Solids at 3 months??

My little man started having a some organic baby food or quater of a weet bix around lunchtime and its helped his reflux emmensley it was orgionally my doctors idea to give him teaspoon of mashed banana once a day.
I think that solids coupled with changing his formula to Karicare gold has really helped, but Monday Im off to Tweddle and im worried about what they will say and that they will make me stop feeding him solids.
Im not asking you to judge me so if all you have is critisism then dont bother posting.
Im after some advice, I'm not sure what to do, its working so I dont wanna stop, Feeding him so early wasnt an easy decision but i tried and so far so good.

1) They can't make you do anything.
2) If you get the 'shouldn't be on solids thing' -SMILE and say, yeah I realise what the recommendations are, but this is working for us ok?'
3) They may get more pushy - but you you can ask them to focus on the other issues rather than the feeding. They are there to help and unless the solids is making him critically ill they will have to agree to disagree with you.
4) If you go in ready for a fight, you will feel critized no matter what they say. So put your hackles down.....;)

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1) They can't make you do anything.
2) If you get the 'shouldn't be on solids thing' -SMILE and say, yeah I realise what the recommendations are, but this is working for us ok?'
3) They may get more pushy - but you you can ask them to focus on the other issues rather than the feeding. They are there to help and unless the solids is making him critically ill they will have to agree to disagree with you.
4) If you go in ready for a fight, you will feel critized no matter what they say. So put your hackles down.....;)

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Yeah your so right there, I dont take critisism easily at the moment im bursting into tears and being told stupid little things like "maybe he doesnt need to burp", Im really nervous about the things their going to say to me

As Lulu said they can't make you do anything, and as long as you aware of the possible consequences, no-one has the right to give you you a hard time..

FWIW, we gave DD rice cereal at about 3 months, for a week, then stopped and didn't touch solids again till 5 months.. IT got us over a hurdle at that time. She was interested for a few days, then the interest stopped, so we stopped..

I know you are chickie - tis ok. Sleepless nights and reflux are enough to send the best of us bonkers.

Before you go in, say to yourself - I'm feeding him now because it is working, it's my choice, my instincts are telling me this.
Also, try not to build up a fight or flight scenario in your mind. I went to a sleep centre too and the ladies in there were just lovely (in fact one babysat me 33 years ago!). It didn't work for us, and I left a little early with best wishes from everyone.

BTW - they are sort of expecting you to be a bit of a wreck, or you wouldn't be there. It's ok to burst into tears, they might even make you a cup of tea.

ETA - I cried at margarine ads....

:hug: babe...deep breath and tell them your his mother and you know what your doing! IF that fails send them my way!

Nikolaus started solids at 6 weeks :o I know I know early but he had projectille reflux and after trying a number of things the doctor suggested that we try giving him solids......I coped it when I had a tupperware party form my SIL who ripped my head off (she is a nurse :rolleyes:) when everyone bar the demonstrator had gone home. I told her to mind her own business and leave me to my own devises. Stupid woman made me look incompedent infront of the demonstrator who I was hoping would take me on under her wing, which of course she didnt after it :(

What's Tweddle?

If it makes a difference my step mum said 5 years ago the recommendation was 3-4months to start solids.

I think these things go round in patterns.

You just have to do what works for you and your child and you know what works for your child beter than anyone.

GL with your appointment.

Tweddle is an infant sleep school in Victoria. You may have also hear of Tresillian in NSW.
I think sometimes they also counsel and PNDepression problems during the stay.

FWIW panta - nothing you ever do is going to be right by anyone. Dr says one thing, MCHN says another, hospital contradicts all other advice... mother yells at you for doing things different to her.

Lulu has given the best advice, as always. You will be fine. You need to do what works for YOU and Harrison. And okay, so he doesn't need the food, but goshdarn you DO need the rest, and he needs the sleep. And it's helping. Happy mum = happy bub. K?

Good luck sweet.

LOL don't tell them? I saw my CHN at 4 months, we had started Jazz on solids, and Shel and I made the decision not to tell her LOL. It just wasn't worth it, it was working for us, so there was no point as we didn't need advice or opinions on it.

Oh hun, everyone thinks they are an expert, and you just gotta do what is best for your family. In these early days we all need a bit of reassurance that we are doing a good job at this strange and difficult thing called motherhood.

YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB!

Not an OK job, or a good job, but a great job. You have responded well to the needs of your bub, and that is what great mothers do! Hang in there, I hope the sleep school makes a huge difference for you and your bub, and poo poo to anyone who criticises you while you are there.

OH sweetie you are doing a great Job and I was just thinking the other day of starting Miss C you have given me the confidence to do so :)

Please rethink feeding him weetbix. I don't think it's an appropriate food for such an immature gut to process. Sanitarium themselves don't recommend it.

What might be a short term fix may end up causing issues in the future.

PW, I am not going to criticise your choice. You know what the recommendations are and you have made a decision based on your individual circumstances, with medical advice.

However, I would be irresponsible not to post about the guidelines for others reading this thread who might not be aware and need to make the decision for themselves in the future. The timing of solids introduction has recently been reviewed by a number of organisations and governments around the world. The results are a bit mixed - some, such as the World Health Organisation, have chosen to leave the recommendation at 6 months. Others are recommending between 4 and 6 months. However, all the organisations are clear on one thing - solids should not be given to infants under 4 months of age. There are a variety of reasons for this, of which the higher risk of allergies are just one. Others include long term damage to the Gastro-Intestinal system. I would recommend seeking medical advice before starting solids prior to 4 months, and have personally chosen to wait until 6 months with both my DS's.

Sorry,..... Sometimes going against the grain and not being a sheep isnt necessary the wrong way.

Its bloody exhausting, emotional and time comsuming to say the least to have a normal baby...now times that by 10 when that baby continuously cries due to the pains in the tummy,cries cause the reflux acid is burning, you feed feeding your baby because as soon as it goes down and no sooner does it hit the babies tummy its bought back up. Cleaning the mess up, even if its just on clothes or a 2m long projectile vomit.

I get so friggen annoyed at hearing oh feeding a baby so young gives the child a higher chanch of allergies...come on back in the 50's and 60's kids were given solids at 4 weeks old, given milk by 3 months as well as eggs ect and how many kids had allergies back then? Maybe we are wrapping our kids up in cotton wool to much these days and have lost the true meaning of being a parent and have circum to today's society's little book of what you can and cant do.

Nikolaus was feed early as I stated earlier in this thread...he turns 9 next week. He's a normal, healthy fit little boy with NO DAME ALLERGIES!!!!

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:hug: babe...deep breath and tell them your his mother and you know what your doing! IF that fails send them my way!

Nikolaus started solids at 6 weeks :o I know I know early but he had projectille reflux and after trying a number of things the doctor suggested that we try giving him solids......I coped it when I had a tupperware party form my SIL who ripped my head off (she is a nurse :rolleyes:) when everyone bar the demonstrator had gone home. I told her to mind her own business and leave me to my own devises. Stupid woman made me look incompedent infront of the demonstrator who I was hoping would take me on under her wing, which of course she didnt after it :(

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Thanks Maz you are so good at making someone feel better & your right as always I should just do what I feel is right.

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What's Tweddle?

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Yes its a sleep school, its a mother baby unit AND its for women with PND which is why im going, I'll be subjected to daily therapy sessions & confidence building activities amongst other things.

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LOL don't tell them? I saw my CHN at 4 months, we had started Jazz on solids, and Shel and I made the decision not to tell her LOL. It just wasn't worth it, it was working for us, so there was no point as we didn't need advice or opinions on it.

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I cant not tell them, they will see me feed him.

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Oh hun, everyone thinks they are an expert, and you just gotta do what is best for your family. In these early days we all need a bit of reassurance that we are doing a good job at this strange and difficult thing called motherhood.

YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB!

Not an OK job, or a good job, but a great job. You have responded well to the needs of your bub, and that is what great mothers do! Hang in there, I hope the sleep school makes a huge difference for you and your bub, and poo poo to anyone who criticises you while you are there.

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I wish I felt I was doing a great job.

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OH sweetie you are doing a great Job and I was just thinking the other day of starting Miss C you have given me the confidence to do so :)

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I'm glad I made someone feel confident, Harrison loves it, he reacts as soon as he sees that spoon his tounge comes out and he gets all excited & its really helping

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Please rethink feeding him weetbix. I don't think it's an appropriate food for such an immature gut to process. Sanitarium themselves don't recommend it.

What might be a short term fix may end up causing issues in the future.

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PW, I am not going to criticise your choice. You know what the recommendations are and you have made a decision based on your individual circumstances, with medical advice.

However, I would be irresponsible not to post about the guidelines for others reading this thread who might not be aware and need to make the decision for themselves in the future. The timing of solids introduction has recently been reviewed by a number of organisations and governments around the world. The results are a bit mixed - some, such as the World Health Organisation, have chosen to leave the recommendation at 6 months. Others are recommending between 4 and 6 months. However, all the organisations are clear on one thing - solids should not be given to infants under 4 months of age. There are a variety of reasons for this, of which the higher risk of allergies are just one. Others include long term damage to the Gastro-Intestinal system. I would recommend seeking medical advice before starting solids prior to 4 months, and have personally chosen to wait until 6 months with both my DS's.

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Kinda sounds like critisism to me so you pretty much contradicted yourself with your opening line

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Sorry,..... Sometimes going against the grain and not being a sheep isnt necessary the wrong way.

Its bloody exhausting, emotional and time comsuming to say the least to have a normal baby...now times that by 10 when that baby continuously cries due to the pains in the tummy,cries cause the reflux acid is burning, you feed feeding your baby because as soon as it goes down and no sooner does it hit the babies tummy its bought back up. Cleaning the mess up, even if its just on clothes or a 2m long projectile vomit.

I get so friggen annoyed at hearing oh feeding a baby so young gives the child a higher chanch of allergies...come on back in the 50's and 60's kids were given solids at 4 weeks old, given milk by 3 months as well as eggs ect and how many kids had allergies back then? Maybe we are wrapping our kids up in cotton wool to much these days and have lost the true meaning of being a parent and have circum to today's society's little book of what you can and cant do.

Nikolaus was feed early as I stated earlier in this thread...he turns 9 next week. He's a normal, healthy fit little boy with NO DAME ALLERGIES!!!!

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WELL SAID MAZ:clap:

Maz, I didn't expect to be popular for my post. I can only reiterate that I don't judge anyone for the choices that they make. Everyone is entitled to make their own decision.

My decision is that I know too much about the potential consequences to not point them out. I have seen the latest research results on which the guidelines are based and I have seen the results of babies who have been started on solids early (and do have allergies and other problems). If I don't mention these risks, how do I know that others know about them? I would rather be unpopular than have a baby suffer because their mum didn't know information that I could have passed on.

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Maz, I didn't expect to be popular for my post. I can only reiterate that I don't judge anyone for the choices that they make. Everyone is entitled to make their own decision.

My decision is that I know too much about the potential consequences to not point them out. I have seen the latest research results on which the guidelines are based and I have seen the results of babies who have been started on solids early (and do have allergies and other problems). If I don't mention these risks, how do I know that others know about them? I would rather be unpopular than have a baby suffer because their mum didn't know information that I could have passed on.

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I would have really appreciated if you had of critisised in possibly another thread, perhaps you can start one to share you knowledge with others