This is our story....

Hi

I never thought I would find myself in this section of the forum but sadly I am here.

On Thursday 3/01/08 at 12.10am we were all excited about hearing our baby's heartbeat at the doctors appointment we were having before our ultrasound the same afternoon. My DH took a extra long lunch to attend both appointments. The docs appointment went perfect. The doc not only heard the heartbeat but he also felt movement. He was happy everything was going well.

Our ultrasound app was at 1.45pm. We came home had some lunch then raced each other to the ultrasound so excited to see our baby and find out the sex of our baby.

10 mins in the U/S, a strange look come over the lady's face. We knew something wasn't right. " one sec, I just need to get the doctor" she said then she left the room for approx 10 mins. A doctor and her returned. the doctor looked at me and said quite bluntly, " Sorry but your baby doesn't have a heartbeat.... Its DEAD!" I looked at my DH, it couldn't be right. 1 hr before we had heard and felt movement. i asked him to check again.... but nothing.

We were given 10 mins in the room to " come to terms " with it, then told to go back to our doctors to see what to to next.

Back to the docs we went, in disbelief. Our GP was fantastic but he still couldn't believe that within the hr we were there to the U/S, our baby had died.

He advised us to go to our local hospital emergency dept, which happens to be the biggest womens hospital in SE QLD. There we waited for 5 hrs in the waiting room before being told we had to wait another 4 hrs before we wold be able to see a doc. With that we left the public hospital and went to the Wesley Private hospital with saw me straight away and were so nice and understanding. We had private health to start with but with our heads swimming we it didn't click to go there in the first place !

The next day we went and saw our gyno who saw us through our IVF and he was also shocked. I had no symptoms of miscarriage. No bleeding, no pain... nothing.

That afternoon i was booked into theater for a D&C. I was told that it was the best way for the " removal" as i didn't labor well and it was risky for him to make me deliver.

3pm came and I remember the oxygen mask being put on my face then I drifted off to sleep. When I woke my baby was gone. I have never felt so empty and so sad.

3 days later I was released from hospital.
At home its so hard to pack away the bassinet, and change table we had only bought the weekend before this happened.

We still dont know if it was a boy or girl as the doc couldn't tell, but he assures us that we will find out when the " tissue" results come back in 1 weeks time.

Well this is my story so far........

Oh DQ, what a terrible story and what a way to lose your beautiful baby. I can't really help but prayers and thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

DQ, I am very sorry to hear of your losses. My sister had a stillborn last year, and whilst I haven't experienced the pain first hand, I have certainly been close enough to the pain of losing a baby to understand what you are going through. Have your tears with us as friends, as we will all cry with you, and I hope that you will get through this time a little easier with BB.

My heart goes out to you. Im sorry for your loss. *Hugs*

dq, I am so sorry for your loss.
you are in my thoughts and sending you the biggest hugs.

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oh, dq, i am so sorry for your loss. i wish my tears could heal your pain. we found out our son had died at a scan too -- that immediate falling of the heart and hopes is almost too much for anyone to bear. big hugs to you. xxoom

Hi DQ. I am so sorry for your loss. I understand the pain of finding out at the scan that your baby is gone - it is the most awful experience. Please take good care of yourself. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

DQ,
I am so very, very sorry to hear your story. I can't imagine how you must have felt that day. BB is full of ladies who are very supportive and kind, so I hope that you find some help here. Take care of yourself.
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Oh DQ,

I am so so sorry for your loss. There is nothing i can say to help i know, but just cry honey and know we are all thinking of you. My heart goes out to you and DH. :hugs:

Oh my, i was in tears reading your story. I am so truely sorry. I hope you can find some comfort and support in those around who love you dearly.

I am so sorry for your loss. Life is just so cruel sometimes.
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DQ,
The pain of losing a baby so late as well as an IVF pregnancy is something I know too well. I hope you and DH have time to grieve your little one.
Bec

i am sending you hugs at this difficult time. I too found out at a scan that our baby had died and there is not much i can say to help heal your pain!Know that we are are all here to support you...:grouphug:

DQ, I am soo sorry for your loss... can't even imagine how you must be feeling. :(

Thank you everyone for your kind words :grouphug:

We will never forget out little one, but we are getting back on the horse so to speak, and are hoping to do another FET in March. Our next FS appointment is on 7th Feb, and we are hoping to find out more information as to what went wrong.

Thanks again,

DQ

sending you a big hug , so sorry to hear about your little one , i to am sitting crying for you , why does life have to be this way.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I have also lost a baby and am an IVF mum, I can only imagine the pain of losing a baby you wanted so badly and went through so much to conceive.