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We were planning on having little one in her cot in our room for a few weeks or so after she was born ,but we set up the cot in the nursery and do we honest we dont think it will fit in our room its a large cot... so not sure what to do now
Did you or are u planning or having ur newbie in with you for a while or straight into the nursery..what are your reasons for doing so
I had both of mine in with me for the first few months mainly because I was BF and was too lazy to go down to the other end of the house!
i have had both boys in their own rooms right from day one :) for us it works also both boys are noisy sleepers even thru the monitors they are noisy :lol: but if you want bub in your room what about a bassinet
We still have our youngest in with us LOL. It was just so much more convenient to have them in with us as newborns so that's what we did.
Jazz moved out of our room when she was 13 months. We used a combination of co-sleeping and 'side-car'ing, where we removed the side of the cot and had it up against the side of the bed.
We had DS in our room with us in a bassinette because I felt him being in another room was just too far away from me! Once he got too big for the bassinette (at about 4 months), we moved the cot from the nursery into our bedroom and he moved back into his own room at about 8 months.
This baby will also be in the bassinette in our room for however long. It certainly makes the night feeding a whole lot easier!
We have had all our kids in our room til about 3 months old because we found it easier to tend to them rather than getting up and going to their room.
we had both our girls in a basinette beside our bed until they were around 3/4mths old, then they went into the nursery.
the SIDS recommendations are to share a room - apparently its the safest thing for at least the first 12 weeks :)
With DD we had her in the cradle in with us, but the two of them (DD and DH) snoring drove me betty, so she and I coslept in her room after about 6weeks.
DS is still in with me, though we've had major issues with him and only now at 10months old is he actually sleeping for any length in his cot. Bit of luck and he'll stay that way and move out when he's 1ish.
Our DS has always slept in his own room. First in the cradle (which is another option, try ebay) and then in the cot. We have an Angel care monitor that helped ease the "new mum" worries, especially since he is a tummy sleeper.
To us our room is exactly that; our room. We thought we'd like to maintain that even with bub. You may find that you will just have to try different things once your little one is here, just keep an open mind and whatever works, works!
Hi have you thought about a Tetra bed? V hates the cradle but likes the Tetra and it can lay inside her cot later so she has something familliar when she does go in the cot. During the day it goes on top of our bed and at night it goes on the floor next to me. It has sides so she doesnt roll out... She does worm her way in with us on a regular basis though ;)
we have DD in a bassinett in with us, imnot a fan of co sleeeping coz we have a dog in the house. I was going to move DD into her cot last night actually but felt terribly guilty, so im just going to do it when it feels right, i dont have a baby monitor at the moment and i think that might have something to do with it, that i wont hear her and she'll end up working herself up coz i wont hear her for ages.
if you go with the cot i recomend getting a monitor, other get a bassinett, we had ours given to us, so ask around, when im finished with mine ill def be passing it on (after our next baby that is)
maybe one of your friends or family will have one? its only for a short amount of time.
We planned on putting DD in her room straight away but after having her in the SCN I couldn't do it. We got ourselves a portacot with a bassinet level (we knew we would use it over and over again). Put that in our room. This worked well for us. I didn't see the point in buying a bassinet for a limited amount of time given our lack of storage.
My DS was in his own room from day 1. I found I couldn't get any sleep when he was next to me. He did make into our bed a few times, mainly early morning (after 3am) when DH was at work and he wouldn't resettle, sometimes he would settle if I lay next to him. That stopped at about 6 months when he started kicking me out of bed lol!
DD was in our room for a few months in a basinette. When she was starting to grow out of that I moved the basinette into her room, then transitioned her to the cot. I figured moving room and bed at the same time was too much for her
We borrowed a bassinette & had that in our room, with the intention of moving her into a cot in the room she 'shares' with DS2 once she was too big. When the time came I found I just wasn't ready to have her there yet, so we moved the cot into our room & she's still there....whio knows how long for? :lol:
You'll figure out what works for you when bub is here ;)
we hadn't intended having DD in our room for very long - but she doesn't sleep well if we're not around, and i don't sleep well if she isn't nearby. i guess it's a part of the anxiety that i suffer - but it's just easier to have her in with us. she will eventually move into her own room - but for now, it's working for us so we're all good!
don't have thoughts set in stone on what you want and dont want when your bub arrives - reality is, you'll do what works, not what you think you SHOULD do! it's much easier to do it that way - having a bubba is setting your life into fluid motion - you just gotta roll with it!
Our little man is always in his own room. We live in an apartment so it's not too far in the middle of the night to feed / settle. Our son is also very noisy and I don't think I could sleep with him in teh same room as me.
DD was only in our room for a few weeks because she was the noisest sleeper that shekept me awake so I moved her to her room for my own sanity. DS is nearly six months and is still in our room and I can't seethat changing any time soon. Like the girls have said you will do what works for you and bubby.
Our room from the start because his room is down the other end of the house. It's easier for night feeding plus I'm too anxious about not being able to see him.
I think the recommendation is that they sleep in with the parents for at least the first 6 months, which was another factor in our decision.
We have a large bassinet that at almost 5 months DS still fits in quite comfortably. If he grows out of it before we're ready to move him, I'll be making the cot fit in our bedroom.
We're very lucky in that DS is such a quiet sleeper - never hear a snuffle or a snore out of him!!
If you want your baby in with you, what about hiring a portacot? I don't have one myself but I have heard people doing this when room is limited.
Do what feels right for you, good luck!!
We intended DS to go in to his cot in his own room from the start but when we came home from hospital I kind of felt like something was missing. I didn't say anything to DH but when he first woke that night and DH went and got him for me to feed in bed (I had a c/s so I wasn't get out of bed in a hurry in the middle of the night!) he suggested that we just keep him in our bed so we could all get a decent nights sleep, especially as he had to go back to work the next day.
He would sleep really well, and in turn so did we. We got used to all his noises and so learnt to only rouse to the noises requiring attention. And let me tell you, that sleep is just sooooooo invaluable in the early days, I didn't have to wake up fully as I just sat up in bed and he fed while I dozed and then we would both go back to sleep without any of us really fully waking up. It just worked beautifully.
He then stayed in there with us until 15 months, when we moved him in to his toddler bed in our room. He has made the transfer well and we are all still sleeping soundly!! When my next arrives in May we aren't going to bother with cot or bassinet - straight to co-sleeping (we used a bed sleeper for the early days when he was so tiny and will do that again) and will transfer to toddler bed when ready.
But of course our intentions changed last time when we got him home and so they may change again this time to suit us and the baby. Just go with your instincts, mine haven't steered me wrong yet!! :D You will just know what is right for your family which is why there are so many different experiences here in this thread!
we had DS in our room till about 6 or 8 weeks coz he was a wiggler and a loud sleeper he was bumping his head on the end of the bassinette we did co sleep sometimes because it was easier to settle him that way
We have a bassinet for our room for the first few months. I have always found that more easy. I got my other son's bassinet of Ebay for $51 it was a great buy I sold it on there for $120..
Both my DD's slept in a cradle next to our bed for about 6 months before going into their own room. I found it easier to sleep with them next to me and it was so much more convenient to feed during the night when they woke.
I had Ds in with us till he was 16 months old.. Ds2 till he was 16 months old and Ds 3 till he was 15 months old.. They pretty much moved into thier own rooms once we felt like we needed the space..
DD went into her room at 9-10 months because to be honest I was sick of her in my room and thought she might sleep through if we didn't share a room (no such luck though lol)
Even if the cot won't fit in your room you could put the cot mattress on the floor for a few weeks/months.. or even co sleep if thats what you prefer.
Ds1 used to sleep in his pram in our room until he was 4 months old and he wriggled up and was alsmot falling out so from then on they were only in their cots. We bought a second hand cradle for DD..
DS slept in our room (in his cradle or in our bed) until about 16 weeks as it made breastfeeding easier, then moved into his cot in his room quite happily (as had been sleeping in his cot for day sleeps for about 10 weeks at this point anyway)
DS still co-sleeps with us ( we do have a KS bed though) sometimes for the whole night, and sometimes if he is a bit wakeful from 3-4am onwards, we find if we bring him to bed with his he immediately goes back to sleep and so do we.
I had planned to have him sleeping in his cot in his room when DH went back to work after 3 weeks - so I suggest as the others have to leave your options open, you may think differently when you bring your LO home
I think it wont be for the convenience as bubs room is right near ours but more so for my piece of mind :) and having her close to me so i can see her and check on her..
like u all said i have to wait till she is home anf see how it goes and what happens ..
so many great replies and its made me think alot obout what we will do
thanks guys!
Thanks for all your replys guys its all been so usefull
so finally decided that we would like to start off with bubs in our room and see how that goes , as we can always move her into her room if we feel ok with it.
i told my mum and guess what lol, i got the whole 'i dont think u should do that' 'you should put her in her own room from the start' etc etc
oh god lol
Ahhhh - best to have a quiet word with your Mum and let her know while she did a great job raising you (:)), the best gift she can give you as a mother is to support all the decisions you make regarding your children :)
Aww Shel! Someone, somewhere will always disapprove of the way you raise your children. Just remember that Mummy knows best and in this case it is you!! Your Mum had her turn, now it is yours. Naomi has some wise advice there!
well said girls :) ..My mum is so excited for this baby like we are but the advise and the 'u should ' 'when i had babies ' when i was pregnant ' etc comments are driving me in sane.:
i like ur quote , its very well put
Hi Shell,
Like some of the others have said, I think the current SIDS recommendation is that baby sleeps in the room with you until they are 6 months old - perhaps you could kindly let your Mum know that these recommendations have changed since she was a mum to young bubs, just like what position to sleep the baby in. My DD started out in a bassinet in our room, then when she outgrew that at about 4 1/2 months we tried to move her into her cot in her room - didn't work! So she is in her cot in our room. I actually really like it - especially when breast feeding it is so easy to just get them out of their bassinet/cot and then put them back.
Good luck with whichever way you decide to go - I think once you have bubs home and you try it out, you will find what fits you all the best.
Janie xxx
I'm going to be letting baby sleep in a bassinet at night time in our room but have her in her own room and cot for naps through the day.
S X
DD went straight into her cot as soon as she got home from hossy and I will be doing the same thing again. Only thing this time is I worry bub will wake DD, but we'll deal with that if/when we come to it :)