Ectopic pregnancy

I hardly know how to start.....

On saturday morn i was in the shower when i experienced a big bleed, i went straight to gp who did a preg test got a BFP however cos i was bleeding i knew there was a problem. I got sent straight away for an internal ultrasound, they couldn't find anything in the uterus but found a mass and fluid in my left tube. They sent me straight to hosp , i was admitted straight away, within 1 hr was in surgery where they performed a laporoscpy where they had to remove my left tube.

It all happened so quickly that my head is still spinning, i didn't even know i was preg till saturday, no time to digest that news let alone that i was having an ectopic preg.

I have two beautiful children already, thank god for them as they are getting me through this. i'm not quite sure how to get through this, we were always going to have at least three children but now i don't think i could go through this again.

I just had to get this out cos i feel like i can't say this to my family, they all feel like i should feel blessed as i have two healthy children which is so true but they can't understand the loss i feel.

:hug: I don't know what to say.. I am so sorry for your loss..

I'm so sorry for your loss :hug:. I had a suspected ectopic pregnancy two years ago, and like you I didn't know I was pregnant until I started bleeding. It was such a scary time, I'm so sorry you have been through it :hug:. Take all the time you need to heal and allow yourself to grieve.

My thoughts and prayers are with you :hug:.

Christina :hug:

I am so sorry darl, it breaks my heart to read that you are going through this. I know exactly how you are feeling and it is completely normal to feel this way after suffering a loss. You need to allow yourself the time to grieve, this will take time but slowly things will start to get better.

You know that i am ALWAYS here for you, if you need me to do ANYTHING please let me know. My thoughts and prayers are with you,Dean,Joshy & Chloe during this very difficult time :hug:

Sending loads of :hug:'s to you xox

Oh Christina... I am so sorry for you....

You have my number, please call me if you need anything at alll.... I am thinking about you hun....

So sorry to hear of your loss :hug:

I can imagine your head is spinning.

I have suffered ectopic's as well. If you ever need to talk, feel free to pm me.

Oh Christina, I am so sorry for your loss hun. It would have been such a shock to go through the ectopic pregnancy, and losing your follopian tube as well :hug:.
All I can offer you is a huge hug hun, I can imagine how very painful it all must be. Please just know, that with time, and when you are healed physically and emotionally, you still have a follopian tube if you choose to get pregnant again. I can imagine it's the last thing on your mind ATM, but with time you might be open to the idea once again.
I am also sorry that your family is not fully understanding about your loss, unfortunatelly, they don't understand as they probably haven't been through such loss themselves, and sometimes they will focus on the positives (such as you having 2 beautiful and healthy children) to make you feel better.
Look after yourself, Christina, and be kind to yourself. You have been through so much, you'll need your family and friends to get you through this painful experience.
Beata xx

Christina :hug:

Thinking of you and wishing you all the best for tomorrow. :hug:

just to let u know i totally feel for you ...

last weekend i found out i was expecting my 3rd child which delighted myself and my husband .. then on monday i noticed a light bleeding ... i didnt panick but took myself off to the doctors who then booked me in with the early pregnancy unit ...
i had an internal scan but they couldnt see anything so they monitered me by blood tests by the end of the week my hcg levels were rising and i was finally told after another 3 internal scans that the baby was in my right ovarie !!! i had 3 doctors in the room and one said the only option was to remove my ovarie and tube!!!! i just sat in shock crying begging them for some other option ... then another doctor suggested methotrexate injection because i was only 4/5 weeks i could have kissed her there and then ... i had the injection today and was also told today that my hcg levels are slowly coming down even before i started this treatment so everything is looking good ..... but my point is even as i was leaving the hosptal on friday the other doctor was saying look we can have u in the operating room within an hour and u can go home tomorrow , look elaine uv got to look at what youve got and thats 2 healthy children??
to wrap this very long point up ! i am very grateful for my 2 children but it doesnt help with this loss its harsh and its painful your emotions and fears are all over the place .. and silly comments like these dont help anyone ........ i feel we need more suport then we are getting .......

hi elainenokes

so sorry for your loss, it's so hard to go through this especially when your family don't really understand why you are finding it so hard to come to terms with it. I have to say my OB has been amazing and didn't try and brush it off like my family has.

I got my stitches out yesterday and had some pretty positive news if we want to try again - i didn't have any scarring or blockages to my remainding tube and there are no other probs, my OB seems to think i won't have too many problems in conceiving again, i guess the fear is it happening again.

What has your doc said in regards to having more children? i hope all is good and at least you won't have to have surgery.

I am very sorry to hear about your loss and the ectopic. I had one last year and it was very traumatic and I lost my right tube. However, after then going through IVF cycles and a miscarriage, around Crhsitmas we conceived naturally through my one remaining tube, which is apparently in "bad shape"...and I ovulated on the side without a tube. So I just wanted to give you hope that it is possible to conceive naturally after an ectopic, even when your remaining tube isn't too good.
I hope you heal and recover well, emotionally and physically :hug:

hi possums

thanks so much for your post, it really does give me some hope if we decide to go down that track... right now i'm so scared it will happen again i don't know if i've got the guts to try again. congrats on the pregnancy that's fantastic.

i felt that way for quite a while too, and then decided it was worth trying naturally (while waiting for our next IVF cycle)...I have been monitored carefully this pregnancy with HCG blood tests and early scans to check for any signs of ectopic from early on.

just be gentle with yourself for a while

I am sorry for what you have gone through but totally can understand...

I am in the midst of recovering from and ectopic. In January I had a very unusual period (heavy and long) prior I though I might be pregnant but when the period came I assumed I wasn't. When the period was strange I assumed it might have been an early miscarriage. Purely by accident I found out about the pregnancy! I went to visit a new doctor and he took blood for general purposes and called me with the surprising news that I am or was pregnant. Long story short after 2 ultrasounds and increasing HCG levels I was sent to the hospital where I received methtrxate. My ectopic did not come with any pain so I am really thankful. I was about 8 weeks so it is amazing that I felt nothing. I am in week 3 post injection and my HCG levels are coming down from 1200 to now 39 which is totally awesome. When it all happened I was just thankful to be ok and that we actually conceived (had doubts as husband has had chemo and radiation in the past). Most recently I am now super emotional and moody. Is this normal? I am scared for the future and now have crazy anxiety! I am caught off gaurd as this seems to be a delayed reaction. Anyway would love to know if this is normal. I am sad for the loss but in reality feel blessed to know I was pregnant so I don't know why I am now such a volatile mess!
Thanks!!!

hi teme

i'm very sorry for your recent loss, but am glad you found out about the pregnancy when you did, cos it can become very dangerous. As for the feelings of moodiness and being anxious - i can totally sympathise because i have been going through this as well. I have been feeling really good the last couple of weeks but then my mood can change just like that. I am very anxious about the thought of being pregnant again and am really not sure if i am going to try again. Have you spoken to your husband about your feelings? Also if you can try and focus on the positive which in your case being able to conceive i think that will really help. I also think you need to tell yourself it's ok to grieve your loss - i really think this will help to move forward.

Any time you want to chat feel free:)

Thank you for your response! I am also very sorry for what you have been through.

My husband is great but I think he is afraid of me right now from the recent moodiness. I guess I thought that it would all be back to normal by now. I guess I am just now allowing myself to feel the other emotions since the fear of the immediate circumstances is reduced. We will all get through this I guess it will take time. I am not the type to linger about things in life but I guess this has taken me by surprise.

Hello to all! I had a right ectopic pregnancy a few years ago. I knew I was pregnant because I had done a serum HCG test. The ER staff were horrible! They didn't believe that I was pregnant, and were trying to rule out appendicitis! When my OBGYN arrived, he told them all off - and I was rushed to OR for lap. surgery. I loss my right tube, and was devastated. A year later, I had a miscarriage - and a year after that - I gave birth to my second daughter. There is hope after ectopic. I know that our families don't really know how to console us during any pregancy loss - I've had five.
I recently (a week ago) had another miscarriage, and am dealing with the sadness and pain now. This time though, not many people in my family know what I've been through. I have two beautiful daughters - and I thank God for them each day. I do want more children - but have been told by my friends/family that I should just be happy with what I have - they feel that I've been through enough pain and heartache . . . I'm lost . . .

teme
you will get back to "normal", MTX is bad with emotions not that anyone will tell you that, but it tends to run with all of us in here that has been treated with it

I am now feeling a lot better and have been able to but the loss behind me and move on (written off the first part of this year as being unemployed did not help) I think getting a job has helped with this

all has not been bad as it was like a wake up call for me and made me realize what I want like job etc.

I guess we all take our time to get through things but it will happen in a way I think I we were lucky to have a medical option rather than surgery as some are not given that option