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Well I just did a test and got a BP so that's good news but after last m/c am not holding my breath. I fear so much of going through another m/c - they're not painful for me but still heartbreaking and as much as I try not to get my hopes up I always do. Fingers crossed!
Has anyone else done a test and got a negative then 2 days later got a strong positive?
Sure have hun. :hug:
I can understand that until you have passed the stage at which your angel left that you would be very cautious about getting so attached and excited. You are not the only on who has felt this way.
Congrats on the :bfp: and sending you millions of sticky vibes hun.
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what is forum vomit????
I guess its congrats !! I thought by the sound of your last post you sounded pregnant.....
Anyway, yes i have got BFN then BFP....but i think its coz i tested too early originally....
Just take each day as it comes....and sticky vibes to you......
:lol: Jordie - Forum Vomit is when the forum is doing strange things and double posts.
Hi JordieC,
I totally understand how you are feeling. I had two losses b4 going ft with my dd. Every day was a struggle. I think the OBS saw how scared I was of mc again, so he had me on fortnightly visits until 12 weeks, then I went on monthly. Not sure if you are engaging the services of an OBS, but if you are is that something you can speak to him/her about doing?
I wasn't excited and we didn't tell anyone until I was 12 weeks pg. Something that should be a joyous occassion, I was feeling anxious, scared etc... I think until I heard my dd cry when she was born I felt ok.......
In relation to you q: yes, I had neg, then very feint pos, then eventually pos. I think I ovulate late in my cycle, so if I test 1 week after af is due, i usually get a neg test.
I know exactly where you are at. After a couple of m/c's i don't allow myself to get excited or be happy about a BFP. I guess it is a bit of a defense mechanism, if you're not excited you wont be as dissapointed. Probably a rediculose mind game we play with ourselves, but i think it is totally normal. ;) I'd like to think so anyway! :lol:
I became a serial tester after my m/c's and for this preg i had a BFN and then two days later had a strong BFP. So fingers crossed this little one is here to stay. Best of luck.
Your excitement wont start until you get past 8 weeks at least. It might even take til you get past the first tri. For me I started to get excited when I got past the week that my losses kept happening at and increased even more when I got past the first tri and kept increasing the further I got along.
it takes time to adjust. take it slowly. dont feel guilty for your feelings, just accept them for what they are.
not sure if your into statistics... but i find some encouragement knowing the odds of things that might affect me....
anyway, i just read yesterday that only 1% of women suffer recurrent miscarriage, that is 3 or more in a row. So the odds are in your favour honey. GL. hugs
good luck honey and congratulations! i think what you are feeling is understandable - sticky vibes to you. xxx
Sticky vibes to you Jodie. Unfortunately a previous miscarriage does take the positivity out of a BFP. Wishing you all the best
Sticky vibes sweetie. I totally understand how you feel. For me a BFP signals absolute terror, not the joy that it should bring. I only relaxed when pregnant with DD after the 20 week scan. I used to think that after you have had a healthy full term baby, you wouldn't be so afraid of m/c next time, but now I think I was wrong! I can already see that when we start trying for #2 I am going to be a complete basketcase again.
Good luck sweetie, we are all here for you and praying for a happy outcome. It is definitely a good idea to get more OB appointments if possible for peace of mind.