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I'm always wondering if I can try again, but the problem is getting past my brain (LOL). How did you get past the thoughts that body failed you twice in the past, even if it may not have been the case. How did you learn to trust your body enough to try?
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Anyone?
Sorry Sarah, my Dr's wouldnt let me try VBAC2 especially since I was already under high risk pgcy. They wouldnt even let me go into labour they kept telling me it was too dangerous for me. SO I had to have my little V by C/S again. She was the only one that I didnt get to experience labour pains, actually felt abit cheated, but the most important thing was that I had my V safe and sound in my arms. For me as well my labours were always long and they just seemed to get worse after each baby, so in a way I was also glad that they didnt let me try IYKWIM, I had come that far that I didnt want to risk her life, I would never have forgiven myself if I did and something happened. As it turns out, the Surgeon had leaned over the curtain to me to say how difficult it was to stitch me back up as they couldnt stop some bleeding as there was too much scarring. He had to put a leak bag to help with the bleeding and took it out around 3-4days later. He also advised that I not have anymore children. :cry:
Sorry if it wasnt what you wanted to hear hunni. :hug:
Sarah - unlike you, I don't have any reason not to believe my body can do it, because I never went into labour in the first place. So my head space is getting into the vibe to actually get into bloody labour!
Maybe it would help if you looked at it like your other bubs were destined to be born via c-section - whereas your third might be destined to be born by VB.
You never know what the future holds - and the way that our children wish to be born.
Good luck babe.
I am going for vb after 2 CS and while of course I have encountered massive opposition from the obs when it comes down to it, I don't see them as letting me try, I see it as me trying and not letting them cut me open unnecessarily. I have a lovely midwife in caseload, and trust her, so if she tells me to call it in and go for a CS I will, in some cases there are underlying complications and the advice against it is sound, just none of it applies to me! So, what will be will be, each pregnancy and labour deserves to be treated on its own merits, wish me luck, and i wish you luck whichever way you go!!
Kate
Sarah, I can't really help as I only had one c/s before VBAC but it's a mental battle at any time really. Did you do a hypnobirthing course before?? If not, I highly recommend that as it deals with fears and how to help you release those fears to free your mind to focus on the birthing of bub. I found it invaluable and just did a refresher last week. I still had to then deal with mental issues of was it a fluke etc.
Ask any questions if I can help I will... pm me if you do ask cos I forget where I post sometimes...lol.
BTW... I ADORE your ticker pic!
I have been thinking about this ever since my second emergency cs almost a year ago. At first I thought I would just book a cs next time but the closer I get to TTC (in about two months) the more my mind in made up that I will try a vba2c. I have always wanted a very natural birth with no intervention what so ever but both of my births I have had an epidural and I feel that maybe with the right support I next time I may be strong enough to bypass the epi. I went private with the same ob both times but next time I plan on going to King Edward, a public hospital and I am going to hire a doula and maybe even an independant midwife and try hypnobirthing. In other words I am going to do everything different. I believe I can do it and I will give it a good try. I know you wanted to hear from people who have already had a vba2c but thought I would add my bit anyway.
Hi!
You CAN have a VBA2C! I had one less than 50hrs ago! Yep thats right two days a go! I'd encourge you to read lots of birth stories. Read lots of research and know the statistics. Know how rare it is for uterine rupture compared to other risks. ANd most of all surround yourself by people who believe in you and your body. There was times when I was in labor (and pushing) that I was doubting myself! Its not uncommon to doubt yourself you just need the info in your head so you can remind yourself that you can. It is also completly normal to sway from feeling like you can to doubting yourself.I hired a private midwife and she was amazing! Just knowing that she was there and had complete faith in me and my body and wasn't going to over react to anything.... It was such a comfort and I believe it was her my awesome OB and hubby that got me thru. You can do it. If you have any questions or I havn't made sence just ask as I am still quite emotional about the whole wonderful experience.
Jules
Sarah,
I remember reading somewhere in Silent Knife about how sometimes women need to have a couple of goes at VBAC... can't remember the exact words.... I am happy to lend you my copy (as long as an upcoming client desn't want it)
julie_ann_jules - Could i ask where you birthed your baby? I am looking at having a VBAC when my sticky baby is concieved and I am in your area. It seems you got alot of support. I birthed my DD at Monash, my Ob was really supportive with me going for a VBAC with #2 but I am undecided as to where I plan to birth my next baby.
(Sorry Sarah - didn't mean to take over your thread :D)
Read it before Juliette Tan ;) Thanks for the offer though.
Hi Daintreedream (sorry I can't work out how to PM)
I had bubs at Warragul hospital. It sounds like a long trip but its only 40min (monash can take that in traffic) they have one of the best VBAC rates. The OB I had (is awesome and bulkbills health care card holders and has good fees anyway) has AWESOME VBAC rates. His current is about 3/4 women have a VBAC. i had a VBA2C and I had complications - Gestational Diabetes and no fetal movments which led to me being induced at 38weeks. My ob induced me with a baloon cathedar (something I'd never heard of) they put the chathedar into your cervix. Basically the pressure from the catheder trick your body into thinking its the babys head and you naturally produce your own prostiglandins. This softens and begins to dialate your cervix. Apparently most women have it put in at night and will be 3cm dialated in the morning (enough to rupture membranes) Anyway. I also had a private Midwife (who does homebirths and she will do VBAC homebirths) I wasn't comfortable with a homebirth though. I still believe I would ahve had a VBAC without having her there BUT I had LOTS of emational baggage from my past two c-sections that she helped me work thru. Warragul also have the KYM (know your midwife) program. You meet 4 midwifes thru your pregnancy and they are on call so one of them will be the one to deliver your baby. They also have lots of experience in VBAC and have excellent info. They sat with me and talked thru my fears and past medical history (from the births) etc etc.
Good luck with your VBAC :O)
Though you may have Sarah :)
Thought about homebirth? How far are you from your hossy?
I had one emergency c-section on elective and then my VBA2C. I didn't have any issues with thinking I could not do it though.
My labour was great. I'm doing it all again in August....
Sorry this is a bit short I'm dealing with a bit of gender disapointment (boy #4) so I am not myself at the moment. I'll be back in my usual head space in a few days and will come back and post more then
Nup, it's just not for me Tan. Not sure about hospital yet, no idea which one I'll go to other than not the one I was at for the last two births ;) The before care was fine, but afterwards sucked.:
Hey Sarah, I think your brain might not be as difficult to overcome as you think.
You mentioned your dream in which you saw yourself birth a baby girl - your brain got that far, maybe its a beginning of a process that WILL see you achieve VBAC2?
Wonder if it will be another little girl?
And the mystery BB girl, may actually be BB in its entirety - because you know we will all be there with you (in spirit luckily!).
OOoohhhh I love that Lulu... love it.....
Sarah - you know I'll be holding your hand if you need to all through your next one - just like I'm expecting your hand to be there for me when I need a boost.
*mwah*