when we start ttc again?

Thanks everyone for your help.

Hi Boble,

I don't have any advice as such but just wanted to pop in and say that I'm so sorry to read what you and your DH are going through right now. :hug: Take care.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.
If you've had 3 m/c's I think maybe you should speak to your gp about it to see if they can refer you to a specialist to get some tests as to why this is happening to you.
I hope you find some answers
xxx

hi boble,

I just wanted to say I am sorry to hear of your loss.

I think you should go see your gp and get a referral to a FS. I know there are some tests that can be done, I believe thy do it an my IVF clinic. But I am not sure what these tests are.

I hope you get some answers soon. Thinking of you ...

Hi Boble,

I just wanted to say how sorry I am for all 3 of your losses.
:hug:

Take care sweety.

sorry you have to go through this. cant help at all with referrals or test etc, but i do think its a good idea to tell your family you are taking a break. even if your not. there is enough stress and pressure in what you are going through, without the added expectations of others hanging over your head. and usually they just want whats best for you because they know its what you want, but it can mean extra pressure.

GL in the future hunny. sending lots of babydust and stickyvibes your way!

thanks for the replies. I am going to be getting some testing done which is great. they are starting next thursday. I am glad that they are getting done so that if there is something wrong we will know. Hopefully it won't be anything too big, but i guess.. if it is, at least we will know.

Hi Boble,

I am so sorry to hear of your losses. I agree that you should get the family to back off - it is enough to go through on your own without any external pressures. I stopped telling people what was happening after my first m/c and didn't tell anyone when I was preggers with DD until about 14 weeks.

I am glad you have managed to get some testing done. I was told that in most cases they won't find anything but I think it helps to know as much as you can, and it will also give you more confidence going into another pregnancy.

Good luck!

Boble, I am so sorry for your 3 losses. My heart goes out to you and your DH.

I am glad you're getting some tests done, it certainly puts you back in control of things. Hopefully it's something really straight forward, and you will be pregnant once again, this time with a full term and healthy baby ! I agree about eliminating the pressure from the family, believe me, been there done that ! My mum always pushed me to have a baby since I was getting really old (accoring to her..) so I feel like maybe I got pregnant just to please her. This time, when I'm ready to TTC, it will be on my terms and all for me !
Good luck :goodluck:
Beata xox