advise or help??

My XP left me when he found out i was going to keep going along with the pregnancy he said he just couldnt do the whole family thing with me and i could see it just freaked him out... i remember him begging me ringing me sayng that he would do anything if i would terminate it.it hurt me so much i was doing the last few months of my HSC at the time and it was the most stressfull time but i pulled through by thinking about this beautiful baby i was doing it for. Thank god i had such an amazing family n friend spport network or i dont no how i would have got through it.
My xp moved away to get away from everything and to study at tafe apparently..

Now i have the most beautiful baby girl Grace who is my entire worldv who is 8 weeks old, she has her fathers blue eyes and even though its hard at times i so glad that i stayed strong n had her.

Graces dad has accepted things now, and apologised for how things were at the start even though he is moved away since i was pregnant he has come up a few times to see her and you can tell he absolutly adores her but its so hard seeing him with her she doesnt even kno who he is

The issues im having are trying to move on with mylife even though i still have feelings for my xp but then i hate him aswell iv had alot of anger im just scared one day hes gunna want to have more to do with her n want shared custody of her i know it would b good for her to have more to do with her dad but i cant stand the thought of him hurting her in anyway or like he hurt me.
it sereiously breaks my heart to think about it even though he has only seen her a few times since she was born my bubba girl screams n cries wen he does see her and is really unsettled afterthe visits

does anyone have any advise or anyone in a similar situation i just needed to let some of my story out :redface:

i really wish i had advice hun but i dont its somethig you have to work out my DS cries and cries when he sees hiss dad rock up but i have to put him in and stay happy and then he stops crying as soon as im not there may be your DD is picking up on ur unhappy vibes after XP goes..just try and be happy when XP comnes and sees her at least he had a turn around and DD is only 8 weeksold so you still having those firt time mummy "no one is taking my baby away" feelings just let things prgress! if ya ever need to talk im alway here take care!! congrats on a beautiful baby too! xox

I'm in a very similar situation - my daughter is 9 weeks old today and her dad hasn't been around much either. I found out i was pregnant, the next day he broke up with me and tried 3 times to force me into termination. He ignored the situation and spread stories about me and the fact that the baby wasn't his until 8 weeks before i gave birth. He then tried to carry on like he did nothing and expected me to do the same. He saw her at the hospital and has only seen her twice since because i thought i'd better do the right thing and take her to visit him, not because he rang and asked me to. I have since found out that #1 he was saying that if i had a girl he wanted nothing to do with it, #2 he reckons he's too old (he's 43) to be a dad and #3 he expects to be involved with her but won't pay maintenance. I have gone to a solicitor to help me because he wouldn't sign the birth cert cause she has my surname so now my little girl has to have a DNA test. I know that my little girl deserves to know her dad but if i had my way she wouldn't because all i can see is her being hurt later on. If you ever want to chat, feel free to message me.

:hug: hugs from me.
don't have any advice but am thinking of you.

thanks so much to everyone for their advise it has helped me alot to know i have a place where i can let out my problems and people hear me and its nice to know there ppl out there with similiar situations and problems. im not sure how to add ppl as friends on this or chat to them but i would love to have chat if u guys could add me as a friend thanks so much