I'm Pregnant again... I'm THRILLED, DH will KILL me...

Hi all,

I'm Sarah and I am pregnant again. This will be a our 4th child. The thread title was a little dramtic, however DH only wanted 2 children and now we are prg with our 4th. I haven't told him yet, as I only found out today, so I am guessing I am only like 4 - 5 weeks. If the Ovulation Calculator I used was right the baby will be born in April around the 7th.

My DD 10, DS 3, DS 1 + baby...

I am not really sure what to do, or when to tell him. With my last DS I had 2 MC before him. So I am not 100% sure this one will stick. But I am thrilled to bits. DH will only bring me down from my high is I tell him. His argument will be we only have a 3 brd house. He doesn't like kids having to share a room. But me and my sister did, granted we were all little at the time then parents built a house and had own rooms.

So one give me some advise... I mean it was not I planned this behind his back. We were both will, (and I am on the breast feeding pill, fat lot of good that is) so he can't blame me. Granted he knew I wanted 4 kids, and I have been asking him since we had last DS to go and get snipped. MEN...

For now I wont be telling anyone but you ladies. As you are all in the so boat as me pregnant.

Any help or words of wisdom would be great.

Cheers
Sarah

EDD: 7th April 2010

Lol, good luck, it'll all work out and I hope this one is a sticker!!!

PS the 7th is my Birthday!!! It's a good day to be born!!!

Congratulations hun. I am sure DH will come around if he is less than happy - it's not like he has a choice in the matter, it's happening now so the only thing to do is just make the best of it :hug:

Coolabahdee: My baby's are always late at least 5-10 days, so knowning my luck it will be born of last DS brithday 23 April...
Also my luck I would be having triples or twins. I would defently be a dead wife then...

Bon: Am sort of scared of how it will trun our. How will I be able to cope from 3 to 4. 2 - 3 was hard.
Actully I don't care, 'cos I am a farmers wife I did it by myself with the first 3 I can do it again with DD help. she love holding babies...

Thanks again ladies...

Sarah

P.S. Spirits are still flying high....

Congrats....our #4 was a suprise too...my DH only wanted 1 - now he has 4. But at the end of the day he knew im super fertile, mini pill doesnt work for me and refused to get the snip...so kinda going to happen that i fall pregnant. Same can be said for you...

We have a 3 bedroom house, 6 people in it...we're doing ok. Although rennos will start soon for a 4th bedroom.

It took me and DH a long time to get used to being pg with #4...we both dealt with it in our own time....it wasnt easy...but we got there - together. Make sure you talk heaps.....

Congratulations!

I grew up as one of 8 kids in a 4 bedroom house. We survived to tell about it. ;) Actually I loved sharing a room, and my girls also share rooms and love it. Having a room to your self might be appealing sometimes, but having a close sibling to talk and share with is a life long gift, IMO.

Anyways, give your DH a little time to adjust - he'll come around. As Mbear said - keep communicating!

All the best! :hug:

Don't worry Sarah, I'm sure he'll be thrilled when he gets used to the idea. Here's hoping for a sticky baby.

CONGRATULATIONS !!!

I am sure your DH will be fine.....eventually :D

You never know - he might surprise you !

xxoo

Congrats! I'm sure DH will come around :D

Thank you again to you all,

You are all so positive. And I know I should be, but I know my DH he doesn?t like pregnant people full stop. He hardly touch me when I got to around 5month prg with 2 DS, and when they were born he didn?t have a lot to do with them until they were like 4-6 months when they could see and watch things.

He will just have to get used to the idea I know, but as far as communication goes, he doesn?t he retreats into our little world and doesn?t say anything.

When I told him we were pregnant with other children it wasn?t the reaction I wanted, thrilled like me. No more disappointed would be more the word I would use to describe his reaction. (a comment was ?That?s something isn?t it, now what are we going to do?.) So I have condole myself with it is going to be a long and lone pregnancy in the beginning or maybe all thought but I meet some lovley ladies on here last time and was hoping there were would be another belly buddies due around same time I will join and get some support that way.

But maybe now he will go and get SNIPPED.

i found out today as well lol my bf has a low sperm count so its amazing thats for sure

but we allready have 2 kids together( he has a daughter from previous relationship) this will make number three our house isnt big enough ect but like i said to him a baby is a baby its a blessing and if he dosent liek it yup he should have got snipped lol

but i wish u all the best and will enjoy to share my jouney with u

by the due date calulator and my lmp im due the 9th of april lol

As the others said .
Congratulations.
I think you need to be honest straight up with him

And really if he DOESNT want a child and DOES want sex - then he should wear a condom or have the snip.

Men need to take responsibility too - frustrating.

But for what it is worth - congrats - what wonderful news to have a little playmate for your 1 year old!

Congratulations on the little suprise...

we are TTC our 4th ATM, and from what everyone tells me and what I hope is true, going from 3 to 4 is so bad its only going from 2 to 3 that hurts... we coped quite well with our 3rd so can only hope the same will happen when ( and If ) our 4th comes along...

Congratulations and good luck telling DH. Perhaps he'll think twice about putting off getting the snip now.
I hope that it'll all work out and that he will start getting happy and exciting early on.

Hun - it takes two to tango - unless he thought you were on contraceptive & you weren't :redface: it is just as much his responsibility as yours if you are not actively trying.

hope it goes well.

Wooohooo to you and congratulations.

Like the others have said he wants to play russian roulette then he has to deal with the consequences. He knew it was a possibility that you could get pregnant again so he really cant be that shocked or disappointed about it.

If you are happy and exciteda bout the pregnancy dont let him bring you down and make you feel bad about it. This will send him off to the drs for sure. :p

Going from 2-3 was a big shock to the family dynamics but 3-4 wasnt that big a deal aside form the needing a bigger vehicle. We are about to go from 4-5 so I will let you know how we cope with that just in case hubby drags his feets on the snip thing again lol

SamiH: Am still on BF pill, however I am not BF full time. Only night time feeds, for about 1 1/2 months now. When I went to Dr. he told me it was still good/in effect. But if I didn't want to get prg to use condoms. I hate them, so I struck a deal with DH to no condom, but avoid ovulation days, which was a 7 day break from sex. So can't understand why am prg but am glad. 'cos I know what it feel's like to lose 2 and I don't wish that on anyone esp when you wanted them so bad then.

All-boys: OH MY LORD... 5 children. Good on you. Not many people these days have even 3 let alone 4 or 5 so more power to you.

We/I wanted to get a new car anyway, but now this it will be a must...

Anyway thanks all for your words, will let you know what happenes as said before I will wait a while probley until I least get over 8 weeks 'cos I normal MC around the 5-7 week mark. Now that it has had time to settle in that I am going to be HUGH again I quite like the idea. And the idea of a new LITTLE BABY to cuddy.

Dam there goes the guide dog puppy owners... That is what we talked about. To be guide dog puppy carer's until they went off to school then we could always have a new puppy at least once every 2 years....

Hey Sarah, there is actually a lot of us out here, lol...5+ kid families, actually I think only 2 of my friends have less then 4. My cousin is pregnant after 4 boys she is pregnant with twins, but isn't telling what she's having. Good luck with it all. :stickyvibesgirl: to you!!!

Coolabahdee: I am worried about where I am going to put them all, as we only have 3 bedroom house.

I will go insane if it is more than one baby... DH works long hrs and I would need help bad...

Hi that could be my story!!! I was extremly worried about what my Dh was going to say, but it was okay in the end. I too have had a few MCs and am not sure if baby will stick, but so far things look good with good HCG levels etc. Dh was supposed to get snipped on the 3rd July but somehow missed his appointment???? although i don't think it mattered as I would have already been preg. This is baby no 5 for us he would have stopped at no2... but no 3 was supposed to be...... DS got very sick and all of a sudden nothing else but our kids mattered, I had a big urge to have another baby so along came no4 she took some work, to get here 3 MCs and 18 months!!! so no 5 is really a surprise;) no biggie going to bigger numbers it actually gets easier. As far as sharing we have extended, but there is stilll going to be kids that have to share, who??? will wait and see what sex this baby is...:lol::lol::lol: I am over the moon as well, DH coming around.:rolleyes:

blackduckies: Thanks for sharing you story. I felt a little relif. We never planned to live in the house for more than 8 years, we have already been here 4. It is a starter house and not the one we want to grow old in as it is too small. DH will get his family farm, but we are looking to buy a house next door, just waiting on the older man to want to sell.

So there is no point in doing an extention now.

If only DH could have an awaking like that, maybe he would want more children. However I do want to be too old having them. It get tought we each baby only 'cos I have more to chase around be it is born. Along with they keep getting bigger.
DS2 9lb 15oz...

Anyway I better go, pumpkin soup is calling my noise/tummy...
(TG is veggies and not McDonalds)

Cheers