Friends stillbirth - debrief

Not really sure where to start, firstly I just want to thank you all for your support. My friend went into labour yesterday morning and birthed her little boy naturally which is what she wanted. Her husband was just so supportive and encouraging her the whole way, I know she will be ok. Her midwife was fabulous and knew her wishes, I couldn't praise her enough. From the time I arrived she birthed in 1 1/2 hrs, she had spent 4hrs at home in labour with her DH. Although it was very emotional there was such a peacefulness in the room, once bubs was born he was put on mums chest straight away and dad cut the cord. Not hearing your baby's cries is just heartbreaking. Seeing the emotional pain in my friends eyes was the hardest thing ever. I left soon afterwards as family were coming in to say their goodbyes.
When I saw her little angel, I say Emmanuel, there was such a resemblance I don't understand. He had exactly the same T13 features as Emmanuel and the very dark skin. For me initially I was finding it a bit upsetting but today I feel like it was my special little boy who was with me there yesterday who gave me the strength to go through it all over again and I just love him ever more for that.
Thanks for reading.

Regards,
Dianne

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You are so strong Dianne and such a great friend. :hug:

R.I.P little angel and may you give strength to your mummy and daddy who will love you forever.

What a strong woman you are being there for her and her husband. Emmanuel must be looking down smiling at such an awesome mother!

I have been following the other thread and just wanted to say you are the most amazing, strong & caring person to be able to provide the support you have, after everything you have been through :hug::hug:

RIP little angel

:hug: I'm sure your friend was feeling loved and supported having you there as she birthed her angel baby. Fly free, little man, with Emmanuel.

What is his name?

You are such a wonderful person Dianne ! :hug:

RIP little Angel Baby

xoxo

RIP sweet little angel boy fly free with your new little friend Emmanuel :angel::angel:
You are a pillar of strength Dianne :comfort:, to find the courage to be with this woman and her husaband and support them through a very difficult and emotional time, just don't forget about yourself :hug::hug:

How are you feeling today? :hug:
Take care xxoo

:hug: What a very special thing you have been able to do, you have such a big heart & such strength.
Take care of you :hug:

RIP little angel.

Bubs is yet to be named, they wanted to wait to see him before choosing his name. Feeling much better today thanks, I am so glad I was at the birth, for me personally it has been such a healing. I know now I have fulfilled a purpose that my Emmanuel has given me. I just feel so sad for mum and dad.
Fly free little man.

Regards,
Dianne

What an amazing lady your are and a wonderful supportive friend.

I think you did a wonderful thing, Dianne.

You are such a beautiful person Dianne.

Fly free little angel.

Hugs such a strong precious thing you have done my supporting them.

I am glad you have felt like it helped with your healing.

xoxo

Dianne, what a blessing you have given your friend by standing with her in her hour of need. I'm so glad you were able to feel your Emmanuel close to you, what a sacred, precious gift. :hug:

Dianne what a supportive friend you are :hug:

You're such a special person, Dianne. :hug:

Fly free precious boy.

Dianne, what a blessing you are. Such an amazing, beautiful, brave and strong woman... kudos to you for doing something that I'm not sure a lot of us here would have been able to do. Emmanuel chose you to be his mummy for a reason and I'm so glad he was watching over you and giving you the strength you needed. That's so beautiful that you felt him with you... I have chills.

I have been thinking of you ever since I read your first thread about receiving a call from the hospital, I think you're an unbelievable woman to have been able to cope, and I hope that you will lean on us if you need to as these things tend to take a while to sink in.

My thoughts are with the new mum and dad who unfortunately did not get their little one for keeps... I hope that they have lots of family and friends around them to give them the support they need.

xo

Dianne, I am amazed at your strength and your courage in a very difficult & emotional situation. I am very sad for Angel Bub's parents :hug: and relieved to know that your generous support has had a healing effect on your own journey with grief. Emmanuel is proud of his amazing mummy and surely watching over you xox :hug:

Dianne :hug:
You are an amazing and giving person. So nice to read this has had a positive effect on your healing for your darling Emmanuel.
My thoughts and prayers are with your friend and family.

RIP Little Angel xxxx

:hug: Dianne... I don't know what more to say, I'm just in awe of your compassion, your courage and your strength.
RIP little :angel: boy, may you watch over your family and Dianne may Emmanuel be watching you and guiding your path.

Diane,
You are a very strong woman, to support your friend like that, when going through such a personal time for your self as well, is just selfless. What a truely amazing friend you are... xoxoxo

Dianne what you have done for this couple is truly amazing. :hug: I have been following yourthreads and I really admire your compassion, love, empathy and heart. You are truly an angel on earth in so many ways. I am so glad that you felt closer to Emmanuel. I am sure he was right there by your side giving you strength. May the two precious angel babies be playing happily in the heavens above. :hug:

Dianne - you're an amazing person to be there for this family the way you have been in recent weeks. i'm so glad the you were there for them, and that you felt your little boy was there to support you and them through this

RIP little man - may the love your parents feel for you help you soar freely

Nothing I can say that hasn't been said by the PP but I agree wholeheartedly - what a blessing you are to that family.

I hope you are able to deal with your own emotions too, while supporting them.

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You are truely a wonderful woman Diane :hug:

RIP little angel :angel:

Many, many hugs to you and the beautiful family you attended to for that special, special moment :hug:

Dianne you are a strong, caring compassionate women. i'm glad that you have found healing in all of this, given support to the family the way you have. may the families angel fly free with your beautiful Emmanuel showing him the way, to both heaven and his mummies heart for always. :hug: :comfort:

Dianne, you are amazing. Sending love and prayers to your friend. RIP little one, Rach xx

What an amazing thing you have done, and im so glad that you feel it has helped you too! Now your beautiful Emmanuel has a special little friend to play with!!!
My thoughts are with the family, fly free little one! hugs to you

Dianne, I read this the other day, but didn't have time to reply. I just wanted to echo all the other posts in saying how strong you are, how lucky that family was to have you as support and how proud Emmanual would be of you. I am so glad you found the experience a healing one. My thoughts go out to this family at this sad time.

Dianne - thankyou for sharing such an beautiful but heartbreaking experience. I was honoured to read about your darling Emmanuel and your friends little bub. You have given your friend the most amazing and generous gift, and in return, without knowing it her family gave you one back. I hope that if I am ever in a similar situation I will have the strength and grace to give so willingly. Go gently.