So scared :(

Any advice would be really appreciated here. On Tuesday evening I went to the bathroom to discover I was bleeding a bit. It wasn't heavy, but it was bright red, like the start of a period (sorry TMI). I was a little freaked but tried to stay calm, called the 24 hour Health Direct number and was advised to see a doctor within 24 hours. I didn't have any pain at that stage, and the bleeding was fairly light, so we decided to go straight to the emergency room the next morning (otherwise would need to find someone to look after DS).

I am so annoyed at how little they did when we were there. I had a blood test, but they did no ultrasound, and they didn't do an internal to make sure my cervix was closed. Then they sent me home without even having all the blood test results! I know this because I looked at the results they sent me home with, and my HCG levels aren't on there! Wouldn't that be one of the most important ones? They sent me home knowing nothing basically! But at the time I didn't realise and I am usually willing to trust doctors. The bleeding had slowed to just brownish spotting (sorry TMI again) by the afternoon, so I felt a lot better.

But then yesterday, I was getting crampy feelings on and off all day, not as bad as period pain, and not constant. It didn't worsen during the day, so I kept telling myself it was just my uterus stretching and rearranging my insides! Continued to have this on and off cramping through the night, but not bad enough that I needed to take Panadol. Just worrying, iykwim?

But the thing that really worries me is that I haven't felt any nausea since Tuesday, and my ms had been quite bad. Yesterday I felt no nausea AT ALL, normally I at least get a bit when I start to get a bit hungry. And none this morning, I usually feel a bit off until I have breakfast. All of these symptoms on their own don't sound too bad, I know, but combined, I am really scared that it means I'm going to miscarry.

I am going back to the hospital for an ultrasound tomorrow. They said to come next week, but I NEED to know that everything is okay, I can't wait all weekend. But that's a whole 24 hours away, and I am going to go insane with worry and stress before then!

Sorry about the rant, there is just so much I'm feeling right now and I don't know what to do with it! I know you ladies will understand.

Any advice or similar stories at all???

I thought I'd also add that I've already had an early ultrasound and at that stage everything looked fine, even saw a heartbeat at 5w3d. I know the risk of losing it is a lot less after seeing a hb, but I'm still freaking!

:hug: I'm sorry the hospital wasnt helpful. Unfortunately, there's nothing they can do to prevent miscarriage at such an early gestation. If there's something wrong with the baby, they cant fix it. An internal exam risks introducing infection, so is best avoided. Whilst seeing a HB statistically reduces the risk of mc, they can happen at any stage, so I ignore that, especially seeing one so early.

I hope bub is ok. If the hospital doesnt help with a scan, you can get a referral to a private place. That's what I did with my first. Whilst it was reassuring to see a hb then, it still ended in a mmc. Which is why I ignore the stats and dont get early scans.

I know it's scary. There's nothing you can do at this stage except rest. If you want hcg numbers and a scan would reassure you, then have them. I hope you get good news.

ETA- with regard to worry and stress. It's normal to worry but it doesnt help you and it wont change the outcome. If bub is ok, then the adrenalin and cortisol isnt good for them. If bub isnt ok, then you'll grieve and this worry wont change that. Take some deep breaths and either lie down or go for a gentle walk. Send bub lots of calm, peaceful, loving energy. It will help you both. Take care

:hug: you must be so worried.
There is a thread dedicated to bleeding in pregnancy. I know there are a few people here who have had bleeding and gone on to have healthy babies.
My MS eased up at about 8 weeks.

I hope it is the same for you and it's just a (horrid) coincidence.

I hope that all goes well with your ultrasound. Thinking of you and hoping you get some peace of mind with the results.

:hug: Its a terrible waiting game to be in. I do agree with everything L&B said.

As for the symptoms and lack of m/s, it could be a terrible co-incidence, but it may not be. Try and schedule yourself for an u/s today because waiting is just terrible. I hope you get some answers soon, because its always better to know, than be sitting at home worrying yourself silly. Ive been there before and I know how awful it is. xx

It's hard isn't it! Not knowing can be awful, especially when you already love your baby so much. Morning sickness can ease off around this stage, and it's not unusual to have a day or two respite followed by another day of the voms :) Unfortunately, there are no answers. But I really really hope your baby is just fine and chilling out in there and that you can find some space to feel at peace in.

Thanks everyone. I know there's nothing they can do to prevent a miscarriage, and realistically, I know that if there's something wrong with the baby, nature is doing what it's meant to. Like you've all said, the waiting is the worst, along with just not knowing. Even if it's the worst outcome, at least once I know I can grieve and move on. I'm going for an ultrasound tomorrow morning, I don't think there's any way to get one done today. I tried calling my GP but she is on holidays until Monday and I haven't had my first antenatal appointment yet, so I have no-one else to contact.

I read in another post on BB that it is common for ms to ease a bit at 8 weeks, so that made me feel a bit better. So ironic, you spend so much time suffering and wishing all the nasty symptoms would go away, but when they do, you panic! Silly.

I just need to get through today, I guess, and see what tomorrow brings. Thanks for your advice and support.

Hang in there hun. Do you know if they tested HCG? You could ring and see, if that helps?

I actually tried that. It says HCG on the blood test report they sent me home with, but no result. I called the hospital but they wouldn't give me the result, said my doctor has to call to get it but she is on holiday.

I don't know, I just have a really bad feeling about this. I think when I go for the ultrasound tomorrow it will just be bad news. :cry:

Hi sweetheart, big :hug: Stay positive and try to relax hun.
I know how you must be feeling but try and get a good nights rest and take tomorrow as it comes.

Can you get another doctor to call you or does it have to be the one you see.

Fingers and toes crossed that all is well. Sending you big hugs, and lots of positive and healthy vibes to your bubba xoxoxo

Thanks a lot ladies. All your words mean so much to me. I've had a pretty crappy day, been a bit teary and preoccupied with it all. I'm going to be very anxious tomorrow before the scan. But at least I'll know.

Deedles, I don't really have any other doctor I could call! Don't have an obs this time, it's just my GP who's away, damn her.

:hug: Just wanted to give you lots of understanding and plenty of hugs. Ive been in your shoes more times than I would wish on anyone and I know how it feels waiting for the scan, believing it to be bad news (and sometimes it was good news, other times bad). Try and keep your mind off it tonight if you can.

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

I hope your scan goes well tomorrow. xx thinking of you. It's so nerve wracking isn't it!?
I went to my gp with my first m/c and got a referral for bloods and scans from her. she also reffered me to the early pregnancy service at our hossy. maybe that's worth looking into. to see if they have one. i went to them straight away for my second. they do all bloods and u/sounds generally same day. you just go see them for any concerns up to 20weeks even if you dont miscarry.

Can you go see another gp?

:hug: I hope your scan goes well tomorrow. Thinking of you. :hug:

Thanks lovely ladies. :grouphug:

My GP is back from her holiday on Monday, thank goodness. Will let you know how it goes tomorrow. :pray:

Just jumping in to send a big hug for the scan today and fingers crossed all ok x x x