TTC- Men Not Pulling Their Weight!!!
Anyone else get really frustrated when your DH/DP doesn't carry their weight on the TTC front?
It never ceases to amaze me how, when a couple are having trouble TTC, the woman immediately does most things in her power to clean up her diet, eliminate alcohol, coffee, junk food, additives, etc- and the male counterparts just carry on boozing and eating rubbish as though they have nothing to do with the baby-making process. Gggrrrr!
Friends of ours are trying to conceive, with no luck so far. She explained on the weekend that she is not drinking at the moment as they are TTC. Fair enough, I thought. Then her hubby proceeds to down about 7 pints over the space of 3 hours, and continues to pressure my DH (we are also TTC 2#) into keeping scores with him. I can see that DH is feeling sickly and unwilling to keep up with him, but he continues to drink as his friend continues to provide and put the pressure on. Can he not just grow some balls and say 'no' I've had enough and WE are trying to conceive!!?? It's not like I am expecting an immaculate conception here on my own or anything!!! And as for my poor friend??? Has she really any hope when her DH trashes his body like this every single weekend??? The sperm are probably swimming downstream (or are dead before they have the chance...):redface:
I also think that as women, we automatically assume that there is something wrong with US if we cannot conceive- when in reality, we can turn our bodies into greenhouses, yet still no sperm is gonna hit the target if it is sluggish with booze and other nasties.
I think there needs to be far more awareness of how male diet and drinking patterns and chemical toxin exposure (ie- personal care products like aftershave, etc) affects sperm health and a couples chances of conceiving.
Ahhh- I feel so much better for getting that out. Lol - seriously though, I think this is an issue that probably effects many couples out there. I just think that, if I am going to make all these sacrifices to avoid ingesting toxins to make sure my body is in prime condition to carry a baby- then he should at least be making sure that he gets his sperm in good nick so that we can give it our absolute best shot!