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It will be one year on Sunday since I lost my little baby. I don't know what to do with myself. Should I stay at home in bed and mourn?? Should I act like it's just anohter day??? MY DF has to work a 24 that day so I will be all alone... Not much to look foward to. So many women on here say they do special things every year for there angel, but I don't even know what to do... :wall:
loopy girl21 just wanted to give you a big hug :hug: and hope you have a very special day
You could go & let a balloon go or something else :)
Thinking of you :hug:
Maybe plant a special plant in your garden? Or light a candle?
I haven't lost a baby, but lost a childhood friend when i was younger. Every year on the anniversary, i get a helium balloon and find a park or somewhere comfortable to me and release it. I always choose a bright colour. It is a way for me to connect with my memories. It is something i can do wherever i am in the world on that day.
Whatever you do, it has to be something that you are comfortable with. If you feel like laying in bed, do that. But if you want to take a walk in the park, have a cuppa with a mate, light a candle, plant some flowers or release a balloon all those things are ok too.
take care,
Kate
Hey loopy girl :hug: Been thinking about you and meaning to e-mail you, especially lately with our approaching anniversaries. I think only you know what's best for you, but for me, I think laying in bed mourning all day (especially if you're all alone) will only bring you misery, instead of peace. For the anniversary of my EDD, I bought a candle which has an angel leading some children along a path, and I kept it lit all day. We also planted a pink hibiscus plant in our front yard. It doesn't have to be much, but I think you'd feel better if you did something in honor of your little angel. I'm not sure myself what I'm going to do on the 5th... the 6th is my b-day... I know I'm going to do a tandem jump (yes, me!) for my b-day, but probably not on it--depends on the weather, really. I look at is like I'll be flying with my angels...
Best of luck with whatever you decide to do--no matter what, it will be special, because it's to honor your :angel: Take care, hon... thinking of you and keeping you in my :pray:
I just wanted to tell you I feel the same whay as you do.ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh it will be a year that my baby past on 3/10/08 and I very devasted as the day get closer I feel the pain getting worst.....I think I am just going to take the day off of work and go visit him at the cementary and light some white candles..sometimes I feel like crying and yelling....I am trying to stay as positive as I can and try my best to make that day a special day for me and not a terriable day......best wishes to all you ladies!!!
Unfortunatly for me I lost my angel on christmas day 05, that was the worst xmas I have ever experienced. Luckily for me by the time the next xmas came around I was 6 months preg, this made the day alot more bearable. When the date angel was due comes around I head to the cemetery where my nan and pop are buried, as I planted a beautiful rose called "baby jack" on their grave. It gives me a chance to clear my mind and prepare for the year ahead. Maybe planting something could be your way of finding some inner peace. It will always be with you but does become a little easier slowly.
The days of the anniversary and the EDD are the hardest. You have to battle through. You will never forget your little angel bub, but carry it with you in your heart no matter where life leads you.
I feel for you. I am thinking of you. xxoo
Hi loopy_girl21
I'm so sorry I missed your post hun! I hope the day of your baby's EDD was as gentle and peaceful as possible, sending you huge hugs hun :hug:
Beata xxx