Any advice or help??

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I'm starting to feel quite uneasy about leaving Oskar when this bubs decides it's time to come along. I have someone who can look after him and even come to our place if it's the middle of the night so he can stay in his bed... but now it just doesn't feel right. I don't want to leave him, I don't want him to wake up and discover both mummy and daddy aren't here. I just don't like how it feels :( He's been with me since the moment he was born and I like that feeling. Now, I don't know what to do! It really makes me REALLY want to stay home but we just don't have the money for a midwife for a homebirth - even though I personally would've liked to have gone down that path. Has anyone got any suggestions?? Maybe ways for me to feel better about this??

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Have you been wording him up about what will be happening when the baby comes?
Have you told him who will be looking after him etc? That he will be able to visit you. Have you got a present for him to give to the new baby?
I'm sure you are more worried about it than he will be. daddy will be home with him soon enough and you will be back soon enough too.
I hope you feel better about it soon.
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Could you have him come with you? - with someone to look after him of course! And if you go into labour in the middle of the night they could bring him to the hospy in the morning.

I know its hard, I was so worried about how DD#1 would go when I had DD#2, but when mum brought her in to the hospy to see her new sister she was fine! When it was time for her to leave she just waved to us and left with mum - DH & I were the ones upset! Lol

Catherine, no I haven't... I haven't said anything as I hadn't even asked anyone until a few days ago... but it's that I don't really want to do it more than anything. I know he'll be ok etc... it just doesn't feel right leaving him and I really hate to think of him waking up without either of us with him. It won't be family with him but a girl from our mother's group and she also has a little one so she would come here then her hubby would drop their little man off in the morning if it was middle of the night. As for pressies... haven't done that yet but we will do the one from the other for both :)

Sneaky, yeah the hospy don't mind them being there but they are your responsibility... so they can be in the birthing suite. Don't have anyone to bring him there though and stay with him and us... besides I don't have anyone else I trust or want in there with us anyway so we can't watch him and have a baby at the same time in that respect...lol.

This is a hard one... don't like it...lol. I can't really explain it more than it just doesn't feel right to me leaving him. I don't know if that makes any sense to anyone else or if it's just me.

Im having extreme anxiety issues about leaving my kids, and so I understand. I went and saw the mental health nurse whom the midwives at my hospital recommended. I am now doing meditation each night for 10 mins, and will be doing a calmbirthing course, just because i need the relaxation techniques.
It's not going to "fix" my feelings, but I know how much I need to learn to meditate properly, and I know it will benefit me in the future.
As for leaving them, I am just going to do my best to be home within 48 hours. Assuming bub is ok, that's about as long as I'd stay anyway. Just plan to go home early and try some breathing techniques. What Im doing is as simple as being aware of my breathing for 10 mins while lying in bed at night.
good luck and hope all goes well. xoxo
Ps as for you little man, he'll prob think it's christmas when his friend turns up the next morning!! He'll be fine. And maybe just spend some extra time with the mother who will be looking after him xoxo