Weird cycle and possibly pregnant. Help!

Hello all!

I would love feedback from anyone else who is an avid monthly charter.

I am 28 years old, and have been charting for 3 years, ever since I got off the pill. My cycle is typically 34-35 days long. My temperature reliably peaks anywhere between cd 21-25.

The problem is, my temperature peak and my fluids have NEVER been been in-sync. My fluids are usually the heaviest between cd 13-15. Then, about 8 days later, my temperature peaks. I usually have NO fluids by the time my temperature peaks.

So my question is this: which is more reliable to identify ovulation? Fluids, or your temperature peaking?

Hubby and I had sex on day 14 of this month - smack dab in the midst of fluids. But I figured we were safe because - after all - my temperature wouldn't peak (thus ovulating) until after day 20.

Since day 19 (so for the last 6 days) I have had ongoing bouts with nausea, light-headedness, and increased appetite. It is not going away! I am not a sickly person, and have never had issues with nausea. Even when the nausea is not super intense, it is an "annoying undercurrent," as I have described it to my husband. I am finding that when I eat something, the nausea subsides. So strange! But it is guaranteed to come back within hours, if not sooner.

It is now cd 24, and...guess what? my temperature peaked this morning. So that would suggest I'm in the midst of ovulation now. But because of this very strange - and long-lasting - issue with nausea the last 6 days, I wonder if I could possibly be pregnant and perhaps o'd earlier than my temp would suggest?

Any thoughts out there? Anyone else who experiences fluids and their temp peak being in two different worlds? Could I possibly be pregnant? (This would not be such a bad thing, as we had planned to start trying in the next few months anyway;)

All feedback is appreciated!

I would love to know if anyone else has the experience of their heaviest fluids and temperature peak not matching up, if nothing else!

Does anyone else have this experience? Which occurrence should I use to determine ovulation?

I have the same problem. My CM and cervix position never match up with my temperature rise. At the moment I can't answer your question on which you should pay attention to for fertility. I do, however, have an appointment with a FS on the 12th and that was one of the questions I was going to ask him. I can let you know what he says after that if you are interested.

Sounds all normal to me ladies.

CM signs will increase as you approach O. Temperature rises after O. In my experience, they should not be in sync.

CM most reliable for TTC because it helps to get the timing right because you need to DTD as you approach O.

A temperature rise only indicates that O has occurred - it can happened days later - 3 to 5 days wouldn't be uncommon - so you may have actually O'd earlier than you think. A temp rise on CD24 does not indicate that you are in the midst of O - it happened days ago. You cannot use a temp rise for timing purposes because it has already happened and you would have missed the boat, so to speak.

Symptoms sound hopeful. Keeping fingers crossed and hope you get your BFP.

TICKLISH

Ticklish - do you know if it's common to have a fertile cervix (high soft open) during AF? That's the only time mine is ever not firm and closed, the position moves around heaps, but it's only ever soft and open during AF. As for my CM that's just all over the place. :tmi: I'll have water CM a day after AF leaves, then it'll be sticky or creamy for a bit, then watery again, then I'll be dry. This cycle I had my watery CM on CD7, CD16 then was dry (and I mean DESERT DRY) on CD17 then had EWCM on CD18, then was dry again CD19, then had various levels of creamy and sticky up till today CD26 which is when I had my temperature rise. The only thing that seems to be constant for me is that AF will arrive 10-11 days after my temperature rise.

Sorry to blast you with so much information. I am just getting so frustrated with my body. It has me jumping through hoops. As I said earlier, am really hoping the FS can give me some information about it all.

Hi

A week or two ago there was a thread on gender selection and a link was provided that got me to a website. The website was mainly on different methods of gender swaying, but it had results of a survey where people used different methods of determining ovulation (temp, fluid, O-pain etc) and then the gender of the child.

The survey is here
Gender Selection Timing Intercourse and Ovulation

If you believe in Shettles method, i 'think' the results indicate that Basal Temp is best indicator of ovulation, but i would be interested in hearing your interpretation.

take care,

kate

Sorry taleutia, I don't have any answers on the cervix position thing - I never got the hang of that and I am done with the TTC.

As CM variations - it can happen for some subjective reasons - might be higher than you can check so that type you are looking for is there but not noticeable. I seem to remember there are some better times to check than others - vaguely remember something about CM flowing better after a twinkle (sorry if that is TMI). I remember just noting the general pattern of it without getting to hung up on it at any one time as observations can vary during the day. If you get AF regularly then it sounds like you are O'ing and are in for a chance. As Prof Robert Winston says the only real trick is to DTD and do it often - or words to that effect. Sounds like your luteal phase of your cycle is a normal length and O would occur 11 to 14 days prior to AF's arrival. Anyway, hope you get some answers soon.

TICKLISH

THANK YOU Taleutia, Ticklish and Kate07! I so appreciate the feedback, more than you know.

Taleutia, I would really be interested in what your FS has to say about things off-sync.

And Tickle, I had always thought the temp peak meant that O had occurred the day before the peak. But it sounds like it could be a few days even. Wow. Good to know! :D

Thank you, ladies! And best of luck to you all! :dance:

Hey Lisabisa
Well my appointment at the FS was certainly eventful. It would seem he doesn't think much of anything is working for me :doh:

But to answer your CM question. If your estrogen levels fluctuate or are irregular (as apparently mine are) your CM and CP will change, and generally won't be in sync with your cycle. The FS reckons this can be for quite a number of reasons. On the good side, as long as you're ovulating it doesn't matter if your cervical mucous matches up or not (although it's always a bonus).

Unfortunately this isn't what the FS thinks is happening with me. Which makes things much more complicated. But that's another story.

It sounds like your cycles have been pretty regular for 3 years, so you probably just have fluctuating estrogen levels.

Taleutia ~ thanks so much for the feedback from your appt. It is good to know and definitely answers my question!

I wish you the BEST of luck as you continue this journey!