Cervical Incompetance or just Labour?
I didn't know where else to put this and Cervical Incompetance is a medical condition of sorts.
When I was at my Ob the other day doing a check up/ grief support consultation thingy I asked him if he thought I had cervial weakness and he said no.
He went on to tell me he felt that contractions started the premature labour and that it was for that reason that my cervic opened early. He then went on to explain about bacteria that lives in the vagina etc and how it changes and that reaction may cause premature labour but there seems to be a very very fine line between the two and whether a person will receive a sture or not.
Now my ob is not pro suture which is kind of good because I agree a foreign body increases risk of infection etc but how will I know for next time?
I cannot prepare myself mentally for my next pregnancy knowing that no one knows for sure whether I have a weak cervix or whether it was just contractions that started my labour.
Being told that I will be closely monitored doesn't help.
I understand the difference between the two but how can premature labour just start? surely there is a trigger for it or something that starts the contractions?
Does anyone have any idea?
Has anyone had a similar problem where there seems to be no definative answer and went on to have a term pregnancy afterwards?
My ob seems to be very well respected and I trust him, I am just not convinced this was a contraction problem.
Nae x
Our Precious Angel at 24weeks 5 days
Nae,
I was so touched when I first read your message, as I knew exactly what you are going through. We lost our first baby, a dear little girl Isabella at 24 weeks 5 days. I had no idea I was in labour as I had a painless dilation of the cervix. I had a little bit of pain but just thought I was constipated. Then a membrane started to come down when I was on the toilet. By the time I got to hospital I was already 6cm dilated and although I desparately wanted them to do something to stop the labour they said I would definetly be having the baby that day. Our precious little girl was born on the 3-06-08 and passed away on 5-06-08. It was so hard to comprehend everything that happened and it still is. Everyday I ask myself why and wonder what I did wrong as I had had the perfect pregnancy and you wonder what you did wrong to deserve this. My ob has said that I have a short cervix and next time we have the choice of either having the stitch in at 14wks or just monitoring the length of cervix through scans every 2wks and then put a stitich in if need by. I am so worried and don't know which way to go. It's good to hear other people's experiences to see if they have any helpful info.
AR