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I know this is a common feeling/question.
I am having an ... is it ever going to be my turn moment.
Last week I found out a girl at work is expecting. Then last night my brother told me they are expecting and then this morning my best friend tells me she is expecting.
GIVE ME A BREAK ...... WHEN WILL IT BE MY TURN?
Dont get me wrong I am over the moon for all of them, but really 3 in a week, come on.
Just a light hearted ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHH. That is what is needed.:wall:
I hear you Saph and I'm not even living through any announcements at the moment.
Big hugs, and strength to not :wall: yourself to an injury :)
i don't know if this is the way it is for you, but for us (my DH and I) we both felt that the feelings would come in waves. there would be periods where all we could see and hear were babies being born around us while we were left (silently) behind. then there would be other periods where the wave would ebb away and we could get through without the constant reminder. not sure if this helps at all, but just wanted to send some solidarity.
:hug:
it's the worst feeling when life feels like it's standing still for you and everyone else is having their lives push on and getting that one thing you so desire! sucks big time!! i found myself in the situation where, from start of Dec 2007 to end of Jan 2008 i knew 15 people that were having babies (and they were just the ones i was close to - heaps at work too!) and it seriously did my head in!
good on you for getting it out - it's always better to express this to people who will get it rather than bottling it all up - it helps so much for you to express that angst!!
when it does happen for you, you're sure to be ecstatic and those around you will be so excited for you - until then, let off steam in here (it works heaps!)
good luck to you hun
BG
Hi Saph,
I know where you are coming from, my SIL is pregnant with triplets first month trying. Here I am 4.5 years later and no baby. I have about 4 other friends UTD at the moment, but seems there has been a bit of a lull, though I still see pregnant women everywhere. I am now dreading for all of my friends who have had babies a year or two ago, to start announcing they are on their 2nd and 3rd. I really feel left behind and struggle not to be jealous. The only thing I keep telling my self is that one day it will happen for me, and I can't imagine anyone else in the world that will be as happy as I will be the day I get my first BFP. Hopefully some day soon.
One other thing I did hear to keep you positive is that you should look at the more pregnancy announcements, preggo bellies and new babies you see/hear, it is the universes way of telling you your own in getting closer. This is the only thing that keeps me going. Best of luck.
Saph- I hear you too and am sorry it can be so hard and life can be so unfair!
I have a close friend pregnant, another at work (who smokes and drinks still :doh:) plus plenty of other acquaintances and its hard. I feel guilty sometimes for not being more happy for them, i guess my emotions are just mixed with the dissapointment i feel for myself etc
hopefully your turn will be very soon!
it seems when you want another baby so badly pregnant women are everywhere, i am sure they follow me deliberatly !.
we have some close friends who announced they were preg not that long ago, it was when i got my last BFN, i found it so hard for me to be happy, but i am feeling ok about it now.
the thing is her and her DH tried for 4 years and she felt like you do now, in that time her DH sis had a baby ( and they live next door!), friends had babies and 2 friends were pg with 2nd baby before she got her BFP.
it's hard waiting but i just say to myself it will happen one day, i will have my baby, and i'll be so tired getting up to baby and so busy with another child. i visualise it as being real.
this helps me.
hope this helps you.
in the man time, scream into a pillow or something.
good luck. xx
Thanks guys. I feel very positive and am a big believer in fate. It will happen for us when the time is right. But you know fate could hurry up.
Hey to top it all off a friend had her baby today. Yeah. LOL
I saw my brother yesterday and he is positively glowing so I am so happy for him. I know this will be the best thing in the world for him, I think it will make him really grow up and settle. Little brothers always seem to take a while to get it all together. But since Dad died he seems to be pulling it together.
I am a bit worried about my other friend she has had a very faint +ve but thinks she is about six weeks. I so hope she has her dates wrong and nothing else is amiss.
Anyway I must be ok as I am worrioed about there well being.
Saph, I feel exactly the same...
I't a mix of feelings when people announce pregnancies...
'why not me?' question always popping in my head... and it's true the whole world seems pregnant!... :wall:
I was the first one of our group of friends wanting a baby... They were all not sure about starting a family but it was always what I wanted the most!... All my friends now have kids and already trying 2nds... but me :(
But like Cassius said it come in waves... and we just have to think positive I guess...