New, Confused and a Little Lost!

Hi, my name is Tracey and my partner and I have been trying for a baby for 2 years. October last year he finally agreed to have a sperm test done, and the results were bad. He had a very low count, and 98% defected. I was devastated, but the gyno said to wait until the next test before we panicked.

So, his latest test came back last week, and the count is still low but almost no defected sperm to be found. I guess thats a plus.

We have an appointment with a fertility clinic on 5th March, but I have no idea what is going to happen. I don't know the first thing about IVF or fertility treatments, all I know is that I want this baby more than anything in the world. I don't even know where to start looking for information, when I sit down and try I just find myself getting angry and frustrated every time.

So, I wanted to introduce myself here, and maybe I can find some answers finally so that I can be a little prepared for this appointment!

Welcome to BellyBelly.
I am sorry for the hurdle you and DH are having to go through to become parents. I don't have any information for you, but wanted to welcome you. I hope others have the information you need.
Best of luck with your TTC journey.

Hi pinkjellybeans,
Welcome to BB and I'm sorry you're having some hurdles in TTC. A good thread to join is 'Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception - January 2009'. This thread is for women (and men!) TTC for longer than 12 months, and the ladies there know a lot about assisted conception. Good luck, I hope you get all the information you need!
Beata xxx

Welcome to BellyBelly Pinkjellybeans.

I am going to move your post to the Long Term TTC area as the ladies there will be able to provide you answers and any support you may need.

Best of luck with your FS.

It is always a shock to find out that something is making it harder for you to conceive. You are not alone and feel free to ask as many questions as you would like.

Welcome to bellybelly. So sorry to hear you are having trouble TTC. Assisted conception can be so confusing sometimes but please ask as many questions as you have on here. There are plenty of people around to help out. I have found this site a lifeline at times when I have had some difficult questions.

Good luck when you go to the FS.

Hi pinkjellybeans,

Sorry that you are having to deal with this, and hope your stay here is very short. It is my personal opinion that those women seeking fertility treatment where the failure to concieve has been from male factor infertility, that they seem to come and go much quicker. That is, once the male factor is overcome through IVF or similar, it seems they conceive more quickly ie first or second cycles, which kind of makes sense I guess. I hope this is the case for you.

I know it seems very overwhelming, I would recommend waiting until your FS appointment, they will go over your circumstance and provide some recommendations, along with brochures on the types of treatment available. Don't feel like you need to know everything at once. Some of us who have been here for a while do tones of research, but I have also meet online women who just rely on the nurses and the FS to tell them what is going on, what to do when, and they seem to do well doing it this way also.

I guess the longer it takes with AC, the more you will research, but again, I hope your stay in here is very short. Best of luck with your FS appointment.

well we all felt like you at some stage, well most of us anyway. the thing is get all your questions down and when you see you fs he is the best one to give you the answers. i was like you this time last year, i had my first fs app in march 08. we have answers but still plodding along. hope you get some answers soon. good luck.

Hi Pinkjellybeans,

Welcome :D

Starting IVF is very daunting and surreal. I personally found this site VERY helpful especially LTTTC and LT Assisted Conception. You'll find lots of women who are going through the same and whom share their experiences which will give you insight as to how IVF works and the emotions that you experience.

Good luck with your journey. Ask lots of questions where you can especially when you see your FS.

Take care,

Tania

Just wanted to let you know my good friends had been trying for over 12months, went for check ups etc, he was similar, had 99% bad sperm, they were sent to fertility clinic and they fell preg 1st try with clomid. They gave her meds and him also, and the fertility Dr was ever so confident they would fall preg, so I am sure you will be fine. Good luck

Hi PJB,

Honestly I don't know much about mens fertility...but what I can tell you is..after being on here a while and thru friends...one of the first things the FS ususally recommend (besides more tests) is for the men to take Menevit.
It is just vitamins - available at the Chemist.
Apparently it often improves some issues.
All the best with the FS but I'd get a start on the Menevit anyway...it certainly can't hurt.

Goodluck..

Awww sweetheart,

I don't have any answers but just wanted to say I have been with BB for a few years now, read mostly but they are the FIRST place I turn to for support. I have never ever felt isolated here, no one has ever been rude to me and the love that pours outta my lappy screen...well, it is amazing.:lol::lol:

I hope a ray of light shines upon you very very soon.

xxxx