how do i connect to him?

well im putting this question out there, probably really silly really, but i thought i would ask.

hubby passed 9 months ago, and since then i have seen a phsychic, and he came through very strong, i know he is with me at times, and is in the house, i think he is behind a few things that im doing, i have a few big decisions to make this year ie: where to move to, this is going to be a huge decision, for me, so i really dont want to stuff it up, a girlfreind told me i should try and find out how to connect to him in a spiritual way, so my question really is, is there anyway i can learn to connect to him spiratually, i really dont know if that made any sence, but i would love a way to still be able to connect to him, so how do mediums connect with the no longer living? i might be just rambling, oh he comes to me in dreams also alot, maybe thats a way hes still here with me

chrissy
I am not a medium, nor do i claim to be able to communicate with those that are passed, but i do pick up on things and i thought i would just share what works for me.

firstly i am so sorry for your loss- your DH was truly your soulmate and watches over you constantly!!! I feel that he was such a beautiful spirit- so gentle, like a teddy bear, but his look did not match his personality- if that makes sense. He is soo proud of you and all that you have done/doing since he passed- he knew you would be OK, but he just is waiting for you to realise the same thing.

When i was reading your post- i could see you answering your own question!! Your dreams !!! Listen and take note of the dreams you have about your hubby. There are signs and symbols that come through that will make sense to you. Write them down, perhaps keep a journal. Maybe you will start to see patterns or messages emerging.

He will not leave you until you are ready for him to. You will know when that time comes.

Everyone receives messages from people who have passed in different ways. For me
when i hear from people that are no longer earthside i often hear thoughts in my head. Like my subconcious talking to me- but it is coming from them. I get messages like i am having conversations with them, but it in my head.

Another friend of mine gets messages from songs on the radio that keep on popping in her head for no particular reason. She then listens to these songs and that is how her mum communicates to her.

My DH gets smells. He smells things that no-one else can. He smells cigars when his grandfather is around for instance. I will be next to him and i cant smell it mind you!

Other people have more obvious signs appear. When i went over to my nans house the other day (she passed over 4 weeks ago) her smoke detector kept on going off. Not just one beep, but heaps- lol she always told me that she would give me a sign somehow that she was over the other side - and it was loud and clear. It only went off twice and i went off for around 20 seconds each time. I wasnt scared, but just chuckled.


Perhaps try some meditation when you have some time to yourself. Listen to your inner thoughts and hear what they say to you. Trust your instincts- they are never wrong and believe in yourself. You are a strong woman- you just have to start believing it!!!!

take care hun and be kind to yourself. true soulmates can never be parted!!!

I agree.

I lost my soul mate nearly 10 years ago now. There were times in my dreams when I could see him, but I had one dream that was awful - he was there next to me but not really him. His mum came in and said my grief was so raw that I didn't say good bye that everyone tried to bring him back for me...but it didn't work, he was just a shell.

I learnt then that I can't chase him, I can't connect to him spiritually but he can to me- maybe when he thinks I need it. I still feel him sometimes and have the occasional dreams, but it's the times that I am most fearful or am trying to sort out a huge mess that I KNOW he is there. I can feel him smiling in my chest. I can't ask him for direction or the right thing to do, but he will be right there with me because he knows I will make the right decision, or even if I make the wrong one he will be laughing at my total Lucyness and even that makes me feel better. Because he really is still there, I can feel it.

hth xoxoxoxo

thanks girls

det, the way you described him was to a T...he always had a angry look but was no way like that he was a teddy bear really, and yes he was my soulmate, we both knew we were made for one another.

funny you mention the "song" thing, i was out with one of his mates, about a month ago, and this band played one of the songs we plyed at his funeral ( this song was also on the radio when i was in labour with liam), so i lost it big time, and since then, im here it on the radio all the time, like when i stopped at the pettrol staion, it was playing through the load speakers, or when i jump in the car to start it, its playing..but i do get the song thing.

my dreams are so real, that i wake up in tears only to realise its only a dream and he is no longer here with us, but a journal sounds like a good idea, as i have also dreamt about were i want to move to, and the people there.

my lamp next to my bed also flickers, i know he is behind this, he was an electrician, and i can talk to him in my room and then my lamp starts doing weird things when i ask him things......