Anyone else think this is weird - or just me?

I was just chatting to a friend on facebook and she told me she was pregnant - excellent - awesome woohoo - I know she's been wanting to be pregnant for ages, and since she is 9 years older than me (and I'm no spring chicken) I'm really thrilled that she is with someone that she loves and seems happy and is going to have a baby!!

She told me it was a girl and what her name was going to be - and I'm like, even more awesome, girls are cool. Then she said she was due in July. Umm. Doesn't that like make you 4 weeks or something? I know when Miss M was due in July I got my BFP at 4 weeks at around the 5th of November or something?

I thought the sex organs didn't actually develop until the 7th or 8th week? Or am I wrong? Is there a test out there that I don't know about that can tell you at 4 weeks what the sex is?
I'm quite confused about all this, cos I only ever found out with DS what he was and that wasn't until I was 20 weeks with him!!! (36 weeks with DD at my OB's office).

Am I in the dark or what?

I didn't htink you could tell that early either. Perhaps she did one of those gender tests. Are they available yet?

Yay for your friend, how exciting :)

Any chance she was using IVF and PGD??? I know they can pick the female embyros that way, but you can only do it for genetic reasons, not gender selection.

Ummm.. I *think* there is that saliva test thing you can buy, that came out not long ago... not sure how early you can use it though.

But that all does sound a bit... odd. Hmmm :think:

Um, if she's due in July then I don't know how she can already know it's a girl. Unless she's been doing those home gender predictors which aren't all that accurate. I had a friend who did several of them and they all came up as having a boy...she went to her 20 week scan and was told she's having a girl.
I don't think the sex organs are visable until about 8-12 weeks and I certainly don't think they're visable on ultrasound until 16-20 weeks.

Maybe she's just really hoping for a girl :dunno:

But congrats to your friend!

at 6 weeks i think you can pee in a cup and find out the gender bgut its only 90% accurate. its that new gender test POAS thing.

but very odd...

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Any chance she was using IVF and PGD??? I know they can pick the female embyros that way, but you can only do it for genetic reasons, not gender selection.

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I was going to say that too.....

The only way she could know for absolute sure it is a girl that early on is if she had IVF/PGD. Although they cannot select for sex they would by default know the sex of the embryo implanted as it is one of the chromosomes tested in the PGD process......

she has possibly gone through IVF/PGD for gender selection if either herself or her partner have a genetic issue that is carried on the Y chromosome... it's not guaranteed (they advise scans and CVS/Amnio to confirm) but that is about the only way they could "know" at this stage

Nah she didn't have IVF or anything.... well I'm glad I'm not the only one its puzzling to!!! I knew about the gender predictor things but thought that they were only accurate from 8 weeks?

Bahhh I dunno...

yeah i thought they were about 8 weeks before they worked. and they don't really carry that much accuracy! tanya (mod) tried one on her pg with her youngest DD - told her she was having a boy.... hmmmm

If she is due in July, then is seriously only JUST pregnant.... I'm due 18th June, and only 5w 4 days!!!!

Strange..... maybe she "timed" for a girl, and thinks it worked???

Maybe she typed in the date wrong? Odd, as I don't see how you could know gender that early.

I hat to say it, but is it possible she's making it up? If she's been trying for so long and she's so hopeful? esp as she knows you're pg. I don't know, but unless it's PGD or she's psychic, she's not going to know the sex yet and for a July baby, she would only have just tested positive. Doing the maths, for her to have a July baby, assuming it's due 1 July and her cycle is 28 days (big assumption), her LMP would be 24 Sept 09. Making another assumption of a 14 day follicular phase O day would be 7 October. So today she'd be 12DPO.

So she could have tested early or had an early ovulation or whatever. Or maybe she meant June or something. I don't want to disparage your friend, but she might be dreaming it up.

I hope it goes well for her.

Hmm Tash I dunno - I do know that other times she has been pregnant (she has had a few miscarriages when I first met her) she said she knew the very second of conception - so she is probably very in tune with her body. I always knew when I was pregnant at around 12DPO without needing to do a test, I could just feel it, but not from the minute of conception!

Maybe she just really wants a girl? I dunno - I understand that desire, having gone through it myself.....

maybe she didn't dtd at O time - was a few days before, so is assuming it's a girl. i "knew" DD was a girl well before any scan could confirm it for me - i just knew in my heart.

she hasn't done something dumb and written the date the way the americans do, so she's due 07/01/10 but written it 01/07/10 like they do?

Nah its definitely July - she said it a few times, and when I asked how many weeks she was she confirmed that she was only really early into the pregnancy - so it must be REALLY early!!!

OK - well I hope it goes well for her. If she's had mc before she knows it's too early to know for sure. But she may be able to tell from the symptoms she has, based on prior experience. I thought my bub was a boy - just a feeling - but couldn't get verified. My Mum's said she always knew from conception too. I had a good idea about 4-5DPO but wasn't 100%

I hope this one sticks for her.

Why don't you ask her?

Yeah I would ask her too. Just word it non threatening, like - "Wow you are so early in your pregnancy, how do you know its a girl already?!? I had to wait til 20 weeks to find out mine!"

I really want to know now Mel, you better follow through with the goods lol!

I was going to ask her, but couldn't think of the right way to word it without coming across as being... I dunno.. sceptical? Everyone here knows I'm soooo not tactful at the best of times!!! LOL

I really want to know too, but maybe it's best to leave it. If she's pg again after mc, she'll be worried enough about it.

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Maybe she has a "i can feel it in me waters" sort of thing going on...

I can honestly say when I conceived this one I knew something was happening in there not long after O, but I didn't trust myself... you just never know ;)

Ask her and get back to us:p

those chinese prediction calenders are pretty accurate , well they both were for mine and my sis and my friend ... soo maybe she did that , but we all want to know now mel ... just ask !!! :p

Novel idea here - just ask her how she knows the gender this early (and then come back and tell us, as we are all dying to know now) :)

PMSL.. I'm not going to ask.

Maybe I could use the chinese predictors to see what my bub is though - I'm dying to know..

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those chinese prediction calenders are pretty accurate , well they both were for mine and my sis and my friend ... soo maybe she did that

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that's what I was thinking this morning. I still want to know how she knows, but agree it would be weird to ask

I think this is supposed to be a good one: Chinese Baby Calendar to Predict Baby Gender by Chinese age and woman conception month
The thing with Chinese years, is you are aged 1 when you born and it's based on lunar eyars. According to the Chinese calendar, I'm already 37 :(

Lunar years? Already a year at birth? Ahh crap, this is gonna confuse me.. LOL

Yep - just abit off the topic, but my sis's little bub is half Malaysian, and she had her "first" birthday a couple of weeks after she was born, as that was her first Chinese Lunar birthdyay

Too weird! If you are chatting with her again, I too would love to know this. I always sit on the side of caution but it's probably way too early for her to be telling people the sex, hopefully she's not out there buying heaps of pink things if she's only got an inkling and it hasn't been confirmed by doctors.

According to the chinese calendar I am having a girl...but should I add a year to my 'normal' age????