I think they drank my BM...

I recently returned to work, just a few shifts a fortnight. I work for a large organisation and I work in a different location each shift so I don't always know the people at the location I am working from. Yesterday, I was the only female at the location apart from my direct partner.

Yesterday, I worked a 10 hour shift and I expressed in the middle, about 200mls (yay!). So, I put my bottle of BM in the communal fridge, bottom shelf, back corner. Off I went to do a job and I didn't return until finish time. I went to collect my bottle of BM.... and found the bottle and lid in the dish rack drying, all nice and clean - and EMPTY!!!

I asked around and got a few giggles but no direct answer's as to what had happened to my milk. Until someone suggested it had been used for coffee's as a practical joke. :o

I'm not sure whether I am peeved that my milk was wasted, worried that there will be some sort of repercussion which will reflect on me or mildly entertained at the juvenile behaviour of 'grown' men!!

Ultimately, I took my empty bottle and went home, threatening to return with my starving, screaming baby at 3am (in good humor).

How would you feel??

Umm I'd be peeved!!!

Sorry but I had a giggle.. Although I'd be annoyed it was wasted!! I bet everyone is re assessing the taste of their coffee and is horrified at the thought of drinking it!!

ETA: I should add, that if someone used it on purpose I would be annoyed.. Especially if you expressed for a feed, and not just because you were full..

I'd be ****ed off they wasted my BM!!!!!!!!!!!

I would be amused if someone used it by accident. But not deliberately using it knowing what it was.

That's RUDE! They stole your baby's milk?!

I think I would feel all of what you’ve described but mostly really angry because that milk was meant for my baby. I have no idea what I would do if that happened to me.

Huge hugs in any case. :hug:

I'd be peeved! And honestly, I'd be taking it to management - how completely inappropriate!

ETA - If it was an accident, I get that these things happen. But to use it in a practical joke, knowing what it was, is so wrong on so many levels. Sounds like they need a quick lesson in just what expressing entails and how difficult it can be.

I'd be peeved! BM is more precious than gold, especially to a hungry baby. It's not like it is that easy to supplement something else for it. I think it was really inconsiderate of them. If it was an accident, fair enough but if they purposefully used your milk for coffee, I would be so cranky.

Why should it reflect badly on you? You did nothing wrong but knowingly taking someone else's BM and putting it in coffee is the same as stealing to me.

Can you tell I have strong opinions about this :)

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I'd be ****ed off they wasted my BM!!!!!!!!!!!

I would be amused if someone used it by accident. But not deliberately using it knowing what it was.

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Exactly that!
If it was unintentional, it's a bit funny... But seriously, I'm sure you didn't have it in a rev carton!
I would be exceptionally pi55ed!


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knowing how difficult it is to express that much milk I would be livid! Will you say something to management to make sure it doesn't happen again incase "spiking the coffee" becomes an office joke?

Yeah I'd be super peeved. Probably have a little giggle if it was an accident but too intentionally take the milk. Obviously they don't understand the milk is pumped for a reason, not just for entertainment. So I would be super annoyed they took milk off bubs for a joke.

Find out the going rate of BM ... I don't think it that cheap, and invoice whoever stole it. There was an ice cream shop in the UK buying it for 20 pounds for 8 ounces ... that makes what they took worth about $25.

Did they actually drink the coffee? With someone else's bodily fluid in it? To me that would be on the same level as someone spitting in my drink - yuck!

And I would be annoyed that they just used it knowing that it wasn't theirs, even it it was just normal milk.

Do you know it was intentional? If it was, they all need to grow up, if not, well accidents happen and it might make for interesting conversation at this years Chrissy party!

Given the bottle was washed, I'd say it was done deliberately. What pooheads!

I just told DH about this ... he works in recruitment. He has just done a whole heap of training around the new sexual harrassment laws and he reckons that not only do you have a massive reason to complain to HR (and even file a case against them) but so does anyone that drank the BM. He said not that there is anything wrong with your BM but it is about creating a safe workplace for you and for the other people that you work with. As your BM is a bodily fluid, other people drinking it without their knowledge also creates a whole heap of issues.

I am pretty sure that under the new laws, even leading you to believe that other people drank your milk is enough for there to be a complaint. You have the right to feel safe at work as do you collegues and what has happened is a huge breach of that right for you and other people who are unknowingly involved.

I dont' see how it could have been accidental - it was in its own bottle and would have 'settled' and not look like homogenised cow's milk at all.

If I were you I would feel hugely violated. How totally inappropriate. Definitely complain to management. Quite apart from anything else it is theft. I am really sorry that happened to you :shakehead: