He doesn't do ANYTHING I ask!!

OK.. granted I probably have PMS today and my buttons are more easily pushed.. but OMG.. I have had it up to HERE with my 3yr old. Doesn't matter what I ask, how I ask it... he just won't do anything I ask!! I ask him to go to the toilet, he hasn't been for aaaaages and is dancing a jig, but nope won't go. eventually takes himself, after he's already started to wet his pants.. he doesn't do a full wee in his pants.. but they are still wet. ARGH. I ask him to keep all the playing cards together and not scatter them across the floor..as we're picking them up... and of course he does it again.. so.. cards are now on top of the fridge. I ask him to stop throwing blocks across the room... ignored. I ask him to stop kicking the toys around the floor.. ignored. I can count to 3, I can offer to help.. argh... nothing works. His usual excuse for not picking something up is that he can't.. it's too heavy. OMG.. nothing irritates me more than him saying that.

I almost beg & plead with him to be nice to his sister, but the poor girl only has to walk past him and she gets told to "go away" and gets hit. Every time he walks past her he elbows her and knocks her down. Then he gets on top of her and squashes her.

I try and encourage them to take turns with something.. trying to encourage sharing.. very very rarely will he actually do it, and yes I praise him if he actually does it.. altho just now I called him over to me for a second.. with the intention of smothering him with hugs & kisses for sharing a toy with Kayla.. and all he was worried about was her getting hold of the toy, and he put up a fight just trying to get him to come over to me. It's just ridiculous. As soon as DD gets hold of something, he decides he has to have it and snatches it off her and hits her if she tries to get it back.

I started off the day with zero tolerance, and found myself almost lecturing the poor thing on playing nice with his sister. then later I decided to change tack and gave him a definition of what playing nice means.. that he shares toys and talks nicely. So I tried doing gentle reminders of this for a while... pfft.. why bother.. seriously.

He is just sooo defiant, and doesn't listen to a thing I say :( HELP!!! I'm ready to lock him in his room and throw away the key! He also tells us to 'go away' and spits at us.. which I decided to go hardline on the last few days too.. coz ignoring it certainly didn't work.. and he does it in front of other people too..

waaaaaa... someone give me a time machine so I can just skip the next year or so!!

Ugh... sounds frustrating... I have no advice to offer (sorry) but can I offer a :hug: or a big glass of wine?????

Oh god does this mean I have another year of this. I'm going to go insane.

No advice cos I have it here too - but lots of sympathy.. (and alcohol in spirit?)

This probably shoudl have just been a boohoo vent I spose. I can tell you having a 3 yr old has made me appreciate the 1yr old stage much more! They are so eager to please at that age, they happily pack away toys, close the drawer they're getting into... *sigh*

He can be such a sweet boy, I really really hope that sweet boy is what comes out at the end of what I hope is a stage!!

ETA: oh.. and that glass of wine sound DEVINE!! might get DH to rustle up a drink tonight haha. I'm sure I can squeeze one in after Kayla's feed.

my son is the same but now dd is copying so i have double the annoying traits....

OMG, Liz your day sounds like mine with my nearly 3 year old DD ... i said to my DP only moments ago on the phone when he rang from work to say - i feel like she is becoming the terrible 2 year old all over again (but smarter) with the stomping of the feet & not being able to reason with her when she wants to do something like right now or wants that thing right now ... augh !!! ... And almost always it's gotta happen in public :doh:

Well, they do say the new 3 is the new 2 (hope i've got that right or i've just confused myself, LOL ... after a shocker of a day with her ... and she was soooo lovely yesterday ;))

P.S - I second Mel's comments there all the way !!!!!!!!!!!

THANK YOU :)

Seth has spent so much time in his room, and the other night he went to bed at 5:30 (didn't fall asleep till 7) because I am over his behaviour. We never had terrible twos, and DD never was like this but I'm finding when he gets like this I just give him heaps of attention and it seems to pass... strange but true.

But THANK YOU for letting me know I'm not alone!

We actually survived the 2's quite nicely.. I've even had people say they're glad to see we have a 'normal' child after all LOL. He was freakishly well behaved for a long time there!