Pregnancy After Stillbirth/Recurrent Miscarriage/Late Loss February 2009

Welcome to Pregnancy After Recurrent Miscarriage/StillBirth/Late Loss.
This is an exciting time but also one that can be filled with anxiety and concern. The aim of this forum is to provide women who have suffered from recurrent miscarriage, still birth or a late pregnancy loss a place to meet and share experiences. Many women in this forum will be on medication which brings in itself many questions and areas where support is needed.

We wish you a happy healthy pregnancy and look forward to sharing and supporting each other through this time... The journey is often really challenging but the prize in the end is worth all of the hardship...

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Hello, quiet ladies!

Had my week 32 appointment with the midwife today. I feel like a super-star good girl again. Not that I have a lot of control over it, but it sort of feels like "yay for me!" when it turns out my hemoglobin is high (no iron supplements for me yet), blood sugar is good, blood pressure is low, no protein in the urine, Kebab's head is down... yay! She tried to help guide my hands so I could feel the back and head and such too, but I just couldn't feel it. In fact, I felt like I was pressing all the way down and only felt the back of my own pelvis, no head! But I trust the woman, heh. Plus, the kicks are all up against my left rib, so it seems to fit with how she said Kebab is lying.

So weird to think of another human being hitching a ride with its head between my legs...

:dance:

The not-so-yay is that apparently my legs are too fat for the support socks they use to prevent varicose veins. :rolleyes: Their "wide" version had a calf width of 33-37cm in my shoe size, and my calves are 45 cm around (even though my ankles are too THIN for that size). She measured three times and I sighed and said "Yes, yes, I'm freakishly shaped." That was not a self-esteem-affirming moment. :P

looks like everything is going well for you tildy, keep it up. congratulations.
love cindee

Hi there,
This is the first time I have taken part in a forum, and I am glad there are places where we can talk to other women who may be going through similar situations.
I have just had my second miscarriage, at 9 weeks. My first miscarriage was last September at 7 weeks. I have a beautiful son who is 2 and a half.
When I started bleeding last week, I remember thinking "No, please not again", but after my ultrasound the next day, I knew it was inevitable. My baby had died and was only the size of 6 weeks. I had extremely painful cramps and heavy bleeding. My first miscarriage was alot different. I started bleeding lightly, and an ultrasound showed that the baby was alive, but small for the dates. I was still optimistic - I wasn't cramping at all and really thought that the bleeding would stop eventually. But a week later, I miscarried. I think it was the scariest thing I have ever experienced. To think that it could happen again was always in the back of my mind during my last pregnancy but as I started to creep closer to 12 weeks, I thought everything would be OK.
My lovely obstetrician has prescribed a treatment for my next pregnancy so hopefully that will assist in me carrying to full term. Fingers crossed.
I look forward to hearing some inspirational stories. I know I need to hear them. I think I am going to be extremely anxious during my next pregnancy.
All the best x

Kath - Welcome. I am so sorry for you loss...there are no words...but talking with the wonderful ladies here is so comforting.

Tildy - Great news hun! And look at your ticker...time is moving hey?!

Well I am slowly writing thank you cards for my baby shower...gosh I got spoiled! Had a check up yesterday and all good...Doc described bub as 'big and healthy' which bought me to tears...and then he reminded me that I only see him once more before my final appointment with my Ob...and then the big day...just over 3 weeks to go...I don't know if I can possibly get any bigger though...I'm going to explode for sure!!!!

Hope everyone's doing ok...so quiet in here???

I know I have been absent for a few days but I don't have much to report and I have been under a lot of stress at work.

I am so over having to deal with staff issues and lazy people who don't even want to be there!!

Just want you all to know I think of you all the time and I have been checking posts but I just haven't had the energy to reply or give you all the time you deserve. I am so sorry.

I will get back on track soon.

Love you all and sending all the best wishes I can muster.

Theresa xxx

I was sure I posted ehre too but my post got lost..
ok firstly
Kath, I had 8 msicarriages and am now almsot ready to have this little one. i was refused all help due to my age although testing of the m/c shwoed no abnormalities at all. I hope seeing me pg with Daniel can give you som ehope. I had a stillbrith as well back in 2002. She was 31 weeks and I passed teh 31 week mark this tme also in hospital, more on that later.

Ellie thank you for reminding me, I had better design some thank you cards while I am on bed/couch rest. It will help pass the time.

Tildy yay on such a great appt. lol re the elg size thuogh, If anything mine have gone the toerh way and the weight I had gained has now all gone and I am back to just muscle and baby.. who is STILL Breech :X not happy bout that. and he still measures 3 weeks ahead...

copy/paste from my due date board.
Just letting you know I was in hospital from Sunday afternoon thru to Tuesday 4pm. I injured my back on Saturday afternoon and went to the after hours dr. After touching my back to see how bad it was and making me scream and cry the Dr sent me to the hospital with an admission letter. they too in the A&E prodded my back and got the same response so gave me 10mg morphine and found me a bed on the maternity ward. I had twice daily CTG tracings of bub and was put onto panadeine forte and valium. I have redcued the dose down to 2.5mg instead of 5 coz I hate being zonked out. I am on couch and bed rest and NO housework wit a few exercise the physiotherapist showed me to do... I have been up for too long and my back is paining so I am going back to bed.
Daniel is doing fine and none of the drugs have affected him at all which was my worry and why I cut back on the dosages I was prescribed.
hugs all and hang in there ladies, only a few weeks to go.
If I can get Dh to get down my small suitcase I'll pack my hospital bag instead of stuffing 2 nighties and some undies in the nappy bag... At least now I am better prepared for what to pack rofl.
I was amazed at how many of the midwives I not only rememebr but they also remembered me and Annabelle and samuel. One even went as far abck as being the midwfie who delivered my daughter Tash back in August 1991!!!! And recalled also how quickly the labour and delivery went and Tash being shell shocked at a rapid delivery and needing resucitation. She'll try and be there for Daniel too which will be great if she is rostered on for that shift and can make it. She is now in hospital admin but does deliver the odd baby to keep her hand in (so to speak lol)
Off to bed now my tablets are working and I can move.
hugs
jude

Thanks for making me feel so welcome
Ellie- I am so happy everything is going well for you. You deserve it! Not long to go now!!!
Judy- thankyou for sharing your story,I am so sorry to hear of your losses, I can't imagine the pain you have been through. I am so glad that you and Daniel are doing well and hope your back feels better soon. Rest up and take care.
Kath x

Hi Kath,

welcome, I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure you'll find support from these lovely ladies.

Cindee, I hope I'm not too late to wish you luck and hope your little girl is nice and big whenever she's born.

Jude, I'm so sorry to hear about your back!! I hope you feel better soon.

My goodness Ellie, 3 weeks!!! how exciting!!! I know how you feel about not wanting to wait anymore, mine's not about size, I think I could still get bigger but I don't want any more feet/back pain, or fatigue. And I know I know, the fatigue will get worse as everyone keeps telling me but it doesn't make me less tired now!!! 2 weeks of work to go and counting, sooooooo over it.

Love Rozzie

Hi girls

Hope everyone has been coping okay in this heat!

Jude - that's no good about your stay in hospital over the weekend but good to hear you are back home and that Daniel is doing well. I hope the back pain eases up for you soon.

Kath - welcome to the forum and I am sorry to hear of your 2nd m/c. There is also a TTC section that you might find helpful for when you find yourself back on that journey. But we are here for you too! It sounds like you have a good doctor on board and that can make such a difference as many girls on here can verify.

Theresa -have you had your scan yet? Sorry, maybe you mentioned it already but I have a feeling it is coming up soon?

Rozzie - yay for only a few more weeks till work! I must admit after being off work now for 7 weeks (yikes has it been that long?!) resting, I can't imagine being there at all now! I did consider going back for a week or 2 just to finish things up now that my cervix is staying stable, but then the sensible part of my brain thought "why put myself through an hour drive each way to deal with stress and ****?" so annual leave it is now until my maternity leave kicks in. I have been so lucky with my sick leave only running out this week. The benefits of working for the govt ;)

Ellie - wow only 3 weeks to go! That will fly by I am sure. Can't wait to see your announcement in no time at all with news of our latest arrival.

Tildy - excellent results at your latest appt :clap: How embarassing about the stockings thing though :lol:

AFM, I did my GD test on Monday and my ob hasn't rung me so I am hoping that is good news! I see him tomorrow though for my proper appt so maybe he is saving the news for then. Oh I hope I passed okay :pray: My SIL failed hers so now she has to do the really long test with the special diet and fasting etc. She has a direct diabetes line already in her family...not sure if that makes a difference?
I also had my cervix checked again on Monday and all is great - it is staying long and stable and bubs is growing well. At this stage it is looking like she will be on the smaller side - no complaints here! :D

Hope everyone else is doing well and for those in Sydney, keep cool this weekend! x

Hi ladies - just wanted to pop in and say hi to Jude - a few of you in here are getting very close to meeting your little bubba's!! Jude - sorry to hear about your back, it's good that Doc put you in hospital, and not send you home with a panadol!! It's great to see your ticker so far along - seems to have gone quickly, you'll have Daniel in your arms before you know it. Remy is 5 months and gorgeous, rolling over and chuckling, they just keep getting cuter!! So cute in fact, I'm considering having one more - the final one, just so Remy doesn't grow up kind of being an only child (the others are a good deal older!) - must be mad, as life is pretty hectic with a baby around, but good hectic iykwim! Anyway good luck to you all!!!

Lee xo

Hi Lee... If I hadn't of been in so much pain on Sunday and Tuesday we would have called in as we went passssed your s coz DH tends to go up that way towards Augusta Rd rather than from the city side but you were msot definitely in my thoughts being so clsoe to you.
My SIL who had her little boy on Aug 22 at HPH is also clucky and seeing my belly she wants another one, #4 to round it out. She has 3 boys so far, 8, 3 and 5 mths.
I can't even drive down down to say hi now coz I am no longer allowed to drive :( Drs don't want me driving due to the acute cramp I get in my legs and feet and the back spasms I get that twist me up. I did however manage t make it all day without any valium at all until 8pm. After walking around eastlands to grab a few grocereis and then being in the car to come home from MIL who had samuel for us.... ouchies.

Rozzie you are brave to be still working. To think though that after reading some of the birth stories in P&B and M&B our babies could appear from any moment onwards.... my bag is mostly packed now. dressing gown, nighties, undies, maternity bras, nursrign pads, sanitary pads and toileteries bag.
so tired here but had the msot awful ramp inmy leg which would not release. So I have had a banana and a glass of freeezing cold milk. now back to bed,
big hi to everyone

Hi Ladies

Tildy - Glad you are doing well (except for the sock thing :)

angelicdragon - Hope you are feeling better. Take care of yourself and your gorgeous bub.

Kath26 - welcome. So sorry to hear of your loss. Good luck on your journey.

AngelLukesMum - I am having my scan on Monday!!! I am 8 weeks today and I can't wait. Seeing bub for the first time makes it all "real" I am so excited!!!! Any test results yet?

I am doing fine. Still have this cold and starting to get more m/s but I don't mind as it makes me remember our dream has come true! Have a great weekend!!!

Hi Ladies
Zachary's Mum - Goodluck for tomorrow's scan! Will be thinking of you!
How's everyone else doing?
We had our antenatal class from 9 to 3 yesterday and I am totally wrecked today. It was so much harder than I had prepared myself for. We were the oldest couple there by YEARS and we were the last to do the 'introductions' and everyone else had shared their life stories so I felt compelled to share that this is our 7th Pregnancy and like everyone else in the room, will be our first 'baby'...well there was a sudden intake of oxygen in the room and the midwife congratulated us in a kind of 'brushing over / moving on' kind of a way...whatever!@?! And then they bought in a newborn and I felt like I'd been 'beemed up' sooooo surreal...it was a very bizarre day...think I have a bit of work to do on the emotional front in the next few weeks...yep...about 2 and half weeks to go....thanks for listening ladies...just a big vent from me today...sorry!

Oh Ellie, you poor thing, you're very brave to share your experiences. I'm sorry the ladies and midwives were less than supportive. That makes me angry because I think that part of the reason pregnancy loss is so hard is because it's such a social taboo and it makes us feel so isolated. It should be out in the open because it happens all the time to so very many women. Brave women like you should be encouraged to share your experiences so that it can be easier to deal with.

We ended up cancelling our antenatal classes after having a similar experience at our VBAC class... seeing as we're having a C-section anyway it was a convenient excuse to avoid it! The midwife tried to talk Alec into us going anyway (he rung to cancel) but he said it was too uncomfortable last time. I'll be in hospital for plenty of time afterwards anyway so the midwives can teach us there I figure!!

Rozzie - I was going to cancel but got talked into going by the midwife. Didn't learn anything...but it did reinforce to both of us that we are really happy with having the elective c section....I know it's not for everyone and I respect that but for us it's what we're comfortable with. The class also made me realise that our decision to not have visitors at the hospital was a good one too! If I fall apart I don't want an audience! We're also not telling anyone the date just that I see the ob on the 23rd and bub will arrive sometime later that week...unless bub has other ideas! Your ticker seems to have moved quickly too...how are you feeling?

Hi Ellie,

good, glad to hear we won't miss much!!! I'm feeling not too bad but have a mild case of SPD and sore feet. 2 more weeks of work, I am HANGING out to finish. Also the heat wave is meant to break tomorrow so thank god for that.

I was thinking of keeping the date of the op secret too, partly for the surprise factor for everyone else, also because it may change anyway (you never know) and also I don't want people ringing me the night before or whatever. I haven't mentioned it to DH, don't think he'd be that keen.

Ellie I hadn't even thought of the visitor thing but as thi sis baby #5 alive then I'll probably only have Robert and my dad come in every day and Roberts mum and dad may come in once. Even after a stillbirth the 'novelty' of a new baby wears off on family and freinds very quickly. I am anticiapting a very quiet relaxing hospital stay of the FULL 5 days thsi time. no going home early coz I know wht will be waiting for me at home. No rest. No time to relax. just busy busy.
No ante-natal classes here either coz each pg ha been differenet and each baby ha been differeent so I just go with the flow so to speak.

1:15am and I feel zonkered ou even though I havne't had any back pain releif for about 36 hrs but did my glass of cold milk. My indulgence of a midnight snack is freezing cold milk lol. No wonder I am bigger than any other pg and can't wear the same clothes I did with my other pgs.