Feeling so guilty...

My DD is 6 weeks old, and has been co-sleeping and fed to sleep for the last 6 weeks. My MCHN recommended that she needed to be weaned off the feeding to sleep (due to priojectile vomiting of the excess and oversupply issues) and she recomended the "feed, play, sleep" routine (basically control comforting).

So this morning I decided to give it a go and sat with my DD while she cried in her little arms reach co-sleeper. I mean WAILED and stroked her until she was calm. When she woke again 40 mins later I tried to do the same, but she was so upset I had to cuddle her to sleep.

Now I feel awful. Why did I let my baby cry like that? It has been haunting me all day.

I went and bought "the no cry sleep solution" and reading that has made me feel even MORE guilty...

Why, oh why did I listen to that advice???

HI Anna :hug: its such a hard time isnt it, so much advice and sometimes its so wrong or can make you feel so guilty.

I understand the feed to sleep thing, it was hard to wean MJ off that, but obviosly there are other things in play.

MJ use to projectile vomit at that age too... are you feeding her to sleep in bed lying down?
If you are try sitting up and see if this helps, MJ didnt stop until she was crawling although it gt better as time went on (not every day ;))
Also do you burp her after she is asleep? i found that i had to very SLOWLY bring MJ upright when she was asleep to burp her and not have her vomit.

There is nothing wrong with you cuddling your little one to sleep, especially at 6 week old when she is still adjusting to the bi bad world out there.

Follow you gut, its so hard to now whats right
:hug:

Don't feel guilty, we all do things we regret, especially when it comes to parenting and we are trying to find our feet. You are doing the best you can. No cry sleep solutions is a great book with lots of advice. :hug:

If feeding to sleep is contributing to the vomiting, and you think it is best for her to cut it out, then there is nothing wrong with cuddling her to sleep at all.

Don't be too hard on yourself. :hug:

Hi Anna - don't feel guilty :hug:.

Everything will be a bit of trial and error. And if you don't feel comfortable when you try new ways of doing things then don't - especially when bubs is still so new. If you don't mind cuddling to sleep then do it. There were heaps of times where I just cuddled DS to sleep - and there are still times I do it now if he needs it (usually when he is overtired). In time you may feel more comfortable to try those new ways again, keep in mind that most new ways of doing things may take 2 or 3 days of training/perfecting (that's what happens with us anyway). Go with what your comfortable doing for now.

In regards to the feeding to sleep...I would always have to burp DS after a feed (as he was a chucker - occassionally still is), and I would usually find when I burped him over my shoulder he would still fall asleep....could you maybe do it this way? That way you get a burp, maybe a chuck, then she will fall asleep for you to lay her down - that worked for us anyway.