Does your bfing baby/toddler do this too?

Right now, I'm feeding Jazz her morning feed and she is on my left, and has her hand down my top and holding onto (groping LOL) my right boob!

Does anyone else's bub do this? It's cute I think (except when she pinches my nipple :doh:), but some people find it a bit confronting and act all funny like its really unusual??? Including two people who have breastfed their kids to 12 months (but not past, I only know one IRL and thats my mum, but thats another story lol). I think jazz started a few months ago, she may or may not have been 12 months :dunno: can't remember exactly.

It's not like I have my other side hanging out, Jazz just likes to hold on and make sure it doesn't fly off I suppose ROFL!!!

So, make me feel normal, because I'm SURE theres other bubs/toddlers out there who have a grope while they're feeding!!!!!!

My DD is a little bit younger than yours... she hasn't groped my other boob yet BUT she ALWAYS gropes my nipples and gives me nipple cripples and laughs!!!! It really hurts!!! :o haha it is pretty cute though....i'm saying "noooo" but she just thinks its even funnier :rolleyes:

In China with my family earlier this year we were walking through the thousand year old Buddhist Grotto at Dazu near Chonqing. There, meters high, carved into the rock wall was a mother feeding her young child (looked maybe 3 or 4 years old) The child was standing up, feeding from one breast and twiddling the nipple on the other side.

I could so relate! So, yes, I think children have been doing this since time began. To me, it was like nails on a chalkboard - and I quickly put a stop to it. (Twiddling - not breastfeeding - that kept going for many years!)

That's ridiculous that anyone would find that confronting... or maybe I'm just unusual. I think it's cute.

DS 3 is still very possessive of my boobs, even though he hasn't been breastfed since he was 12 months, and when he was little and breastfeeding he would do similar things. And he still pats me there if he gets a chance. It's completely not sexual. To him it's like cuddling a comforter. That is all. What is inappropriate is other's that think it is somehow sexual. And no I don't encourage him but I don't make a big deal out of it, as he's only patting etc if he were still groping I'd probably tell him not to as I'd find it damn annoying LOL!

I watched a friend's DS (ages about 20months) do this once and i swear, he was very knowlingly triggering a stronger letdown. He would twiddle for a bit, then sigh and suck quietly for a few moments, then back for a little twiddle (keeping his hand on the other boob but still in between). I admit i find it annoying too, but you have to admire a little technician working the equipment so expertly :)

Shanti, OUCH at the nipple cripples, Jazz gives mine a go sometimes, especially at night if I'm shirtless!

LOL Barb, I just had to go google that image, hahaha cute!

Rouge, I know what you mean. I assume they find it confronting with their tone when they say "uh, don't you find that a bit weird?"
:rolleyes: Uh, no, in fact I'd never taken much notice until you felt the need to comment...
It's been playing on my mind since I got back from our time away, I guess I've noticed it a bit more since then.

Leash = same here and I hate it actually.
Interesting point paradise lost = that never occurred to me!

Mia does this to me every chance she sees my naked BB's. Shes been FF since 6 weeks old. I think its just a kid thing.. :)

My ds, when he was breastfed, would play with the other one. Not with the nipple, just the breast as a whole. He's no longer breastfed( for about a yr now ;( ) and when I pick him up his hands quite often go down my top or he'll pull it down to see my boobs. Cute but frustrating especially in public

My Dd did the same thing. I fed both her and my Ds3 till 21 months (and 9 days for dd) I didn't like it so would stop her lol..

but yeh she groped and carried on lol.

DD smacks the boobie (sometime a little harder than I would like :lol:) for an increased let down and DS still sticks his hand down my top between my boobs as a comfort thing. I don't think it is unusual - the breasts are comforting. As an ample busted woman, many babies settle beautifully on my *cushions* - that's their job ;)

DS2 not so much, though he does punch the side he is on with the arm closest to me.
But DS1 used to do it all the time, you dont mind so much at home but out and about is another story.

Yep. DS is always sticking his hands down my top and likes to twiddle when feeding. It bugs me:lol:
He is also quite proprietal - waves bye-bye when I put my bra on:p

DD slaps my boob too on the side she is feeding on.... I didn't realise that was them trying to get a faster let down happening? I thought it was just her mucking around!!
LOL! My DH would come into the room and say "what was that slap?" haha

I have put a stop to it with my kids....

My cousin breastfed and let her DD play with the other breast.... she kept doing it years after being fed, anywhere and everywhere. She would just put her hand down her top and pinch. It did look wierd.
But she now does it to anyone. And I find that gross. She has done it me when I was feeding H, and mum just laughed. I dont see how a 3 yr old groping other women is right??? She grabbed my DD, who has developing little breats buds, and it hurt. Mum said nothing, she thinks its fine.

To me, personally, I dont think teaching children that touching private parts is ok on other people. So I just dont let it start, then have to try and stop it later on when it starts to get a little weird.
Had I not seen this type of nipple playing, it probably wouldn't bother me, but I have, so it does. :lol:

DS is no longer bf, hasn't been for 9 months, and he still does it, usually when he's tired. He will sit facing me on my lap or lay against my shoulder with the finger from one hand in his mouth and the other hand down my top.
if he's that tired and not sitting on me his other hand is in his arm pit, funny little thing

Yep - including going to try and find it and pulling my hand away if I cover it up.

Lachlan shoves hi shand down my top , but he doesnt play with my breasts he is more interested in flinging my bra strap.
Oh and yes he does sometimes slap the boob he is feeding from

DS will BF while playing with the other nipple and I generally end up stopping him as he starts pinching and it hurts, otherwise he will have hand in clevage or just rubbing other boob.

Riley still likes to put his hand down my top and just pat my boob or gently stroke it, I think its a comfort thing. A little boy at school last year (6 yr old) was standing patting my boobs I stopped him pretty quickly though!! (it wasn't in a sexual way but there are limits!)

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DS still sticks his hand down my top between my boobs as a comfort thing. I don't think it is unusual - the breasts are comforting. As an ample busted woman, many babies settle beautifully on my *cushions* - that's their job

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:lol: Same here!

I was talking to a close family friend (male) the other day and holding DS1 who had his hands down my top squeezing 'his' boobies (he is still feeding)...the friend just let out a longing sigh and asked 'why is it that these boys are allowed to grab them whenever THEY want?' :rofl: His wife (one of my best friends) is still b'feeding their 15 mo DS so I'm sure he was talking about hers and not mine!!

Nipple tweaking I CANNOT handle though. Thankfully none of mine have done that so far.

DS finished BF'ing about 3 months ago (although he has tried to latch on again a couple of times since) and he still pokes and grabs my boobs. Particularly after we've had a shower, I dry him off first so he doesn't get cold and he will reach out and tweak my nipples. DH is teaching him to say "boobies" :rolleyes: Sometimes, when I am giving him a cuddle to go to sleep he'll stick his hand down my top. I think it's a comfort thing.

i think babies and toddlers are naturally curious about their world.

anything in reach, they will play with - including breasts, whilst bf-ing.

sounds entirely normal to me Leesha.

the older my child got, i started wearing bf-ing tops, which means, now when we feed (she's just about to turn three), much less of me is exposed, so there is less temptation for her to play with the breast that is not being suckled at the time.

in our first year, i wore singlet maternity tops and lots of me was exposed when i bf her, so she had heaps to "play" with.

Yep, my DS is the same age as your DD and he does the same thing. He loves to touch my other boob and god forbid I have no top on and he has full access to it, lol! He will pull pinch and flick at my nipple! Usually he just strokes and pats it. I love the way he appreciates his boo!
Don't let other people get to you leasha, it's their problem, not yours!

There was that article a couple of years ago about the man who bf his kid, can't remember which country it was in, but the baby's mother died so he lactated and fed their baby. The article included a photo of him feeding her and she was tweaking his other nipple too.

I think it is a comfort thing too. Just think about where they get cuddled and where they rest their head when they are tired. Boobies are meant to be comforting, and to them they get extra comfort from patting and stroking. Jett does it now, and he weaned himself when I got pregnant again, but I always notice him doing it when he is upset or distressed in anyway, in a new situation or if he is just tired.

Aaah, the magic of boobies!!

DD does this all the time!! DH thinks its funny. But she keeps me awake at night cause she is always grabbing my nipples when she feeds!! OUCH!!
she does it when we are out and she is tired, hands in the bra before i can stop her!
A friends DD who i used to look after alot years ago who was BF till 2+ would stick her hand down my top when she was tired. At the time i found it really wierd and stopped her doing it, but now i can see that it was just a comfort thing and actually quite a compliment as she obviously felt comfortable and safe enough with me to think my BBs could be a comfort like her mums. :)

My DD does this with my belly button and a mole on my tummy. She used to do it with a small mole on my face or my nose, but that got painful and annoying! I wish I'd put a stop to the belly button thing too. But I think most littlies like to fiddle while they're feeding, it's just that whatever's closest at hand cops it!

So I wouldn't find it weird - but I might feel sorry for you if I saw it because I so understand!

Jack will climb up next to me on the lounge, lift my shirt and start playing with my nipple. (I usually go bra-less when not expecting visitors) I'll say to him "would you like a drink?" he then starts to giggle, jumps off the lounge and runs away :rolleyes:
Also if I am getting dressed/undressed in front of him, he points at my boobs and just cracks up laughing!! :redface:

it wasn't until you posted Leash that I noticed. I almost always keep the other nipple covered cause I can't stand it being played with while feeding - a bit like nails on a chalk board. But I was holding him the other day and he was playing with my nipple, it was your post that made me 'notice'. He pats them and put's his hand down my top but it is a comfort thing.

On a side note LOL @ Jack Marlene - DS knows that it is bath, boob and bed and he likes to prolong the process as much, so I will ask if he wants 'boo' and get the nooooo response, I pat them and he smiles but says nooooo then I flash and he says no but he just can't resist them and starts to laugh/hyperventalite (ITMS) it is such a crack up.

Hmmm.....DS has taken to kicking my other boob lately! He holds his foot and just kicks away - sometimes it gets a bit ouchy too :lol:

Not sure how I should interpret that given everyone elses experience of the boob as a comfort for their babies. What's he trying to tell me? :rofl:

not only are they a comfort thing they are also toys :rofl: DS kicks them, pulls them and tries to swing off them given half a chance :lol:

LMAO Marlene, Jazzy waves to my boobies and says hello when I'm getting dressed :rolleyes: :rofl:

I find it annoying sometimes.

Ach I hated when my twins did this, I actually resorted to tandem feeding them so the other breast was out of reach. It is just a natural reflex to stimulate let down though, but that doesn't change the fact it hurts!:shakehead: