DD5 had her pants pulled down.

Two of her classmates pulled her pants down twice each. DD didn't tell me anything, she came out before her sister and one of the boys mums brought her son over to apologize to DD, which I really appreciated her doing. I presumed there would have been a note in DD's diary so took it out and nothing. Do you think an incident like this warrants letting the parents know what happened to their child? TIA.

Regards,
Dianne

How did the other mum find out?

yes absolutely, that's providing a teacher witnessed it / was told of the incident. I'm also curious to know how the other parent knew.

The mum said the teacher pulled her aside and let her know. I asked DD if she told her teacher and she did, so I feel assured that the boys were at least spoken to about inappropriate behaviour. It just would have been nice to at least read a note about the incident.

Regards,
Dianne

Were you there at school pick up? Seems strange they'd speak to the boys parents but not you...

I was waiting at the front of the school, I'm presuming the boys mum was around the infant area which is at the back.

Regards,
Dianne

Maybe the teacher is waiting to speak to you personally. If they spoke to the others involved I'm sure they will speak with you also.

I think it's weird that the teacher didn't tell you about it.

I hope the teacher plans on talking to you tomorrow (though it should have been her priority today), because that's a major incident in my opinion! If the teacher doesn't talk to you about it, I would be making an app for a meeting with her and the principal.

I'm going to go into the infant area in the morning and see if she tells me. I've just lost all my faith in the school with the way they handled DD12's bullying issues
so maybe I'm over reacting a bit but I feel something in writing at least would have been nice.

Regards,
Dianne

I would have expected a note asking you to speak to the teacher in case she missed you in the afternoon.

Or even a phone call at home to ask you to come and talk to them.

Yes, I would expect to be told. I would not 'be waiting to see if I am told' I would be asking first thing if they could explain the incident to you and what has happened since.

However, if I am reading correctly, you weren't in an area where the teacher was able to get to you. The teacher still has an obligation to make sure all other children leave their care safely, rather than track down a parent not in the immediate vicinity to them.

Whilst i agree things could've been handled better, I think you need to approach then.

I would expect that you would have been told.

If your DD was in my class and I knew you were at the school somewhere I would have tried to seek you out to talk to you about it in person as opposed to writing it in a diary (mainly so I can answer any questions straight away as things aren't always 100% clear in writing). If I couldn't see you in person I would have made a phone call for the same reasons I just mentioned.

As an aside, I'd also question the confidentiality side of things. Did the teacher actually say to this parent that it was your DD this happened to or did her son tell her? I would never mention other people involved in a particular incident. I'd say that your child and another pulled a girls pants down but not mention any names.....

My DD was involved in a similar incident at school & I had a phone call immediately from the teacher. To be fair it wasn't clear exactly what had happened or whether there were any other elements of assault involved but the teacher I spoke to was horrified & the school took the whole thing very seriously.

So yes, I would expect to be notified. Immediately. By phone. And I would expect the children involved to be excluded from class until it was clear exactly what happened and until my DD felt safe for them to rejoin it.

Wouldn't it be assault just for the fact that someone has removed her pants? More than once. I would be furious.

your poor DD! Id be livid!

I couldn't take DD5 in myself this morning as DD12 has Yr7 orientation but I'll be entering the Infant building when I pick her up this afternoon. As far as the teacher seeking me out in the grounds if she really wanted to let me know she would have found me. The school is very small, 210 students, parents either wait at the back or front playground and yesterday I was there for a good 10min after the bell waiting for DD12 to come out. Thank you ladies for your validation, I will speak to her teacher and ask her why I wasn't notified and I will also let the principle know.

Regards,
Dianne