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The first thing my Ob said to me today, after checking that I was going well was...
How are you going with your VBAC? Got any questions?
Which lead to a quick chat about it, and him confidently saying that we are, at this stage looking good for it, and that we have NO need to discuss c-sect dates at this stage.
So :dance: :dance: :dance: for him and my confidence levels!!!
VBAC here I come!!!!!
Awesome stuff, funny I had the very same conversation with my Ob today.
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Not all OBS are scalpel hungry cs kings!! Glad you have seen this also!! Good luck with it all
My OB said to me at 6 weeks check up post DS see you next year for a VBAC!!!
Oh thats awesome babe!!!!! :dance: :leap:
We'll be the VBAC queens soon.. ;)
I'll drink to that! :dance::
That's fantastic Ruf!! :D
Yay! Awesome stuff :)
That is awesome news! I love my OB despite all the backlash they get these days. A close friend is studying midwifery and she heard just the other day on the grapevine that my OB actually caught one of his patient's babies while she delivered drug free in the squat position. I hadn't envisaged the OB's getting in amongst it like that but I'm so happy to hear mine likes to get his hands (and possibly suit!) dirty :D
THANKYOU!
my dad may be a high risk specialist but he is pro vaginal birth
With the confidence you both have I'm sure you will have your VBAC
You got my support and well wishes :)
Good luck!
I agree that is great & lucky you to have this OB!:
but...if I as a private patient was paying an OB...any OB...I would fully expect that they would do this. Isn't that part of what you pay them for?
Absolutely! It's just with all the OB bashing that goes on, I was a tad bit surprised that my OB did this. That's terrible, I know, but I guess I'd started to believe everything I'd been reading about OB's.:
I know what you mean :) it is sad but understandable that we start to feel like this.:
So a cheer for your OB :clap: and lucky you to have him !
Thanks girls, it is funny how good and excited a little unprompted encouragement and support can make you feel.
Plus I have been reading reading reading all about VBAC and feeling so positive about it atm. So go team VBAC!!!!
That's awesome. Good to hear.
Thats great news :)
My OB and her backup recently let someone I know try for a VBA2C. They let her actively labour for over 20 hours and a CS was never mentioned until the mum actually made the decision herself that a repeat cs was what was needed in the end. In this case it was actually the midwife at the hospital freaking out more than the OB was.
Wow that's fantastic, how great for that mother to be able to make the decision herself.:
Yes, that's why I think she is at peace with how it all panned out. She was in control and making all the decisions the whole time.:
My OB refused to take me if I wasn't going to try for a VBAC. She has helped deliver a baby on the floor while in her high heels - I cracked up when she told me that.
Ruff...what is your OBSnam (pm me if you want) and what hospiatl are you attending??
Interested to see if an OB would allow VBA3C....
It is fabulous to hear of some really positive pro VBAC OB's out there, it great to hear of the encourgaement so many of you have received. There are some brilliant OB's out there, and it is fabulous to hear some "good news" stories, mine is one of them ;)
Love the high heels to Nai, what a crack up! :lol:
unfortunately I think it would be rare - its hard enough to get one supportive of a VBA2C! My OB up here has been searching for others for me, and she said the amount of flat out "no's" she has received is amazing. I think Dr Bisits (sp?) at Newcastle would be your best bet - he's supposed to be the most supportive one (well apart from my OB up here on the coast!):
Best of luck in your search for one - it can be a difficult journey :hug:
I think that's the issue most have with OB's. Not allowing the woman to decide for herself or listening!:
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Wow that's fantastic, how great for that mother to be able to make the decision herself.:
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My OB and her backup recently let someone I know try for a VBA2C. They let her actively labour for over 20 hours and a CS was never mentioned until the mum actually made the decision herself that a repeat cs was what was needed in the end.
I've seen someone being spoken down to by an OB at a time when all she needed was a bit of a go. Entirely uncalled for!
On the opposite end of the scale, my OB is great and really listened and spoke to me on the same level.
Fluff - It cant hurt to talk to him, he is pretty open to things... I will PM you his details. But I am going public (private patient) through Royal Prince Alfred in Newtown, as it is closest for me. He also delivers private at North Shore, POW, and Mater. I think he even supports water births now... I would think he would be open to talking to you, but I have no idea what his answer would be. Good Luck hun.
Well there are some terrible stories. A good friend of mine, when she told her OB she wanted to birth on all fours, said "I'm a doctor, not a vet - you'll lie on your back".:o:
The OBs I saw when I was having Tom were fantastic, really, really great and supportive of everything I wanted to do. They were really patient led - and both were women! I ended up having both of them at Tom's birth for various reasons, and they were fantastic.
Whaaaaaat? :jawdrop::
I know! And guess what, she had the whole managed labour schtick from beginning to end and it was traumatic for her.:
Nai, are you able to tell me who your obs is and where they work? I have just started the search for a vbac obs in melb and yours sounds promising!
I had a good VBAC Ob - Dr David Freiden at Francis Perry and Cabrini.
Gee, that poor woman with the Ob who said he wasn't a vet. That's disgusting, how dare he?
I must say, I find the language that people use when discussing Obs and VBAC's really interesting: eg: My Ob let me labour, or let me try for a VBAC. I can't help but feel a little annoyed that woman feel that it is not up to them, but up to their Ob - like the Ob should be given a round of appluase for letting you try to do it yourself. I'm so not wanting to hurt anyone's feeling as I'm sure I said similar things myself, I just find the language used interesting, that's all
Goodluck with your VBAC's everyone. Remember you are all strong woman in charge of your own bodies!
Congrats on the good news, hope it all goes as planned for you!
YAY
Very true. And in the same line of thought I disliked being told I was having a trial of labour, or trying for a VBAC.:
When I was having my third child (in fact in all of my previous labours) no-one told me I was trialling a vaginal birth and yet that was the one that ended in an emergency CS.....
Carrie and Jasp - I agree to a point that the language is not necessarily favorable to us... But how else can you word it? I am "trying for a VBAC" with the full support and coaching of my OB. It was the decision we came to jointly, so I am not sure how else to word it...
"trial of labour" is quite a nasty term, but essentially, that is what it is... I have never laboured, my scar has never laboured, so we are giving it a go to see if we can make it work...
Ruf - it was just that I saw it as a labour, plain & simple.
Nobody tells a first time mother who has never laboured that she is having a trial of labour, it's just labour. I guess I thought it should be the same for any woman having any labour.
Because it is always a trial, kwim? You start out labouring & see how it goes, & if it doesn't happen for whatever reason then you go to plan B. That is anytime a woman labours - so why make an issue of it when it's a VBAC...
having said that I did occasionally refer to it as 'trying for a VBAC' but I tried to more often say 'we are having a VBAC'. I know things don't always go to plan, I don't need to remind myself everytime it's discussed ;)
Rufalina- Goodluck with your VBAC! My issue is not really with anyone saying they are hoping for or trying for a VBAC, although I really like Jas' point above - that every labour is a trial - so why is a VBAC any different. The thing that gets to me is when all the power of decision making is given to the Ob, when they say they will "let" you try, as if it is their decision and not your's - it just feels a bit disempowering. It's not like they can't let you - it's your decision. I'm a strong believer in a woman being given all the research, for and against, the pros and cons and then the woman having the power to decide what's in their best interest. Eg: a friend of mine is about to have a 3rd c-section, and she said that her Ob wouldn't let her have a vaginal birth. That really makes me angry when an Ob doesn't allow someone to make their own decision - or even give them the relevant research on the subject. I feel it is their job to advise rather than instruct.
ETA- I suppose my friend could always find another Ob, but many woman trust that the Ob is the expert and obviously right and don't realise that perhaps they aren't being given all the relevant information. When I had my first I was the same, I just blindly followed the Ob, and didn't think anything of being given an internal at every appointment. It wasn't until my 2nd baby that I realised that it wasn't normal to be given an internal at all appointments...anyway, I'm waffling!!!
Suffice to say that my issue is not with the VBAC woman, but arrogant Obs!