waking baby to take DP to work

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Hi ladies,
Im probably waaay ahead of myself, seeing as bubs isn't even born yet, but its been bugging me so wanted to ask some opinions.

My DP has lost his licence for a couple of yrs therefore I will be dropping him and picking him up from work. He works weekdays 12noon to 7pm, his work isn't very far away, maybe 15 mins there and back, my worry is that it will really distrupt my baby and her sleeping patterns having to get her up out of bed to go pick him up/drop him off, cause obviously im not gonna leave her at home....

Has anyone had this situation with their dh/dp, or similar? Any suggestions? Pls help!

I'm not sure on how to best manage the sleeping patterns....but couldn't your DP cycle to and from work if it's not that far? He'll get fit and you won't have to wake a sleeping baby :)

My ex lost his license to to his stupidity so i made him ride to and from work..

oh and it wasnt a short ride either, would take him a hr each way


i would prob suggest the same, with only taking him on stinking hot day (even then i still made him ride every now and then)... it really made my ex think long and hard before being stupid behind the wheel again

I wish...but he has to take tech gear e.g. Laptop and files to work so cycling is out of the question, also no public transport goes from near our place to his work so that's out of the question too.

Is it possible for him to leave the laptop and files at work? Another option is for him to ask one of his workmates to give him a lift?

get him one of those delightful looking crates on the back of his bike...

i really think he needs to be made responsible for his actions... get him to at least organize something 2 or 3 days a week...

I remember when i did have to take ex to work, i got so so resentful at him it didnt help our relationship at all.

DP's car recently died and I have been trying to organise 2 kids to be awake fed, dressed etc (as well as myself) by 7am. Most mornings the kids were up but if they weren't I'd just get them up. DS is different as he is older, I have to wake him and give him brekki or else he is cranky but with DD I'd dreamfeed her and put her in the car, sometimes she'd stay asleep other times she'd wake up.

Your DD will get used to being moved around and she will sleep if she is tired. Maybe try to get her into a routine within a few weeks so when you leave to take him she will fall asleep in the car and hopefully transfer from car to cot when you get back. Neither of my 2 had any trouble as babies being moved around while asleep, DD went in and out of 3 shops (car ride between each) and back home before she even knew she left home!

Good luck, I hope you have a great sleeper on your hands :)

If you are doing the dropoff for 12 noon it shouldnt affect bubs too much. I have to wake my kids early coz DH has an early start. Many bubs that do it regularly will also learn to fall asleep as soon as the car starts again, so it shouldnt bother them too much. You may also be lucky in that bubs naps are outside of the pickup and dropoff times so bubs might just coo happily in the back while you drive.

With my first my ex did not have his lisence, so i had to drive him most days, he started at 730 and bub was fine with me getting her up and in the car seat, the only thing i wish i had then was a capsule rather than a convertable car seat. With my now bub I quiet often have to wake her up to take the others to and from school etc. So they are adaptable.

Most second & third, fourth etc babies go through with preschool, kinder, school, activity frop offs for their older siblings. You'll be amazed at how well bub will learn to adapt to it, it wil just becomae part of the routine.

Cool thanks ladies! I was really getting worried. DP works alone so no lift available, I really can't see him cycling, he does 6 days a week atm to make up for me workin less so I think its only fair that I take him...he gets his licence back in a yr from now but even then we will only have one car and I don't like the idea of him driving it and me being stuck at hm all day with bubs and no car...so it'll always be a similar situation til we can afford another car (with car costs inc rego and insurance I doubt it'll be anytime soon).
I was looking at a capsule in target with a base that stays in the car and you just click the capsule in which would be great for transferring bubs without waking her but it was $200 and I really can't justify that for a few months use, esp when we've been given a convertilble car seat for free...hopefully bubs will just get used to it!

I have friends who's bubs sleep through getting in and out of the car, Oskar was never a huge fan of it, but they are all different. You will probably find that your bub will develop a pattern possibly around it as it's happening from birth.

Re: the capsule... you can hire safe and sound capsules (where you leave the base in the car) from the Ambulance. In Qld they are $60 for 6 months and they install it for you. You do usually need to call a few months in advance - up here anyway. Also, there are probably some private hire places too and will probably be a similar price.