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I'm starting to get sick of the 'gee your big', 'you sure there is only 1 bub in there', you going to give birth to a toddler' comments, I'm 6 months pregnant, I'm meant to have a belly!
Anyway, was just wondering what good comebacks others had for these people?
I use to say to some people "what do you expect I am x weeks pregnant" in a laughy voice. Sometimes I would say "yeah i really should lay off the dounuts i am starting to look like i am pregnant" Then one one occasion I was in a bad mood and I coped a comment from a heavier person and I just said back "at least I have an excuse" - mind you I practically ran away after that for fear of being beaten to a pulp :o
Hehe, I get this sh*t all the time. I'm quite petite and my bump is large.
I say to people "well, that's funny because my Dr measured me the other day and I am measuring right on target".
I'd also really love to say "I'm pregnant, what's your excuse?" but I don't have the guts.
One of my work colleagues (who is massively overweight) told me that I was "waddling" the other day and I was so close to saying "yeah but I'm pregnant, what is your excuse". But I didn't. Never mind the fact that SHE had just offended ME by telling me that I was waddling (which I hear from other people that I most certainly DO NOT waddle).
Ugh, I wish people would shut the #$%^ up. I used to get people's unwanted advice and opinions when it came to my infertility - now it's about my pregnancy!!!!
Hugs, I feel your pain
Sue xxx
I get the 'gee your big' comment too, I even had one women tell me 'gees your fat now'!!!!
Usually I just say 'well there is a baby in there' but once I did get pretty ****y and said, 'well I will give birth but you'll always be ugly'.
Oh man I've copped so many of those comments lately.
'Your bumps way bigger this time, this kids gonna be huge!'
Its even more annoying because I'm measuring about 5cm smaller than last time? With Munchkin I was always 2-3cms ahead and this little one is about 2-3cms behind.
I don't know if its end of pregnancy impatience/irritation but I usually just grump at them. Sadly nothing witty as yet, maybe next time. :D
But I don't know about you guys, I kind of find it rude when someone tells me I'm going to have a 'huge baby'. Last time I checked, I was just having a baby.
1) "your just jealous 'cus my beer belly kicks back"
2) if you think i'm big now - wait till you see me after i've eaten!
3) yep, im loud, and proud and gettin' round. but growing a human will do that to you
4) not sure how many, the aliens didnt tell me that before they took off again.
5) at least i know WHEN i'll drop alot of the waight. sadly you dont.
6) pregnancy makes you glow, jealousy only turns you green.
:hug: dont worry about 'em. i was "huge" but never felt it. and i looked at it this way - they have all the more of me to admire ;)
i dont really have any comebacks i never had the guts to say anything!
But Kellie just wanted to say my daughters birthday is the same as your due date :D
I've been heading people off at the pass....mostly the 1st question I get is "how far along are you", to which I reply "I'm xyz weeks, but I'm HUGE", so that they don't get a chance to insult me first.
My mum is probably the worst culprit, and it's not helped by the fact that my sister is a week ahead, but barely even looks pregnant, so it's kind of like Mum thinks she's doing a "good" pregnancy, and I'm not. :doh: Mind you, she's a completely different body shape to me, taller, bigger boned, and a couple of sizes larger to start with...but I'm all tummy, and it's been out there very early this time around.
I wish I did have a good comeback though, I'm feeling yuck enough as it is, without having people kind of confirm it for me, even if they don't quite mean it as it comes out.
I love no 1 and no 2:clap:... excellent, will remember those for the next person!:
:rofl: I said that to my FIL when I was PG once.... haha he had noooo idea what to say back!!! he was teasing me about my belly! (he has a beer gut hehe):
Just say to them 'well bub is exactly just right for me!" and ignore their annoying comments... unfortunately when you are PG everyone seems to think they have a right to comment on your size but when you arn't preg its different ?!?
Maybe say to them "I'm not pregnant" with a blank stare.... see what they say hehe
I had the same thing! (although I secretly thought I was bigger too):
Funny thing DD1 was 2987g and DD2 was 2900g, and only 3 days between gestation.
Oh Kel, I feel for you, it is the only time that I did not like being pregnant, when people gave unwanted comments/advice.
Don't let them get to you just enjoy your lovely 'big' bump :bellyrubs:.
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Good one Dansta.:
I could never think of anything witty either. My SIL and a work mate, both of which were quite overweight themselves were the worst culprits. I used to either agree, because I did look huge and always measured ahead by a few weeks, OR say something like "gee thanks, every pg woman wants to be told that"
FWIW I loved being big, it showed my pg really early, made it obvious I was pg not just fat and I felt really proud of my big tum. Embrace it I reckon!
"I must have missed the memo saying it was now polite to comment on another persons size" I never said that though, just wished I could.
Look at your belly and sigh and say I know then look at them and ask when they are due LMAO!
I said to one man once "I'm just giving you a run for your money" - that was in a pub, with heaps of people listening in and he did have a belly to rival mine and I was over 30wks pg at the time! and boy did he feel embarrassed afterwards, he even apologised
and the other one Ive used is "I'm growing a human being, what's your superpower?"
I just took it as a sign that someone was complimenting my ability to grow a healthy baby. Most of the people I saw who said 'gee, you're big' meant 'big compared to the last time I saw you', which is fair enough really.
But for those who aren't very polite about, try:
To 'gee, you're big': 'gee, you're rude/annoying/obnoxious, but I don't feel the need to call your attention to it, do I?', or,
'sure there's only one bub in there': 'yep, I'm sure, because I'm clever and can count to one', or 'yep, but I needed somewhere to store the pram too, it won't fit in the car'
'wow, you're going to give birth to a toddler': 'actually, I've decided to keep him in here until he's eighteen and can legally kick him out onto the street. Much easier that way', or 'no, an elephant actually, didn't you read about it in the papers, it's the first ever cross species surrogacy. Pretty cool isn't it, what science can do these days'.
I remember a delivery guy asking how far along i was. I told him 30 weeks (or whatever it was) and he says "Woah, that's gonna be a big one!"
I was too shocked to ask when he trained as an OB.
(he was right, DS was big, but that's besides the point. I just had a really lovely placenta)
Whenever someone has commented on how big I am I usually just say "yep, i'm growing a big healthy one!" I think being "big" when your pregnant is good, it means everything is going well!
I really liked the reply Suse came up with too:
To 'gee, you're big': 'gee, you're rude/annoying/obnoxious, but I don't feel the need to call your attention to it, do I?'
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I would just look at them as though they had commented on my size regardless of being utd and look a bit self conscious and hurt and say oh....thats a bit rude..and I bet they would feel terrible lol..but I am a bit of a biatch.
I used to just say "thankyou. I'm feeling a bit heavy, would you mind ... (doing up my shoes, passing the salt, fetching me a drink, giving my back a massage)". They'd never comment again!
I had a guy comment once to me saying how big I was with DS, I replied "thanks, that extra weight suits you too". He was so flabbergasted he couldn't reply!
Thanks everyone!
I can't wait till someone makes one of these comments, and I can try some of these out!
Think I'm going to go with, 'yeah, I am feeling heavy, how about you make me a cup of tea' he he he
Of you could just say "What? I'm not pregnant" :rofl:
I did the 'what im not pregnant' one a few times early on and that soon shut people up ;)
Or id say ''yeah, thanks, shes gunna be so healthy!!''
Once i actually had a woman comment on what sex she thought it would be becasue my bum was fatter so it ment it was a boy/girl....WHAT THE HELL. how did she even know what size my bum was before i got pregnant!! I was SO amazed i couldnt even open my mouth...i think if id tried to have a comeback id have just ended up slapping her!!! (my bum did get a bit bigger...but still) :)
Sometimes i wandered if i was the first pregnant woman people had ever seen casue i wasnt 'really' that big and i got all the 'must be two in there' comments......Good luck and try to ignore the stupid people! hugs to you
aww Kel - i'm sorry you prolly got that comment from me, but only cuz i'm jealous cuz my bump isn't that big!!
I get the opposite, 'oh your not very big for x weeks'. Which is just as disheartening!! When i have the courage to reply i usually just say ' Well i do still have x months/weeks to go!!'.
how bout i trade you for a week :D
Hmm well I have had quite a few comments, BUT they are all from supportive people (mum, work colleagues, friends etc) so I know they aren't being critical - they are genuinely really surprised!!
But the crazy thing is (which I point out to them) is that I am *not* that big! I was measuring 19 weeks at 18 weeks, for example, when my MW measured.
Mum said last night (hadn't seen me for 2 weeks while on hols) WOW you look 9 months! I said 'no, I look 5 months. Becuase I am 5 months ;)'
I pointed out to her how big she was at 9 months with my sister - I said, 'you just forget how big it is in the end!' which she agreed with...
I find it SO annoying and rude also, although I seem to get an odd mixture of comments. I'll have some people say, "Oh, I didn't even realise you were pregnant, you're so small!" and then others say, "Wow, you've gotten so big!". Not sure which is worse. You'd think people would have the decency to just keep their ridiculous comments to themselves.
I always had the girls at work commenting on whether they thought I was big or small, but usually I didn't mind cos none of them had had kids and I think they were just genuinely fascinated at how it all worked.
But the other week DF dragged me (literally) in front of a webcam he was having with his parents (they live in the UK) because he wanted to show them my bump, they hadn't seen any pictures of it at that stage. I was pretty unwilling and a bit annoyed at him for forcing me, I had just gotten out of the shower, had a towel wrapped around my head and wasn't wearing a bra! I REALLY didn't want to face the in-laws, even over a webcam. But he was insistent, so I succumbed. He then got me to stand side-on and held the webcam close to my belly, so close that you couldn't really see my shape at all! MIL then started exclaiming at how big I was, and asking me if I was sure it wasn't twins. She was joking, of course, and I kind of laughed along and said, "No, I'm pretty sure they would have told us if it was twins by now!" It's so stupid because like I said, DF had held the camera too close to me, they couldn't really tell how big I was, and I know I'm not that big! I guess it's cos it was the first time they were seeing me pregnant, but still. I did feel slightly hurt by it, even though I'm pg, having someone comment on how huge you've gotten makes you feel pretty self-conscious. GRRRR.
I wish people would comment on how big I am, I'm so disappointed I don't have a "proper" bump yet...
At my antenatal class on Tuesday, there was only one other girl due before me, but I had the tiniest bump in the room! Before we introduced ourselves and said our due dates, etc., I was wondering if maybe I'd joined the class to early since everyone else looked so much further ahead of me :( I was so surprised to hear that one of them was due in June - she looked like she was almost ready to pop.
I know it depends on shape, movement, etc., but I'm so sad that people still can't tell I'm pregnant and not just fat. All the "bump" photos I have of myself were kinda helped along a little by me pushing my tummy out and taking the photos from certain angles. I just want a normal round bump, not to look like I've shoved a pillow up my shirt.
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I LOVE #6
I hope you ladies don't mind, but i am taking notes for when i get peg :lol:
I am only 5"4 (just with a pony tail lol) so i think i will look really funny with a full term bump :)
I have to say though, thanks to BB i know what topics/comments steer clear of when talking to my pg friends ;)
oh i think a good one when they say oh your huge is, well i only have x weeks to go, how about you? When are you due? And stare blankly at them. :lol:
Thats if you have the guts!
I was massive with both of my pregnancies and I was getting so annoyed with all the 'gee you're big comments' so I would say "i think I look pretty small considering I'm having triplets!!" I have also said "i'm not pregnant just have a beer belly" Both comments seemed to shut people up real quick. I loved messing with people. One lady (a stranger) hit me on a bad day and I actually told her to stop being so concerned with the size of my belly and do something about the size of your a$$ because it makes my belly look tiny!!
I read this article in Pregnancy & Birth mag yesterday its called 5 Ways to Respond to Stupid Comments, I thought id share it as its relevant to this post I found it really amusing as well ;)
People say the most ridiculous things to pregnant women. Be armed and ready with these clever comebacks.
"oh my your bump is so big/small"
You Say; "thats so funny because someone said the exact opposite to me yesterday. But as my doctor says anyone who thinks bump size is an indication of the size of my baby is clearly misguided. It's just like assuming a man who drives a big car has a big..."
"Well your definitely having a boy/girl"
You Say; "oh no here I was hoping it would be a suprise and now you've gone and ruined it! How did you know? I've been to the ultrasounds and couldnt see a thing - but somehow you can just look at my bump and know straight away. Your powers are amazing"
"Child Birth is the most painful thing that you will ever go through"
You Say; "Yes I figured that it was called labor and not rest and relaxation for good reason. personally I couldnt think of anything more painful then not having this baby, so I'm really looking forward to the birth and bring he/she into our lives."
"You can say Goodbye to your social life"
You Say; "Really? I was thinking id join a mothers group, go to playgroup, catch mums n bubs movies, see my stay - at - home mum mates, book babysitters for nights out, leave my partner to look after the baby while I catch up with friends..."
"A Baby means the end of your sex life"
You Say: "If we can still do it with the baby kicking me from the inside, I think we'll manage it in while he/she sleeps in the room next door. And really if having a baby meant no more sex, the world would consist of single child families. Im one of three kids, so my parents managed to do it at least twice after giving birth to me"
I had such a huge baby and I am less than 5 foot people couldn't help but comment. I looked like a might fall over at anytime. I used to proudly say "I make a good baby" or "What can I say? When I commit to something I give it my all." or for family members or work colleges who say "you are massive" I'd say "Yeah, you should probably be doing more for me now."
Wear your bump with pride, I choose to believe these comments are well meaning. ie you are such a good baby maker, your baby is so big and healthy! and if they didn't mean this I'll never know.
my MIL came to visit us (on my due date with ds) and before she even said hello, she said "geez you did get fat didn't you" I couldn't believe my ears and I just said, well thanks so much, just what I wanted to hear. I think she got the message after she heard the tone in my voice! Needless to say, I haven't been very fond of her since!
Im sick of my ILs saying how small my bump is!! DF is a 6ft big Samoan guy so his family expects us to make big babies.. DS was only 6pd 12 and I dont think this one will be much bigger.. My brothers build is so small he could of been a jockey lol so I think my kids have inherited my genes.