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Sick of people telling me i dont look big enough to be 29 weeks.
I think ive ballooned but EVERYONE i see or talk to tells me i dont look 29 weeks. Ive put on 6 kilo....Is that not much for 29 weeks??
My partner is very small, only 55 kilo, as hes bred to be a jockey, could it just be a smaller bump cause he is smaller?
Its getting me worried that the doc was wrong with the estimate of how far along i am...maybe im only like 20 weeks and she buggered up in telling me...???
Dont listen to them what would they know - last time I checked there was no uniform size of a 29 week belly. I used to get the same thing. Dont worry soon enough they will be asking havent you had that baby yet - you look huge lol.
Great EDD too - thats my birthday
Hi there. I've never been pregnant. But one of my SIL has 4 kids and she never really had a bump, she didnt get very big at all! i wouldn't worry too much i just think those people are being rude! not every woman is going to have a huge bump!
This you have to get used to.
In the same day I've had one person tell me how tiny I was, the next told me it looked like I was having TWINS. Der
I was told this too - and I gained 14kg!! 2 days before my sisters due date we were shopping and a lady asked her when she was due, she told her anytime and the lady told her she must be wrong cos she was too small and hadn't dropped yet. A few hours later she went into labour. Soo wanted to go back and tell the shop lady :lol:
Everybody's bump is different just as our body's pre and post baby are.
Me too I think sometimes people comment just for the sake of commenting!:
If all your checks with the doc/midwife/scans have been fine I wouldn't worry.:hug:
I think too when people say you look small they're just trying to be nice in telling you that you don't look like an enormous whale! I would try to take it as a compliment!
But it's true - pregnancy is like having an idiot magnet on your head - so many people feel compelled to say something stupid to your face and think nothing more of it.
Pff.
It could well be if you are indeed measuring small that it is genetic - small father could indeed be the reason for a small baby - but that's no indication that there's any problem.
I'd be more worried if your husband or partner was a giant... hello, where's my pain relief.
I get conflicting comments all day...
"you sure there's only one in there?" is followed by "gee you're so tiny!" is followed by "still 9 weeks to go? Are you joking?" is followed by "you're very petite".
Hi first time mummy. I was also repeatedly told the same thing. In fact when I was 12 days overdue, people didn't believe that I was about to have the baby.
My midwife even told me that based on my measurements, I was going to have a small baby and he came out at 4kg. I wouldn't worry too much about what people are saying. Hopefully if you don't get too big it will be easier to lose the weight later?
You should be fine if you rely on the ultrasounds etc.
Sooo many things can influence the size of your bump -
The tightness of your tummy muscles, whether your uterus tilts forward or sits deep within your abdominal cavity, how much amniotic fluid you have, the list goes on.
Don't worry sweetie, you will be a perfect 29 weeks size for you.
I got the opposite, so just shows idiots will comment regardless, they just can't help themselves. Unfortunately it doesnt stop :wall::doh:
all the way thru my pregnancy people were saying i was little, in the last few weeks people were telling me i would go late for sure as i hadn't dropped or whatever (i started to not listen i just heard blah blah lol) they also said i'd be lucky if my baby was 6 pound and how good the birth would be with a little bub. (since when is any birth easy lol)
Well the truth was i did not go late (1 day late doesn't count) and my DS was 8pound 8 so not exactly small.
The moral of my little story hun is try not to let it bother you, your body will be growing your baby perfectly and i'm sure your dates won't be mixed up.
Good luck all the best for the rest of your pregnancy xxx
Please don't stress yourself, everyone is different, my entire pregnancy with Ava i looked tiny, i am quite tall so lots of room to hide but she was just a small baby 6lb 11oz.
I am now pregnant with #2 and am 19wks today and i am prob bigger now than i was 3/4 of the way through with Ava.
Enjoy your pregnancy and your beautiful belly (no matter what size) and don't stress about other people.
I was told by a twit where I worked during my first pg, "gee, you're so small - are you sure the baby's ok?"... she's lucky I was working on 'zen' and didn't deck her! Not that I believed there could be anything wrong, but maybe to reboot her 'filter' so that she could use it next time she felt like opening her mouth to someone who might be a hell of a lot more sensitive than I...
Most people I'm interacting with this pregnancy know me enough now to keep quiet. No-one surprised that I'm going homebirth this time and few people are brave enough to question me on how I'm going about this pregnancy ;)
Still, it's hideously annoying when people make dumb@rse comments. Filters on, please people!!
I have a small belly this time around compared to my previous pregnancies and most people look shocked when I tell them I have a week to go, but our baby is fine and our dates are fine :).
Re: comments - everyone has an opinion! DH & I the other day commented on how my tummy has dropped, then the next day another mum I was speaking to said I won't be going into labour soon because my belly is still high :rolleyes:. A couple of days after that a midwife commented that my belly was nice & low and the baby is ready to come out any day now - so at least DH & I know what we are talking about LOL!
Yup *sighs* it can grate on ones nerves.
I get told im huge.. i get told im tiny.
I happen to think im quite small for almost 30 weeks.
Plus who cares what everyone else thinks? as long as the doc is happy with the way you are then it doesnt matter :)
Don't listen to them Stevie! People just comment for comment's sake. As long as your ob is happy, as long as your scans are showing normal growth, then it's all ok. Everyone is different.
I do know how you feel though. I have only put on a small amount of weight too, and 30 weeks with twins! But I have a long body and one of them is so low he's almost in my thigh and my tummy is way smaller than my other preg friends who are only having one and are less preggers than me.
I felt really worried about it for ages. But my ob said it was all just fine.
So tell 'em to stick it! :)
Jenx
I can join in this chorus :)
How big your bump is on the outside is NO indication how big the baby is. My bump is pretty small but all my measurements are fine for gestational age so the MW's at my birth centre aren't the least bit concerned.
So relax and block out those silly comments - you're doing a great job growing your baby :)
Annoying isn't it? And everyone has an opinion.
Oh boy, when I was pregnant EVERYONE had an opinion. First of all I was huge, then tiny, got told oh no youll be having a small baby(by other people not a MW)...he was 8pd 6.5ozs and I only put on 6 kgs my entire pregnancy. If the MWs arent concerned then you shouldnt be! At 27 weeks my fundal height was 33cms..and Daniel was only 2 days overdue so pretty much on time. You dont have anything to worry about hun!
Bred to be a jockey???? :confused:
I understand how you feel. I got told that all the time. I shocked people all the way through my pregnancy at how far along I was. I even had to tell some people I was pregnant during the third tri. It must've just been the way I carried.
It used to worry me but I kept reminding myself that I was always measuring correctly & during scans all was as it should be size wise (except they always told me he was going to be short).
I got told at the 34 week scan he'd be about 7 pounds but was born 7 pound 13 at 38/4 so would've been a biggun had be arrived on schedule. He is however short but that was always expected as I'm only 5 1 & his dad is not tall.
My sister, when pregnant with her first, was told all the time she was huge. She was so sick of it. The baby was overdue and she just felt so big and over-full.
After a few days break from her morning walks (to finally have the baby), she returned to her local park pushing a pram. One guy, who said hello to her every day, said "oh, did you adopt a baby from overseas?" He had never noticed her bump!
i get told the opposite - i've never gotten told once that i'm small (and kinda wish i would)
Hey girls,
thought I'd add to the lineup of feedback. I'm in the "what, you're pregnant?...where??" camp and at 28 weeks today, have still never had a comment from anyone other than surprise and the usual comments about being small, then they regale you with stories about people they knew who also never showed at all! I think cos I'm IVF and paid alot for this bump and waited 15 years to get it (and sure aint going back for more), I feel ripped off that it's turning out this way. Aren't we supposed to be fending off belly pats in the street and being told we look like whales? Well maybe I don't' want that, but please, I've got a gorgeous big uncomfortable belly and I've barely put on 4kg if that. I don't have the small DH, mine's 6ft2 so who knows, but if I copped a comment like are you sure it's alright, yeah I'd fairly blow a fuse...how disgusting Mayaness!. Ha, I'm with JenC, tell em to stick it...if only...:D
As long as your dr is happy with your mesaurements then i wouldn't worry. We all carry our babies differently and everyone seems to have an opinion when you are pregnant! Some people tell me I'm huge others say my bump is very small and compact... whatever! I'm happy and my baby is healthy and that is all I'm concerned about and all you should be concerned about too. ;)
I met a lady at the hospital yesterday, and we started talking, she was massive, not a big girl, but she had this massive baby bump, and i thought she would have been atleast 36 weeks, we got talking, and she was actually only 28 weeks....!!! She was a week less than me, yet her tummy was massive.
Everyone must carry differently
don't worried about it ppl come in all shapes and sizes and so do babies also ppl show differently. A friend of mine is about to have her 5th baby, she is 37weeks now and an average size belly and you couldn't even really see she was preg until about 31weeks! and then she just popped so that might happen with you and if not who cares!!
I would jut say "well I am 29weeks preg and THIS IS WHAT THAT LOOKS LIKE!!"
You and your baby are just the right size and yea it is definitely possible your bubs is small after all he/she does have u and ur partners dna
Maybe its just me and I'm wierd but doesn't bother me - though has mainly only been friends who have done so as we don't have family in Australia. My hairdresser did have a rub without asking (while not a friend have been going to her for years) but haven't had complete strangers coming up to me.
I think of it as them being excited for me - like Murph01 - ours is an IVF baby so we have waited for a long time for this moment so am making the most of it .................... will probably be a lot better than the "jelly belly" I'll be left with after the big day - Im sure I won't want people rubbing / jiggling that :D
You know what my pet hate is during pregnancy? People who say "Now I can call you fatty". Beg your pardon?? You decide that the most sensitive phase of a woman's life is the best time to make value judgments on her physicality? You idiot! Whether you actually put weight on or not doesn't matter (cos I've heard - oh, but you're so small, it's just a joke...so, if it doesn't actually apply, don't say it, moron!), IMO.
That and stating whether you are carrying small or big or high or low or 'definitely' a boy or girl are all dumb things to say and people need to reinsert brains and filters!
You know the funny thing?? I totally agree, because whenever I go out to poker (and to places whereever people know me and have known me for years as a stick) they say 'Hello fatty! How are you today fatty?!' ARRRRGH! :wall::wall::wall::
I was a bit relieved after reading your post...
All along my pregnancy (now 33wks) i have been told 'wow you're so tiny' and amazed responses at how far along i am. Working in retail i get at least 3 customers everyday telling me this, and several friends who are due around the same time are sooo much bigger than me! On each of my midwife appointments i have mentioned it, to which they tell me i'm measuring right on, and it's just that i'm tall, etc.
Friends say it's a good thing that i'm 'all baby' and that most people would be jealous to look not huge.....
But as soon as i am reassured that all is fine, i get that niggly feeling that something must be wrong again. This was definately NOT helped by an article in the Herald Sun last week about a lady who was concerned that her bump was tiny and it turned out the baby was not growing properly and had to be delivered really early. That day i called the midwife in tears :cry: Again she checked my recorded measurements and the uterus is the right size, i'm just tall, etc.
So i'm really glad to hear that other's are in the same situation and i guess we are all just different in how we carry. Don't get me wrong- i'm very happy with pushing out a 6lb baby rather than a 10lb baby if that's what it's going to be, provided it's healthy!
Still, i wish everyone would just bugger off with their comments ;)
My farrier asked me the other day how much longer I had to go. I told him and he crack up laughing and said I was going to be HUUUUGGGEEE by then :lol:
I just laughed and said "yeah thanks for that"
I also had the medical receptionist yesterday tell me I looked "swell" I laughed and said " yeah swell is the right word for it"
I love when people comment on my bump - so far ;)
Nae x
hahah thats all my DH calls me, i dont mind, coz i wasnt in the slightest way overweight before, im glad i have a belly now and i LOVE showing it off. heeh: