Not Engaging

Hi guys went to see my Ob today, turns out Jellybean is not engaging and is in a posterior position. Going to see Ob again on Monday next week and it will be decided wether i'll be induced or get a c-section on Tuesday. Ob said he does'nt think Jellybean will make much progress in the engaging department.

Is there anything i can do to get jellybean to turn? Totaly want as natrual birth as possible :pray:.

Sorry if i sound pushy but I don't have the net at home yet and i'm at mums till late tonight so may i have some advice asap. Sorry Guys but thanks:hug:

Yep, I was told my the midwife in our ante-natal class to stand on all-fours while watching TV etc or drape yourself over a fit ball. She said the laying back (reclining) position that most people sit in while watching TV keeps the baby in the posterior position. I found standing on all-fours quite uncomfortable after about 10 minutes but she said even leaning forward in your lounge chair (elbows on your knees and your knees lower than your pelvis) will do the same thing.

Good luck!

Hi
You can also check out spinningbabies website for hints and info on how to tell the position of your baby.
How far over are you? Any other signs that your body is getting ready? Hope it all goes well for you

Yep get on all 4's scrub the shower , etc...

although i tried everything possible to get bubs top engage and nothing... both my 2 were post date... but they did both come eventually..

I'd suggest if i could go back to relax, enjoy. i spent the last 3 weeks trying all 4's being upright and rocking, climbing up stairs, RLT, EPO, sex, bumpy drives, walking, fit balls. and so many i cant even remember.

Wish i could be of more help... Just wanted to say i know how ur feeling. good luck

Both my girls were posterior labours, and my second labour was natural, no pain relief and I didn't tear. Yes it hurts like hell, but you can achieve a natural labour with them being posterior.
Check out the spinning babies website which has been mentioned above.
As for bub engaging, can't help you there. But keep in mind that some babies don't start engaging until labour starts.

:hug:
Thanks Guys. great help going to look at spinning babies now.

DD1 didn't engage at all (except obviously while she was being born!) and was posterior. She was induced due to high BP and I was losing weight and was forceps but I only had gas and pethadine.

The only one of mine to engage before birth was DD1.
The other 2 were posterior & sideways & both were natural labours, not induced & no stitches. Both turned during labour.
The back pain is bad, but I did it twice.
Don't let him force you into anything. at 39+6 I was booked in for an induction with DD1 for 40+2. I refused after talking it over with my gp & she came by herself at 41+1. & she was engaged 4/5.
DD2 was 41 & DS was 39+5. Both were posterior/sideways & not engaged.

Hi Jojo, can i just say please don't rush into booking that c section. Your baby can be birthed jsut fine and safely vaginally, even in a posterior position.

In the mean time you can do as suggested. Get on all 4's, make sure your sitting upright, sit on your chair backwards. You can also try moxibustion and acupuncture. These both have great success.

I birthed my second baby posterior, he never engaged until I was in labour. Then it was a 90 minute labour.

You CAN do it huni. Don't let your uterus get damaged if it's really not warranted :hug:

Hi, I would avoid the C-section if possible also, I have had 2 posterior labours yes they are more painfull but better than a c-section recovery, I have been told that many babies go to that position because they have more room to move, I also think that it delays labour and you may go overdue, but many babies do anyway, only of concern if movement are lessing and you can be monitered if need be.
Best of luck don't rush into anything, a few more days won't hurt....

Hi Guys Back at mum's Yay a Normal house! ours is a s*^t heap as we are still renovating. Anyway thanks for all your advise, I've decided the only way i'm going to have a c-section is if Jellybean or i are in danger otherwise it's coming out my va jay jay.

Hey JoJo, sending you loads of labour vibes :)
I'd be asking the OB for explanations all the way too. Like when you say, 'he doesn't think Jellybean will make progress in engaging...' why is that?
Ah, I'll be hoping your little one makes an appearance before you have to make any of those decisions ;) Take care of yourself.

Good luck. You can do it.

Snacks, thanks for the labour vibes, think they helped. My plug fell out today at around 1:30 PM been getting tightening and light pain. I'm not sure whats happening.
I can feel JB moving lots and when it does sometimes it hurts. can anyone shed some light?
The plug was huge and i had mucusy stringy stuff before and after it fell out.

Sounds pretty promising jo, I had DD2 the next day after that happened to me.

Hooray! It certainly does sound like Jelly bean might be making his/her presence felt! If your plug has come loose, that means that your cervix is ripening - see, it CAN happen naturally for you! All the more reason for you to stick to your guns.
From memory, those first pains were really distracting and very exciting. But, if you're after some advice (LOL, sorry, I'm going to give it to you anyway ;) ) do try to rest while they're not too painful. And don't forget to eat and drink. Maybe if you're not able to rest, do a little bit of walking or bouncing if you've got a fitball.
Your little Jellybean will be here very soon!!! :dance:
ETA: sorry to sound like a know-all - I'm just very excited for you :D

Jojo, you can loose your plug sometimes weeks before labour begins. However, given that you are already due you won't be waiting that long ;)

Your plug comes out as a result of your cervix thinning out/effacing and from dilating a little. Your cervix may feel a little tender as it is opening up which is why the movements from bub may be uncomfortable down there.

If the tightenings become too uncomfortable have yourself a nice warm bath. Stay at home as long as possible, it's the best place for you to be.

Good luck and sending you speedy labour vibes :hug:

Wooohooooo!!!! Yay i'm going to meet my bubba soon.
I'm not sure if it's contractions though cause the tightening only hurts if JB is moving. Had a little back pain and some pain between my legs like i've been walking on a log and fallen with one leg on each side. Had some cervical pain also. JB is moving heaps, i thought movement lessens as labor approaches?

Thanks Trish, i'm at my parents. DH is at work and wont finish untill around 12:30. I'm so looking forward to meeting my bubba. Sometimes i get pressure that bad i feel like i'm going to wet myself.

Everything is sounding really positive that you'll be meeting your bub very soon. The pressure would be bub moving down the pelvis more, which is great. Good luck with it all. Sending lots of labour vibes your way.

When should i call the hospital to go in? i'm anxious and worried JB may go in to distress or something cause i'm not sure whats happening.

Are you getting contractions, or just braxton hicks? If you're getting contractions, how far apart are they? Your waters haven't broken have they??

Hun stay at home. Your baby is fine. Your body is fine. This is what is meant to happen.

You will be so much more comfortable in your own home - or parents home. Have yourself a shower or bath and relax. Your body sounds like it's in early labour. There is no need to be anxious hun, this is what your body was designed to do. Even if your waters have broken it's ok to stay at home. You do not need to rush anywhere.

Hospital likes your contractions to be around 60 seconds long and coming every 5 - 3 minutes. They should ideally hold this pattern.

You CAN do this. YOUR body is working great for your baby and it's birth. :hug:

I agree with Trish. You'll feel so much more relaxed at home. And feeling relaxed is very important.

Thanks guys. I'm not sure if it's contractions or braxtons. my Ob said that classes would have been a waste of time. Now i wish i had'nt have listened. Dont think my waters have broken.
i'm going to have a shower and try to calm down.
I want to be with my DH. :(

Braxtons will stop in the shower or bath huni. And POO to your OB.
It's abit late now to worry abour classes.
We can give you a crash course on here ;)

You will do great hun. Be strong and believe in your body. Have your shower, relax, have a nap if you can and most importantly, try not to stress out. That will only slow your body down.

You CAN do this. Infact... You ARE doing this!!

Lesson #1 - stay calm!!
Lesson #2 - take a bath/shower, watch a movie. Whatever it is that will relax you
Lesson #3 - Don't be too focused on timing your contractions when they start. Just take it as they come. Have someone time them for you, but you don't need to know how far apart they are, especially at the beginning.
Lesson #4 - Rest whenever you can. If it's only braxton hicks, then it's important to get some sleep tonight, as labour might only be hours/days away, and you need all the energy you can get.

Thanks guys. :grouphug:

Hope everything is going OK Jo, the others have given you brilliant advice so hopefully you will have rested last night and will be in having bubs now!

Hey Jo. Thinking of you :) I'm sure whatever's happening, you're doing fabulously! :D

Hi guys thanks but...
I'm still childless. Jb doesn't want to come out.
Was at hospital last night thought my waters may have broken, but the swab revealed i was wrong.
Turns out it was just watery discharge??? Heaps of the stuff.
I feel like JB doesn't want me, like i'm being teased. I know it's silly but i was crying all morning.
Have suffered deppression in the past OB aware.

Obviously your pains were Braxton hicks then hun.

The watery discharge is a good sign too hun. Your body is still working away. Your baby will be here soon. Just try to enjoy what time you have left just you and your husband. Pretty soon you will be a family of 3 and there will never be alone time again :hug:

Bub will be here, very soon. Try and hang in there until then. I know it's an anxious time ahead. :hug:

Thanks guys.:grouphug:
I've got to go home soon but i'll be back some time tomorrow afternoon.

keep us posted, and vent away whenever you need to. That's what we're here for.

Whats the watery discharge then? If not waters cause sometimes i can feel it dripping onto the pad.

It is hard to tell the difference, has it gotten any worse than last night? What does it smell like?

No smell that i can tell. It looks clear and feels like a period dripping. Sometimes it's worse but only if i'm moving around a bit.

When your watrs break, there usually isn't a smell, and the more you move around, the more you leak. Don't feel bad about ringing the maternity ward and asking the midwife. They may even want to check it out. Better safe than sorry.

Sorry guys going to have another whinge.
I can't sleep. I've got heartburn that bad i've got to sleep sitting upright and even then i feel like i'm going to projectile vomit pure acid everywhere.
I'm just looking to my little flicker at the end of the tunnel. I'll have my bubba in my arms by Tuesday latest Wednesday.
I'm getting lots of downward pressure really low in between my hair line and belly i figure JB's seriously running out of room by now.
I want a good nights sleep for two nights now i've slept sitting up cause of the heartburn and the Losec that OB prescribed did nothing last night and that was the last i had.
Anyway guys thanks for the vent i'[m going to watch some trash tv. (We stayed at mum's last night after her b'day bash. So there is not only a tv here there is FOXTEL yay)